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Topic: Why you want a relationship reading
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Lucia23
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posted October 05, 2009 04:43 PM
 
A comment that GemGemGem made on the 'What would you do...' thread really got me thinking about this. I think discussing some of these questions might provide us with some great case studies for approaches to/applications of astrology.1) If you've ever asked for a relationship reading or for help looking at synastry, a composite, a love interest's natal, etc...WHY? What motivated you to ask? What (if any) other sources of advice did you seek? What were you hoping to gain? 2) How did you feel about the reading (or help)? Did it fulfil your needs? IP: Logged |
MyVirgoMask
Knowflake Posts: 1567
From: Bay Area, CA
Registered: May 2009
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posted October 05, 2009 04:57 PM
In the past I've looked at those things when I had a lot of feelings for someone and the relationship was neither here nor there, and I was looking for patterns, or an explanation as to why I am feeling so crazy about the person. Sometimes it was an unrequited thing, other times it was a feeling of complete confusion and I posted or asked about the synastry or composite.
A lot of time it alleviated the pain, or sometimes it explained why things were as they were. Sometimes putting things on more esoteric footing helped me deal with the problem of the relationship - helped me 'rise' above my anxiety.Also, if it's the very beginning of a relationship I would look and ask questions - but I've found that once the relationship starts to really take solid shape, I want to know nothing because I feel it would damage the flow or being in the moment. I have enough problems with worry  For now I only get non-astrological intuitive reads from a friend I've gone to for years, and who's been on the mark for me about way too many things (we trade reads once in a while).
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running_bull
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From: usa
Registered: Jul 2009
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posted October 05, 2009 05:00 PM
1) I do my own synastry, with occasional assistance interpreting, but I think I did it to get a roadmap of how to handle the relationship. In hindsight, I should not have laboring so much to make it work - it was a waste of time.2) I was pretty spot on, but I determined two things: 1) There are always other influences beyond Astrology that make the person who they are and the relationship what it is that cannot be anticipated. 2) Synastry and doing in depth readings of another's chart can be slightly manipulative and I try to keep it straightforward. I may take a look for difficulties, like communication and be vigilant about good communication, but I no longer do in depth analysis. If it is meant to be, it will be. Imo. IP: Logged |
popcorn
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posted October 05, 2009 05:16 PM
1. I check it out as soon I find someone I feel some kind of attraction to. I want to se if there are any possibility to develop something between us. I also check out progress and synastry between us. So I know when I don't have no more feelings for that man.2. I have never develop an relationship with someone I checked out synastry before I feel the man. I'm going to my dreamworld and the chart give me a picture to us in relation. Sometimes I say I must stop to my self. I can be in love in a chart and not in the man  . But now I know my self so.... When I am in relationship I don't have any need to check out the synastry. I can take a quick look only. I don't care about the aspect at all. I just go for the relationship. For me it's a warning when I check it out. I already know. It will not be him and I. T IP: Logged |
letram
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posted October 05, 2009 05:31 PM
reassurance mainly. i fear that im 'kidding my self' about having a chance with some one, or i have doubts, but not sure if they are credible. i do not want to waste mine or the other persons time. reassurance gives me confidence. im waiting for people to say what they think about the composite i just posted up, if or when they do i will certainly report back.
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MyVirgoMask
Knowflake Posts: 1567
From: Bay Area, CA
Registered: May 2009
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posted October 05, 2009 06:00 PM
It's funny, some of the best synastry I've had with people I was seeing proved nothing. It had all the bells and whistles and icing on the cake, and yet nothing came out of it. Even with the Saturn 'glue'.
I'd look at the synastry and go, Wow, this is so ON! lol.
And then nothing.
One example is a guy I had a thing with years ago - we had a startlingly good synastry and even composite.Things would start between us and be wonderful, then two weeks later we would lose touch and completely stop talking ... this would keep happening every like 4-5 months. It was pointless!
THEN I looked back and saw there wasn't a single major Mercury aspect between us in the synastry. Not a one. I just think it's funny.IP: Logged |
Lucia23
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posted October 05, 2009 06:23 PM
MVM, I look at charts of people I do intuitive readings for sometimes, and sometimes I have randomly checked their synastry with mine, and we have synastry that I woulld think would make us both very attracted/connected to each other. And we aren't.I mean, this one guy and I like each other fine, we might make out if we were both on a desert island for 10 years, but there's no big draw. Even though we have his Sun conjunct my Moon-DC in each of our 7th houses, my Venus exactly conjunct his Moon-Mercury, my SN exactly conjuct his Venus, his NN conjunct my Mars, my NN conjunct his Neptune, my Neptune on his AC, DW Venus-Mars, and lots and lots of other tight aspects, before even getting into asteroids. It's not that I would expect us to be in love or be "soul mates", but I would expect us to just, sort of, NOTICE each other more. In some way!! Back to the topic--I ask for readings hoping for validation that the other person is attracted to me. And/or for some kind of brilliant breakthrough advice that will tell me how to work with the relationship to get exactly what I want in it. My use of readings has not actually ever really helped me...except one reading from an astrologer here that really helped me understand the nature and quality of my exciting but confusing connection with someone. IP: Logged |
GypseeWind
Knowflake Posts: 1663
From: Dayton,Ohio USA
Registered: May 2009
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posted October 05, 2009 06:30 PM
I want to know if I'm going to be the person doing all the work.....again.But here lately I'm interested in Saturn and the who owes who theory. Because I should be getting my pay back from a certain person, and well it just ain't happenin, which makes me concerned (and you think YOU worry, MVM) that we may have to do this again sometime. ugg. IP: Logged |
comica23
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 05, 2009 06:48 PM
quote:
1) If you've ever asked for a relationship reading or for help looking at synastry, a composite, a love interest's natal, etc...WHY? What motivated you to ask? What (if any) other sources of advice did you seek? What were you hoping to gain?
- better understanding of the relationship - if the astrological patterns does resonate with the real life feelings/situations, then I can use it as a scheme that helps me to understand the relationship better. - assurance from destiny - yes, I'm guilty about it lol~ XP - I have sought for advices from a few number of astrologers in Lindaland and astro.com, coz of their deep insights, intuition and vast experiences/observations. I have also been attentive to these forums, as some members do come up with interesting insights. quote:
2) How did you feel about the reading (or help)? Did it fulfil your needs?
- yes, it helped. Well, schemes can only help us see the relations of the issues clearer that in the end, it has to be myself to know how to deal with it. But it still helped, just like how schemes helps. - it fulfilled my needs of furthering my understanding of my relationships. And about the assurance from destiny.. well, it also kinda fulfilled it, and I'm glad about it lol (it's not that it assured that a relationship will last forever, it's just about assuring that there are enough good potentials). IP: Logged |
aka Kat
Knowflake Posts: 139
From: Cleveland, Ohio
Registered: Jun 2009
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posted October 05, 2009 08:05 PM
1. yes, because I'm pathetic2.It just reinforced that I will die an old spinster and my body will not be discovered for weeks because the usual unfed cats that clue neighbors into knowing that something's wrong will be non-existent due to my allergies. Maybe I'll have a dog and I will never be discovered, because he'll get so hungry that he will eat me leaving no trace that I ever existed. IP: Logged |
Lucia23
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posted October 05, 2009 09:22 PM
LOL Kat, sometimes I feel that way about readings.  Not truly that I am pathetic or destined to die alone...BUT I feel like if a guy really liked/loved/wanted me, I would KNOW and I wouldn't need to get a reading...I'd either be into him back, or not. And if not, I really wouldn't care about our synastry. I only want a reading when a guy isn't into me enough to share it with me and everyone, and yet I am into him enough to care how he feels. IP: Logged |
katatonic
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posted October 05, 2009 09:54 PM
i'll confuse the issue by adding another kat to it...1) i look for readings for divers reasons:
a) i've met someone who really set off a reaction i don't quite understand
b) in hindsight to analyze the dynamics of the relationship
c)i will look at the OTHER person's chart to see what kind of patterns they have going and how they offset mine - or how they are being affected by current transits and progressions. 2)i read or listen to readings with the solid knowledge that there will always be something in it i don't like or trust and that i will get someone else's viewpoint (which will catch things i've missed and some i've noticed). then i match up the reading with my own take for corroboration or expansion on my own. i have NEVER listened to the warning signs/red flags unless i was the one who saw them. i figure if you're determined to get into a relationship with this person maybe the red flags are necessary for your growth/ karma/whatever.. and i have to say if the reading is too "good" or enthusiastic i usually keep a little skepticism handy too. i am awaiting a reading as we speak so i'm not going to say anything more right now for fear of queering the outcome... but i would say the main reason for getting readings is to get knowledge, while the reason for getting into a relationship brings knowledge but is not usually motivated by educational wishes! i try NOT to read up on people i am getting involved with for fear of setting up false expectations. IP: Logged |
vertiver
Knowflake Posts: 353
From: Formerly Missneptune
Registered: May 2009
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posted October 05, 2009 11:29 PM
quote:
1) If you've ever asked for a relationship reading or for help looking at synastry, a composite, a love interest's natal, etc...WHY? What motivated you to ask? What (if any) other sources of advice did you seek? What were you hoping to gain?
To know whether or not it was going to go to **** , but composite really reflects how the relationship will end or at least for me, I mean in this certain composite that I'm referencing, Mars is conjunct the Descendant and opposite the Ascendant in Libra, need I say more?
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2) How did you feel about the reading (or help)? Did it fulfil your needs?
I had misguided myself by bypassing all the negative aspects and only focusing on the positive. But now that I'm aware that it is leading nowhere the negative aspects make more sense, as terrible as that sounds, lol! IP: Logged |
iQ
Knowflake Posts: 493
From: Chennai, India
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 06, 2009 08:21 AM
Always get a synastry reading only after a sustained period of contact with the partner, or atleast knowing him or her for some years even if there is not much contact [especially if you get regular dreams about the person.]
This has been very helpful to all my internet acquaintances, friends and clients. ------------------
Soul Mate Love Calculator http://tamsoft.co.in/articles.html IP: Logged |
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