posted August 07, 2009 04:17 PM         

man's mars is square woman's venus exactly.

would you say that in this scenario man would be most turned on by woman's assertiveness and possibly feel thwarted, frustrated or shy with his own, and that thusly the woman should be the more assertive party?

posted August 07, 2009 04:36 PM         

woman's mars aquarius (2nd), man's venus libra (1st, conj AC).

posted August 07, 2009 04:44 PM         

Anyway way, I guess it's good if it's the man's Mars doing the squaring, because maybe it would feel weird for him or something if it was his Venus being squared by her Mars.

posted August 07, 2009 04:54 PM         

ever.

the only prob is we get in this silly worry-bubble together where we both wonder if the other is into it, initially. which is odd and unnecessary cuz we both are. it seems to work out best when i stop worrying and become assertive, but it seems really difficult for him to initiate (and he immediately worries as soon as he starts that i'm not into it). so i was wondering based on our placements if that's maybe the way to go! i'm thinking his mars and virgo being the signs in question that he needs to relate (libra) to my instincts, and his virgo mars being in 12th probably feels shy or reserved in general. though he does have an aries moon (in the 7th) and DOES have moments of pure and delicious assertion! but then he just gets shy again.. until he knows i'm definitely into it. but that's usually when *i* take the initiative.

so i guess i'm just wondering if i should just pump up my mars and try to recieve (venus) his shy assertions (virgo) with enthusaism (sag) as well. hmm..

posted August 07, 2009 04:57 PM         

it does seem to be primal, yet shy at the same time. maybe being in virgo, it's prone to worry or feel it is not meeting my expectations or something. cuz when he's into it and confident and courageous, YOW!!

posted August 07, 2009 05:13 PM         

his mars is actually really well aspected other than a square to his neptune. but i've heard the closer it is to the AC in the 12th, the more repressed the mars-drive is. i think it can also be likened to mars in pisces, so i wouldn't worry too much about you're guy becoming shy; i think it's just extremely intuitive and altruistic. with his moon in aries, i would especially not worry! plus his mars in taurus would just be extremely sensual, but maybe with a touch more receptivity than gusto, you know? sounds like a nice balance actually

okay you have me convinced that i am to be the initiating party! he's verrrry into it when i am, and it boosts his confidence. after that intital hump of confusion, our styles are perfectly synched and assertiveness and receptivity just flows and we are on the exact same page.

i guess i keep forgetting that a man's moon sign isn't necessarily how he is but what he wants in a woman. cool.

thanks for your help!

posted August 07, 2009 06:47 PM         

actually, talking to you about this gave me a great revelation; he needs to relate to the extent of knowing forsure i'm into it, every single time, which actually is very ENCOURAGING for me (since my 1st venus makes me the same, but not to the degree that he is), and thus when i'm more confident and assertive, i give him the courage to express his aries moon, which is generally somewhat muted due to 7th house influence. and his courage reignites mine, etc etc etc. and thus we bypass the weird worry bubble altogether. definitely win/win.