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staborgi
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posted October 25, 2009 09:55 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for staborgi     Edit/Delete Message
Hi all
Was wondering if people could share their experiences with Venus-Neptune in synastry. I read a great excerpt by Liz Greene that wont seem to come up on google now...I'm sort of (of course with this aspect the SORT OF is major) getting involved with someone whose Neptune conjuncts my Venus at a 0 orb and its confusing to say the least...!

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posted October 25, 2009 11:48 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for EighthMoon     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Staborgi,

I have experienced this in synastry and will paste an excerpt from Jane's (Eve's) answer on another post because I think it's the most accurate interp involving both signs. I have this trine and this def holds true...

"I was thinking about how I'd said that the Venus people in this cnj with me have been dishonest. And then a line from U2 popped into my head...
You lied to me, 'cause I asked you to.

Their lies were just them playing along with what I needed. I think Venus wants to get a hit of the dopamine Neptune gives them. So like any drug addict, they will play along with any rules Neptune sets up in order to keep getting a fix. And with Neptune, the rules are often about keeping something unclear.

With my high school boyfriend, I didn't want him to know the parts of my life that were painful. Not only did I not open up verbally, I kept him separate from my family, even secret from them for the first year of our relationship. He acted like he was ok with all this. Then in the fight that ended our relationship he yelled at me, finally letting out his conclusions about what my secrecy had meant. His interpretation was wrong, but true to Neptune, I didn't set him straight. Lies were on both sides, but I was the one who wanted an illusion -- that there was no pain tearing me apart -- and I made him play along with the rules I'd set up to keep that illusion intact.

Second person I had this with was a close friend of mine. For almost 9 years he pretended to be ok with being only friends. Not until the convo where he "dumped" me, did he tell me he wanted more. But there had been hints, and I'd had intuitions...I consciously ignored all of them, because I wanted him as my friend. I didn't want to lose him. So even though he hadn't been honest about his feelings, he did it because I was sending the signals that his honest feelings and our relationship couldn't coexist. I preferred pretending his deeper feelings didn't exist over having a head-on collision with the guilt I felt for denying him the type of relationship he wanted. (Learning to disappoint people in all sorts of ways has been a theme in my life. I've gotten quite good at it! )

Now I have this with another male friend. (This one's not into girls, so experience number 2 has no chance of a repeat! ) The problem this time is I feel guilty that I can't give him all that he needs. He suffers from depression, it waxes and wanes. When it's been a while since we've last spent time together, he communicates to me a greater level of depression, the opposite when we do spend time together. For example, the last time we hung out he told me that he'd been in a real low period the past few days but, "I woke up today and smiled, and kept telling myself all morning, 'I'm seeing Eve today!'" Sweet, absolutely. But it implies that he doesn't look forward to his day on the days we don't see one another. That makes me feel pressured to give him more time, and guilty that I don't. He knows some wonderful people, but he sometimes makes comments that paint me as the exclusive source of happiness in his life. I'm uncomfortable with that role, even resent it. We discussed this and he said that he doesn't expect me to make him all better, just that he enjoys the time we spend together. But idk. I have a bad feeling about it.

All that said, Venus-Neptune cnj's are also amazing. So much love and compassion."

http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/201033-2.html

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EighthMoon
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posted October 25, 2009 11:49 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for EighthMoon     Edit/Delete Message
There are lots of other good insights on that link as well.

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blue moon
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posted October 26, 2009 04:36 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for blue moon     Edit/Delete Message
Neptune moves slowly. If your Venus contacts someone's Neptune, it will contact a generation's worth of other people in a similar way. Tight orbs and personal planet involvement will increase the significance factor.

Like you say, you are dealing with a 0* orb. It is hard to say how that slots into your synastry overall but I can share my own synastry. I have Venus Opposite my husband's Neptune, it is part of a Grand Cross configuration. Venus rules my Descendant, Neptune rules his, so there is a strong 7th house tie.

Neptune adds some mist to Venusian love. But of course, there is always something about romantic relationships that don't quite work in a strict sense of reality. We might project something that isn't there, see something that isn't there, it can be unhealthy. But it can also be the kind of illusion that makes a man of mature years describe his wife like she is still the beautiful young girl he fell in love with, that's Venus/Neptune in action.

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scrappydog
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posted October 26, 2009 12:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for scrappydog     Edit/Delete Message
There is ALWAYS something beautiful, romantic, and wistful about venus neptune aspects, even the square.

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popcorn
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posted October 26, 2009 12:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for popcorn     Edit/Delete Message
The man i lived togheter with in 15 year. Him and I have a strong connection to each other including venus/neptunus.

His neptunus trine my venus/NN/mars
His pluto sextile my venus/NN/mars
His venus trine my venus/NN/mars

His neptunus trine my saturn
His pluto opposite my saturn
His venus conj my saturn


I think the connection his neptunus to my venus/NN/mars not are so importent. Neptunus are a generation planet.I think it's all of it togheter wich caused our relationship so strong. It tie togheter each other.

We have very special deeply feelings togheter. I have don't feel so to anyone after him .

He was a part of me in some way.

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