posted August 06, 2009 05:28 AM
I personally think that before doing any synastry, the two individuals should be analysed first not only for each of them to be aware of themselves, their other half but also aware of what they are bringing into the relationship.Sometimes relatiosnhips are more about timing athn having all the pices of the two respective people "fit".
Relationships allow us to develope ourseLves and deal with issues we have with intimacy,abandonment and others. When the two people are ready to deal with these openly, the realtionship becomes "compatible".
If the two parties are still clinging on to their own issues, they become "incompatible" because the other party "hurts" the part of them that they haven't dealt with.
Him
His sun forms a trine with Uranus and a wide conjuction with the North node.
This means that he is optimistic about the way his life is progressing(North node)and can express his ideas in an engaging manner(Uranus).
His moon forms a sextile with mercury and Jupiter whilst also conjunct his venus.
These planets are not known for their depth of feeling and thats suggets an intellectual approach to feelings.
He often asseses his feelings with how he "ought" to feel rather than what he "feels".
His venus trines mars and neptune,sextiles his jupiter and opposes pluto.
The Pluto/Neptune contacts add spice and a certain degree of depth to his affection. There is a desire to "merge" with his partner through expressive affection(neptune).
The interesting Pluto opposition with his venus indicates someone who may downplay his vulnerabilities and intensity of feelings when it comes to being with someone.
He may avoid relationships that will let his inner insecurities/dependecy issues surface because he fears being abandoned. Ironically it is through this suppression of more intense feelings that his relationships may fail.
Other people may see him as too immature to make a commitment with as he comes across so "status-quo" in his approach to intimacy when relating to someone.(venus opposes pluto).
You
Funny, you allso have a conjuction with Uranus and a wide square with your North node.
The North node may indicate a general disatisfaction with where your life is going; you may want to make changes in your lifes' direction but it seems it's never the right "time" or there are just too many obstacles that you may need to overcome.
Your moon also makes a nice aspect with mercury. You also find it easy to express how you feel.
Your venus sextiles mars,sextiles neptune, makes a wide sextile to north node and a conjunction to Pluto.
You are optimistic about love(north node), even idealistic(neptune). You find it easy to show your affections openly(mars).
The venus-pluto conjuction is lovely; you are not afriad of getting "down" and dirty in relationships.
You are able to connect intensely with your partners in a way that does away with the "niceties" that conventional relationships have.
Synastry
His moon,venus opposes your Sun whilst his Jupiter and mercury trines it.
Since moon and Venus are more "personal" than mercury and Jupiter, I'll assume that these aspects will show themselves more(especially since it is an opposition).
The close oppotion of his moon to your Sun can make him care very much for you, but it is probable that he may express his feelings to you in a way that seems to contradict how he actually feels.
He may not think it easy to be "mushy" with you and whats worse, is that he expresses the opposite of how he feels openly(the contact with your Sun).
The wide opposition with his venus simply adds to what has been said above; he may not be able to give you hugs and kisses or express physical affection to you. Infact he may seem aloof and unwelcoming at times. He is also likely to do this openly(the contact with your Sun).
Your moon,mercury aspects contact his venus-pluto opposition.
You may bring out the deep inner tension that he feels about relating to other people.Whats worse, is that you have Mercury to analyze and break it all down with words.
At times he may appreciate your insight(mercury conjuct Pluto) and at other times he may wish that you were less impassive/detached about his relationship with you(mercury opposes venus).
His Sun and North node conjuction crosses your Venus-pluto conjuction with a strong opposition.
You may find it difficult to contain your affections when with him but at the same time perplexed on how to express them openly.
Because his Sun opposes both your venus and Pluto, it is not easy to express affection nor deep feelings that you have for him.
Even if you care for him deeply, you may find that you express the opposite of how you feel.
Summary
You two are very expressive when it comes to feelings and can articulate yourselves very well. Intellctualy, you may deeply connect but love is not in the saying but the doing.
With oppositions of the venus(affection) in both your synastry aspects, don't assume that the other party "knows" how you realy feel.
Even when you find it difficult to be openly loving with each other or even do the loving things that people who care about each other do,make it a point that atleast once in a while you dedicate time to affectionately show to each other how you feel.
This may not happen on an every day basis as the idea will simply overwhelm te both of you...
Good Luck!
Lindaland
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posted August 06, 2009 02:44 AM
posted August 06, 2009 05:28 AM
I don't have neptune afflicted in my natal chart and was easily able to see what happened ... and as we had strong saturn synastry going on I was willing to work on things (it wasnt really that bad, compared to what I have experienced in the past! Just minor communication problems which piled up and turned out to be our undoing) ... however my ex had neptune severely afflicted in his chart and couldn't take the reality of it at all/had illusions as to what happened (I think he fell harder) - just goes to show that you need to know each individual chart and how they relate to each other in relationships first. 
hth some!