posted August 10, 2009 08:34 PM         

and the rest in no particular order intelligent, well-rounded person. carry a good conversation
can you let me be a woman, i dont like having to take on masculine tendencies, especially when i have a man.
you do not have to have movie star looks, but someone i can take in public and not be ashamed of. respectable looking.
a music lover. but not a deal breaker.
down home folksy kind of guy who loves family
i cant deal with a cheater. been there already.
dont be critical of my bc i am sensitive.
has to believe in a higher power. i cant be with you if you have no one to thank for your blessings. how sad. we would not be compatible.

posted August 10, 2009 10:18 PM         

Look at a female's Sun & Mars (sometimes Saturn) plus Aspects.

posted August 10, 2009 10:27 PM         

Pisces / Taurus / Virgo ...not necessarily in that order. The book that is.

posted August 10, 2009 11:03 PM         

Muahaaahahhahah!

Seriously though, women that have bedroom trash mouths like Jeanna Fine (don't ask lolololol) are a BIG PLUS LOLOLLOLOLOLOL!

posted August 11, 2009 01:43 AM         

In a purely physical sense: intensity! Dosen't matter what emotion, as long as it's intense! Oh, and red hair.

posted August 11, 2009 03:13 AM         

Also, considering the venus and moon for a woman, might be a bigger clue because it would show how she expresses "femininity" and a partner would have to compliment that to be satisfying I think. Same with a man and mars/sun.

Anyway, Asc Gem, Sun Cancer, Moon Capricorn. That "it" thing that nove was talking about. I am attracted to outgoing men (that can bring me outta my shell oh ho) and also older men. Also guys with a peculiar way about them. Some odd quirk in the personality that doesn't quite fit. Then I like to puzzle it out and get into trouble when I upturn secrets. lol It's happened three times at least.

Also, a man's voice can be a big turn on, the way they talk (not like Antonio Banderas that is just too obvious!). Maybe that's the Gem/Merc influence.

posted August 11, 2009 03:31 AM         

Taurus Sun / Rising Aquarius / Moon Libra

*Writes love letters, is romantic or at least express their deep emotions in through action not just words (that hasn't been for years now weeeooo)
*Passionate
*Dependable and can be there for me, as I am for them
*Accepts my quirkiness - I have a bit of a warped sense of humour and am very quirky .. most people I have gotten close to love this about me luckily... I couldn't stand to be with someone who is always trying to control my expression/quirkiness ..
*Someone I can laugh with a lot.. even during 'special moments' in between the passion
*Shows commitment (especially regarding family things)
*Someone who can converse with me about, or at least is open to - philosophical, spiritual ideas, astrology etc. - not sure if that is a turn on as I like to be able to discuss this stuff with friends/family too
*Someone who has zest for life and is positive and willing to give anything a try, and takes risks - even if they have had a bad experience before (fell off bike, just get up and get right back on it!) - I am talking more about life experience here than anything materialistic/money wise, as I probably need someone who is grounded regarding money and (slightly) frugal to temper down my spending/financial risk taking (not Taurean like at all!)
*Someone who takes care of me, and lets me take care of them. Thoughtful. (Vesta in Cancer)
*Someone who doesn't play mind games/power trips
*I really really dislike secretiveness, and am turned on by open honesty.

posted August 11, 2009 07:38 AM         

Yeah I agree that secretiveness can be a bad thing. Honesty is very attractive because that is also a sign of being comfortable with who you are.

posted August 11, 2009 08:01 AM         

I see what you mean!! Yes, if they had secrets and the told me... absolutely. Being trusted with someone's secret.. is really something that shouldn't be taken for granted! And developing a relationship/friendship to that stage where they can trust you .. that's awesome.

I think(!) I am referring to someone who is mysterious and is not upfront with how they are feeling, and hides stuff even well into the relationship.. or even leads a second life (online for example) .. or won't introduce you to their friends, or only a few select people. I am just not like that. I welcome my SO into my life with open arms and want everyone to be friends!! lol

*ETA: Edited to correct what I wrote.

posted August 11, 2009 03:49 PM         

Capricorn Sun
Virgo Moon
Gemini Rising

• Sense of humor. Wit.
  
• Honesty. If a climate of comfortable honesty is fostered, it's the best.
  
• Thick skin. I want a person to be sensitive to me and others, but I don't like them so sensitive that they imagine slights when none were intended.
  
• Mercurial. Definitely need someone that can show me that they do indeed think.
  
• Moxy. I like a person that can be edgy sometimes. Not all the time. Just sometimes...when it's impressive to be so.
  
• Forgiving/Tolerant/Mature
  

posted August 11, 2009 06:58 PM         

Sun/sag
asc/aries
moon/libra

posted August 12, 2009 10:13 AM         

Generally i like guys with tattoos who skateboard or are in a band lol. I like guys who are ambitious but at this point in my life its not a deal breaker if theyre not. They have to have some sort of hobby. They also have to be male model good looking. Also charming and kind of social butterflies lol. I like status in the community. They have to be smart and witty and shouldnt take themselves too seriously. Also im really attracted to guys who have special "quirks" if you will. The love of my life has aspergers.

posted August 12, 2009 08:13 PM         

Super smart is the most important thing - I mean brilliant bordering on genius but not walking around with a 3 pc. suit and pipe acting like a hoity-toity intellectual, real geniuses aren't like that anyway. Plus there are different types of genius – creative, intellectual – you get my drift…

Well educated, great sense of humor and irony, creative, confident and passionate, talkative, fun, socially conscious, adventurous and a little bit of an edge - just meaning not what you'd expect by looking at him...

ETA: Physically – tall, green or hazel eyes, nice lips, scruffy beard (a guy who can never get the 'perfect', clean shave), slightly imperfect (skinny, large nose, glasses, a little crookedness in teeth, balding, cowlick - one or more of those things). No Ken dolls with genitals for me! I hate to quote "Sex and the City" but:

"Men who are too good looking are never good in bed because they never had to be."

quote:

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Forgiving/Tolerant/Mature

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Ahh yes, maturity, something that is usually overlooked when discussing traits of potential partners. Emotional maturity is so important...Leave it to a Capricorn to remember!

posted August 12, 2009 10:54 PM         

PLEASE LET IT BE KNOWN THAT WHAT IM ATTRACTED TO AND WHAT ACTUALLY WORKS FOR ME ARE VERY, VERY DIFFERENT THINGS (0 orb Venus in Pisces sq Asc here, folks)

Physically: Are you a gentleman who kind of looks like a lady? Are you a lady who kind of looks like a gentleman? Did you put that shirt on after pulling it out from the bottom of your hamper and sniffing it? Have you been wearing the same sneakers since you were 17, periodically mending them with duct tape? Do you have a tattoo? Is it of your cat, with wings? SCHWING.

posted August 12, 2009 11:18 PM         

Smart, witty, funny, laughs with me not at me (though that's okay too sometimes hehe), Someone who is mature - can be responsible when need be, but is also a risk-taker and willing to give anything a go, go on wild wacky adventures with me I can't stand obnoxiousness/rowdiness. Arrogance gets my goat too. So do people who constantly talk about themselves, but won't listen when you talk about something DIFFERENT for a change. Eccentric works with me.

Physially - tall, dark handsome lol .. Someone who can wrap his arms around me and make me feel safe! Deep soulful eyes. Great smile. Sounds so cliche doesnt it? lol.. Honestly, I dont pay much attention to looks in the end. A lot of my boyfriends I haven't really been attracted to at first (though a few I have been) Usually the guys who make me pant I am too scared to approach (!!), are not attracted to me, or they have bad personalities. I'd rather an average looking guy and a great personality thanks but who I am attracted to.. well anyone who makes that eye flash with me works ... but let's just say I have Mars in Scorpio... mmm and anyone who is with me has to be passionate If you also make romantic gestures, then I'm even more easily swooned (thanks to taurus sun/venus, libra moon lol).. I tend to end up with ppl who love cooking as much as I do, my last two BFs have coincidentally been chef-trained. So there must be this subconcious food thing going on too lol