posted August 16, 2009 08:13 AM         

I've been reading this site lately, and there are so many knowledgable people...I used to be a member a while ago and now am back to astrology.

I've recently had a situation of frustration involving someone whose genuine interest I was never sure of (one day, he was asking me to talk to him, giving me compliments, and another day, he'd talk to everyone under the sky but me, he'd stare, but not talk, the list goes on....so after two month's of "what's going on?", I said forget it, earlier last week.)

On the flip side, my friends and I have been getting closer...and I've realized that the friends I've had, have been around for half of my 25 years on earth. I do well in friendships, my friends are like family.

"Relationships" with guys haven't gotten off the ground...repeatedly. There's always some level of attraction, but nothing concrete has come of one yet.

So I've been wondering if there is something in my chart that would explain having long lasting friendships and next to zero relationship experience on the other hand...

Any insight would be appreciated!

***Tried to post chart and it didn't work...so here are aspects from Astro.com***

Planetary positionsplanet sign degree motion
Sun Capricorn 22°48'38 in house 8 direct
Moon Taurus 20°38'15 in house 12 direct
Mercury Capricorn 0°54'37 in house 7 direct
Venus Sagittarius 15°24'02 in house 6 direct
Mars Scorpio 1°22'27 in house 5 direct
Jupiter Sagittarius 28°44'49 in house 7 direct
Saturn Scorpio 14°55'04 end of house 5 direct
Uranus Sagittarius 11°49'11 in house 6 direct
Neptune Sagittarius 29°48'53 in house 7 direct
Pluto Scorpio 1°59'56 in house 5 direct
True Node Gemini 15°21'15 in house 12 direct
Planets at the end of a house are interpreted in the next house.

House positions (Placidus)Ascendant Gemini 26°31'22
2nd House Cancer 16°15'48
3rd House Leo 6°23'12
Imum Coeli Virgo 0°39'49
5th House Libra 3°25'24
6th House Scorpio 15°47'40
Descendant Sagittarius 26°31'22
8th House Capricorn 16°15'48
9th House Aquarius 6°23'12
Medium Coeli Pisces 0°39'49
11th House Aries 3°25'24
12th House Taurus 15°47'40

Major aspectsSun Trine Moon 2°10
Sun Sextile Saturn 7°54
Moon Opposition Saturn 5°43
Mercury Sextile Mars 0°28
Mercury Conjunction Jupiter 2°10
Mercury Conjunction Neptune 1°06
Mercury Sextile Pluto 1°05
Mercury Opposition Ascendant 4°23
Venus Conjunction Uranus 3°35
Mars Sextile Jupiter 2°38
Mars Sextile Neptune 1°34
Mars Conjunction Pluto 0°37
Mars Trine Ascendant 4°51
Jupiter Conjunction Neptune 1°04
Jupiter Sextile Pluto 3°15
Jupiter Opposition Ascendant 2°13
Neptune Sextile Pluto 2°11
Neptune Opposition Ascendant 3°18
Pluto Trine Ascendant 5°29

posted August 16, 2009 09:55 AM         

I am curious about this too, as my best friend is 25 and has never been in a relationship either, but has long friendships too. She is a Cancer sun Capricorn moon with a Sagittarius ASC.

She has:
Sun opposition Moon (2)
Mercury square Saturn (2)
Mercury square Mars (4)
Venus square Pluto (0.5)
Uranus conjunct ASC (exact)
Uranus conjunct Eros (exact)
Uranus/ASC/Eros trine Mercury (1)
Pluto sextile Neptune (exact)

I think she doesn't let her defenses down to be vulnerable to love/hurt. She is a Cancer with a Cappy moon and has abandonment issues from childhood. She has a really lovely sweet personality but can get very defensive and jump to conclusions. She is really intelligent and also very opinionated. I have seen her flirt with other guys and she is nothing but sweet with them though. So I'm not sure what it is.

((HUGS)) sweetlove..
I do wonder if there are any astrological pointers to this. The moon opposition sun or in your case moon op. saturn is a bit of a hard one I think.

ETA: It's interesting to note that your suns are opposing, and so are your ASC/DC!

posted August 16, 2009 04:44 PM         

Thanks MsCandeh for your reply...that is really interesting info about your friend and how our charts are kind of in reverse.

I added Eros and Psyche in my chart, just to see...

Eros is in scorpio (5th house) not surprised....and is conjunct saturn....I guess I'm really serious about relationships.

posted August 16, 2009 05:11 PM         

What's interesting though is that my friend is exactly 6 months younger than you (13 July 84) ... your moons trine each others (23 cap) and her moon cj your sun. Her sun is opposed yours (21 can). (Funnily enough your moon cj my Sun at 22Tau lol)

But anyway this isn't really helping! hehe

It would be interesting to get some insights from others.

Your moon is in your 12th house, perhaps you keep your emotions hidden? (And this also opposing Saturn) ... there's a website that I find really helpful with interpretations of the natal chart: http://www.astrologyweekly.com/astrological-aspects/saturn-opposition-moon.php and provides good advice. Saturn opp Moon suggests that you reserve your feelings, and don't readily express yourself. Also, having your moon in the 12th house will magnify this.
"A balanced approach to fulfilling responsibilities in a more relaxed, emotionally responsive manner is required; and much depends on transforming attitudes and feelings. If this is achieved, limitations will progressively dissolve as emotional stress is released, and a new feeling of liberation grows. With emotional freedom comes the dismantling of those inner barriers which have prohibited creativity and imagination; and taking these steps may reveal previously unexplored and unrecognized talents and abilities."

I love the advice this site gives with aspects!

I hope that's helped some

ETA: Eros conjunct Saturn suggests you are reluctant to let your guard down.

Obviously I'm not sure what you are like IRL! but going on the aspects... maybe you need to focus on letting your guard down and turning your loving energies outwards so that you can attract someone special into your life? ...Instead of keeping everything bottled up. XP

posted August 16, 2009 05:18 PM         

You've got Jupiter conjunct the Descendant and your Venus is Sagittarius, its also opposite your Ascendant in Gemini which might explain that you like lighthearted friendships rather than serious commitments, even though your Sun Cappy in the 8th might say otherwise.

What I believe might be the challenge in your natal chart is Moon opposite Saturn. Saturn is in the fifth house of romance and pleasure and opposite your moon in the 12th house. Saturn can represent men along with the Sun and Mars. So, I always look to these planets in natal charts of females because it can reflect challenges with the opposite sex. Your Moon represents the feminine and it is being challenged by restrictive Saturn in the house of romance so I speculate that maybe you want a stable relationship that is Saturnian and spontaneous at the same time since you've got Sagittarius Venus.

I also think that with your Gemini and Sagittarius vibes, this seems to influence males relationships in a more platonic way.

posted August 16, 2009 10:44 PM         

That sounds like your Venus/Uranus conjunct in Sagittarius talking! I have the Venus/Uranus conjunct as well, but in Scorpio. My relationships, whether serious or not, always start and end abruptly, usually from friendships or they end as friendships; they are usually very intense no matter what due to the Scorpio influence.

posted August 17, 2009 07:36 PM         

I just see it from another side. Only one another side.

posted August 17, 2009 10:12 PM         

So much to think about! I am going to give a detailed reply tomorrow.

posted August 18, 2009 03:38 AM         

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posted August 19, 2009 04:31 PM         

No, what you said was not taken in a bad way! I was just refering to what my friend said to me a few days ago.

MsCandeh-
I definately feel that it is that Moon/Saturn and eros conjunct Saturn...
that has a lot to do with it. Especially because my moon is also in the 12th house, which means that the defenses I put up are "instinctive" to me.

I've done some meditating these last few days and I've come to realize that I need to relax and just trust people more. I think that even though I've wanted to experience relationships before, I still had my guard up! I was sending all this conflicted energy out into the universe; and the universe gave me back "conflicting" situations.

So, my goal is open my heart and be open to the possibility of light coming into my life

Whew, that was deep!

Vertiver-
My chart has some definate opposing ideas of it's own-Gemini rising with a capricorn 8th house sun? Haha.Yes, I do like communicating with others (Sag/Gem), but I want intensity-I am wondering who I will meet that will compliment these qualities!
If a planet is conjunct your descendant-is it also conjunct your ascendant?? Does that planet have more a major role in your personality?

posted August 19, 2009 05:05 PM         

The Moon square saturnus or moon opposite saturn in natal are one of the best driving force aspect you can get in a chart.

One more powerful and successful aspect you got to search for.

Sometimes the aspect can give you an more deeply and depressing character but so what. You livs and develops.

posted August 19, 2009 05:19 PM         

You are not going to be alone forever! :-)

I think that you have more power of this situation than you think (Mars in the 1st house is very strong! Think of what you could do with all that spunk and originality!)

I feel that people can definately sense reserve and acknowledge a guard-which has been SO true for me. I hadn't realized until recently. So I totally understand where you are coming from.

It is good that you can realize what is going on...a lot of patterns occur in life and people never stop to see that they exist. It is better to know the "why" of something, than go around asking "why?" because then you can fix the situation.