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Topic: How to win back a cancer man?
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lian3688
Knowflake Posts: 8
From: Guangzhou, China
Registered: Jul 2009
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posted July 17, 2009 10:12 PM
 
I asked him to "release" me, him being nomadic couldn't provide me with the growth i needed. But then i really missed this sweet gentle soul.So i text messaged him telling him i wanted him back. No reply. Any advice on how to win him back?
How to read whether it is temporarily retreat or goodbye forever? IP: Logged |
Glaucus
Knowflake Posts: 775
From: Sacramento,California
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 17, 2009 10:28 PM
Why would you want him back when he's nomadic and that was something that factored into you wanting him to release you? I think maybe you shouldn't focus on the past because that could make you miss him. I think that it's better to focus on the present and be certain of what you really want in a relationship. also if he is moved on with somebody else, it will be difficult for you to get back together with him.
many people get out of relationships that they aren't happy in and end up regretting it even though know in their hearts that the relationships aren't right for them. That's because that they focus on how things used to be and how things could have been if they stayed together even though they could be focusing on things that can lead them into a much better relationship.
As for the Cancer thing, the Sunsign is only part of the chart. There are other factors in the chart. Obviously,he's not a typical Cancer if he's nomadic. Cancer is domestic,home oriented sign. There are things that could modify that like planets,angles in Sagittarius, Gemini,or Aquarius. Hard aspects to Uranus could be involved.
Raymond ------------------
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Lucia23
Knowflake Posts: 829
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 17, 2009 10:38 PM
Okay, a couple of notes--I know these are all after the fact, so they are more for other readers who can avoid doing this to a Cancer.1) Cancers can be tender emotionally--it's really crappy to play around with one by dumping him and then wanting him back. 2) Text messaging is WRONG for serious relationship discussions. In person only, please!
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Antiquarianbookcollector
Knowflake Posts: 95
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Registered: Jun 2009
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posted July 18, 2009 11:25 AM
First, I think you should analyze the situation. Do you want to win him back because he's good for you? I am slightly concerned about this: "him being nomadic couldn't provide me with the growth i needed." It's foreboding. Just be careful - you don't want to get hurt.Generally, it would be hard to win back a cancer man. The fact that you "released" him might make it hard for you to get him back. These men can take things rather literally. IP: Logged |
lian3688
Knowflake Posts: 8
From: Guangzhou, China
Registered: Jul 2009
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posted July 18, 2009 12:42 PM
Raymond, thank you for asking! Excellent questions as I need to write those points down and then I can see and weigh their importance!Was something that factored into you wanting him to release you?
1. Him being nomadic we can¡¯t be together now (He has been trying, but don¡¯t know when he will find a good job in my city with this economy)
2. Him still responsible for his daughter¡¯s education in UK for another 2 years (He is earning Chinese RMB, mind you. All salary goes there)
3. Communication problem (He said, no phone calls because of roaming fee. Phone call here is expensive compared to US. Text-messages came every day ¨C he msg-ed me in my busy working hours, in the evening, I am free but he is very often busy with business dinners. Internet chat: rare. We meet like once every 2 weeks; Ours is love at first sight (second, exactly) and is like Barbara Cartland¡¯s )
4. We are opposite attracts type ¨C with very high risk of love-hate feelings. (How understanding can I be of our differences? How understanding can he be? We still need to wait because of no 1.)
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lian3688
Knowflake Posts: 8
From: Guangzhou, China
Registered: Jul 2009
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posted July 18, 2009 12:58 PM
Why would you want him back when he's nomadic
1. We speak the same language of love ¨C we both love and need to touch.
2. His beautiful soul and good character and personality (with good look bonus)
3. When with him, I feel I am totally loved. Cancer being a sensitive soul and an atuned lover.
4. Being a rather masculine cappy, with him I turned soft. He triggers my feminine side. Holding him or being held and I feel peace. Hugging him or being hugged and I feel forever.
5. Me thinking: let¡¯s just enjoy and be grateful for his love. When one is alone, one is longing for love. When the love has come, why can¡¯t I focus on his love and enjoy every moment of my life now instead of feeling deprived because of his lacks? Be grateful and all good things will come. (There is the danger of fooling myself here. But again, we are all the creator of our world, right?)
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good girl
Knowflake Posts: 106
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 18, 2009 02:57 PM
*raises hand* oooh! I know the answer to this one.HOW TO MANIPULATE A CANCER! *grin* First of all Cancers don't let go, they cling, remember. So while you've let go, and you think he's let go...chances are inside your still bound and wrapped in place. (doesn't mean he's happy about it though). The next part of the answer is to simply wiggle back into his life. If you are in a cancer's life they simply begin to think of you as theirs. So start by being there or being in touch OFTEN. Even if at first he seems put off, get in his life....play it cool if you have to... And if he's a bit cool and reserved (well, he IS a cancer and he WILL keep himself protected by a seemingly unpenatrable shell)
TEND TO HIS FEELINGS, PAMPER AND CODDLE THEM. (he needs to feel you are safe and wont hurt him) IP: Logged |
lian3688
Knowflake Posts: 8
From: Guangzhou, China
Registered: Jul 2009
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posted July 19, 2009 07:26 AM
Antiquarian£º
His love heals a part of me. I asked him to ¡°release¡± me because there was another guy. He could help me with my growth but I couldn¡¯t get close with him. Not enough attraction and I have my Cancer in my heart.
Is it best to come back with this Cancer? Start with another guy? Any psychic input will be appreciated guys IP: Logged |
meta_4
Knowflake Posts: 262
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 19, 2009 02:33 PM
Could you post his chart? That would give us more information. My answer would be considerably more accurate.IP: Logged |
lian3688
Knowflake Posts: 8
From: Guangzhou, China
Registered: Jul 2009
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posted July 19, 2009 06:51 PM
Me - sun/capri, moon/scorp, mercury/sag, venus/sag, mars/scorp, jupiter/capri, saturn/gemini, uranus/libra, neptune/ sag, pluto/libra, asc/cancer, mc/aries, 2nd cusp/leo, 3rd/virgo, 5th/scorp,6th/sag Him - sun/cancer, moon/ aqua, mercury/ cancer, venus/taurus, mars/virgo, jupiter/aqua, saturn/capri, uranus/leo, neptune/scorpio, pluto/virgo, asc/ sag, mc/virgo, 2nd cusp/ capri, 3rd/ aqua, 5th/aries, 6th/taurus
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