posted September 19, 2009 10:34 PM         

I have Pisces on the 5th. I like it when a man is sweet with me. It's the Pisces ambience that most triggers my romantic side. I'm talking pre-relationship, though. Once in a relationship, I'm more versatile.

For example, back when I was in high school I was on a bus returning from a field trip. It was late at night and I had fallen asleep. When I woke up, I saw that I had been sleeping with my head on the shoulder of the boy next to me. A boy I didn't even know. I was still about 90% asleep, and I said, "Sorry." And he softly said, "It's ok." It was the combination of his tone, and me being so sleepy, and he smelled good, and he reminded me of my ex, and I'd had a hard year with a broken relationship and friends' deaths, and I hadn't felt anything really beautiful and sweet touching my heart for a long time...and in that moment, I felt so cozy and cared for by this guy... that I got turned on and started kissing him. And we ended up having a nice, sweet slow make out session during the rest of the ride. With a guy whose name I didn't even know! Not like me, but my 5th house Pisces was happy.

I've always needed that moment with a guy - where the tone between us would feel sweet & loving - before I'd be turned on, or even recognize him as being attracted. I've been oblivious to interest when it's been expressed in a non-Pisces way.

posted September 19, 2009 11:07 PM         

Yes, my Sun is in your 4th. Your Sun is in my 12th, I think. So watery, we are. And so like Yoda, I speak. Is your Moon before or after 9 Pisces? Because if it's after, I can't promise a sex change or commitment, but I'm all for a Greyhound trip, with you as my seat neighbor.

posted September 19, 2009 11:14 PM         

Well, I'm ashamed to say that the incident included the good side of Pisces (sweetness), and also the bad (deception). I gave him a fake phone number. I used to do that a lot. I didn't know how to explain how weirdly particular I was about relationships, so I found it easier just to give a fake number.

I finally stopped doing that when a guy I had just given a fake number to overheard my friend asking me if the number I'd given him was real. I laughed and said, "Of course not!" The laugh was at myself for being so nutty and my friend for knowing me so well. I didn't know the guy was still around, but he was, and I saw him walk past with a hurt face and I felt like 31 Flavors of Trash and finally stopped doing that.

posted September 19, 2009 11:29 PM         

Let's see, my 5th cusp is Leo (my sun's there too).
I don't even know how to describe this. There's a weird innocence to most of the men I become attracted to... they're optimistic and sweet, and child-like.
If I see that optimism and innocence, I start to ego-stroke like crazy, because I love seeing him smile.
I don't know if that even makes any sense.

posted September 19, 2009 11:34 PM         

Romance and relationships have to be natural, exciting, intellectually stimulating FOR ME TOO, and the union must go hand in hand with serving a higher purpose for the benefit of humanity through intellectual, creative and artistic contribution. There's nothing that turns me off like being in a relationship with someone who doesn't care about the welfare of humanity's consciousness. Basically, if a guy says "I want to open people's mind's [by words and/or actions] I literally gush, melt and want to get closer.

For example: In my previous relationships, the guys never cared for humanity's liberation of self. Those that did something wanted to make people rich, or themselves rich through making other people rich (materially). That turns me off. I am turned on by someone that enriches people's souls and minds. I have never dated a guy who has service to humanity as part of their personality and that's probably why it has never lasted.

I require my unions to be a Bonny and Clyde team of we against the world by contributing art to the world, art through music, painting/drawing and the written word because such a union requires original thinking, revolutionary attitudes and challenging social norms. Avant Garde!!! Otherwise, I lose interest very quickly because to me, only a life like the one I described is worth living. Anything else bores me, and I get bored easily so there's nothing more exciting than a pair of taciturn artists/writes/painters/poets who live their lives through inspiration and service to humanity.

posted September 19, 2009 11:39 PM         

Thank you, I feel a little less bad now. I hold grudges against myself for too long, it's psychotic.
Gemini on the 5th, you must need some witty banter. That's pretty hot! I love that too. A quick mind, ideas being thrown back and forth, the tempo getting faster and faster until there's an explosion...of laughter.

MVM -

posted September 20, 2009 01:37 AM         

In romance, I love intellectual stimulation, wit, banter, travel, adventure, and BUILD UP. I like a lot of challenging, intense, emotional foreplay. The men I mutually just really love and like and want have all had this almost impossible, paradoxical combination of passionate intensity with frustrating cool aloofness with a secret, totally unexpected, sweet and puppyish side. It is the surprise of their puppy-ness hidden under all that mastery that makes me fall in love.

I like to be impressed by my guy. I'm a Leo, so I have trouble relating to anything less than epic passion. I like to be excited. (And, I am really faithful...my last relationship was faithful on both ends and lasted almost 15 years...) I cannot relate at all to people who think it's a GOOD idea to "settle" for anything less ecstacy in work or love--I do not see the point of f--king a nice, pleasant man who you don't find quite as sexy as your favorite movie star, or settling for a daily job that pays the bills that doesn't thrill and inspire you. I feel like you only live once, and you could get hit by a bus tomorrow, and sleepwalking through work and love is a bad idea. Society tries to sucker people into "settling" because there are just too many of us.

I like lots of conversation, good food, and sex. All my guys have been really up for fun...if I suggest something ("Hey, let's go check out this new, weird band." "You should read this lesbian poet." "Let's drop everything and move to Italy tomorrow with backpacks and no money!") They're all, "Great idea!!" They need to believe in good luck and a benevolent universe. The idea that daily life can be great and not mundane.

posted September 20, 2009 01:46 AM         

We talk politics, and architecture, and, for some reason.... city planning
I don't know how we keep going back to this subject again and again, but it's like we don't shut up about it. And half the time he looks like he's melting when we talk, so it's really amusing.

posted September 20, 2009 02:08 AM         

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for some reason.... city planning

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What do you mean, "for some reason"? You are dating an Aquarius!

posted September 20, 2009 07:26 AM         

A little heart there, for the theme. But Aries rules my 5th house. I can get impatient, unsubtle and demanding in this area of life.

Ruler Mars is in the 3rd house, Square Venus/Mercury, rulers of the 7th and 8th. It doesn't take much for my hubby to make me feel in the mood for romance. I expect him to jump to it.

posted September 20, 2009 12:54 PM         

I agree with T on the need to be able to laugh and be kid-like.

posted September 20, 2009 01:22 PM         

I should know better than to eat while I'm reading at LL -- I choked on my cereal....

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Even better if they have a thrusting personality.

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posted September 20, 2009 04:28 PM         

I guess I am a bit boring, as I do not really like parties or loud celebrations, but I can become ecstatic about a nightly walk by the beach under a star-covered sky.