posted November 02, 2009 08:05 PM         

There's been a lot of talk about Aquarius folks lately, so I thought I'd provide a case study of one. They seem to be an enigma to many, including myself. This one just happens to be my boyfriend I know him pretty well, so what I thought I'd do is describe him to everyone, and then allow folks to dissect his natal chart to see if they can put the pieces of his personality together to see if the astrology fits. He exhibits fairly typical Aquarian traits, but I think there are some nice deviances there that make him a good study.

Here's his chart:

First of all, he's very talented. Extremely talented athletically (he went to college on a sports scholarship), intellectually (he has a degree in Biology), and musically (he plays several instruments). He has a ton of friends, and is very loyal to his friends. He treats them like family. He is highly rebellious against authority--this includes parents (they didn't always get along, although his relationship with them has improved with age), employers (he has a very rocky relationship with his boss), and law enforcement (he has several speeding tickets and his driver's license has been suspended twice).

He is also a contradiction in personality. On the one hand he can have quite the attitude--brash, brutally blunt at times, and very impulsive, but he can also be achingly sensitive. His feelings are hurt very easily although he doesn't always show it. When he is angry, he has a kind of wild energy, but not physically--it usually comes out verbally, and he goes on these verbal tirades. He will use words, and boy will they hurt! Or, he will simply withdraw and get cold and distant. He doesn't stay angry for long though. He is very forgiving. He is very sensitive to perceived criticism. He adores his mother and younger sister. He has a deep and grudging respect for his father. Family is very important to him, especially his large extended family. He is a perfectionist in his work.

He has big dreams about what he wants to accomplish in his career and dreams of being a famous musician one day. He is very aware of the problems that occur in society, especially among youth, and counsels troubled teens in his spare time. As part of his sensitive side, he writes poetry, but he also listens to hard rock and gangsta rap LOL.

He is very active physically. He loves sports. He likes being outside, but he is also ok with staying in. He is very demonstrative and physically affectionate. A very good kisser. Sexually, he is a slow burner. He can be reserved at first, but once he gets going he is deeply passionate and all about his partner. He is very concerned with making sure that his partner is fulfilled before taking satisfaction for himself.

Thoughts? I have analyzed his chart to death myself, so know a lot of what explains these things, but I thought that anyone wanting to know about Aquarians, especially the males, would find him interesting. I also felt compelled to refute the idea that Aquarians were cold and unfeeling--anything but! Although I do admit that his Cancer ASC and Aries Moon will make him very emotional anyway.

I would be interested in anything I have missed about him, especially concerning his ideas about commitment, marriage, children, etc. I have had a synastry reading done for us, so I'm not so much interested in the "us", just "him." Who is he? What is there that I might not have seen about him that wouldn't have been revealed yet?

We have known each other for almost 3 years, but have only been a couple for 3 months.

posted November 02, 2009 10:22 PM         

Ya know, he is practically a pisces.

posted November 02, 2009 10:43 PM         

Just enough for someone to say "oh yeah, I can see him being Aquarian", but then enough variance from the other stereotypical stuff to really confuse someone who likes to pigeon-hole sun signs.

posted November 02, 2009 10:54 PM         

Not that he isn't EVER detached. He has a remarkable capacity to let stuff roll off his back, shrug, and move on, while I'm still stewing and fuming about things. He often chides me that I need to work on letting things go, and he can be extremely laid back about things. Including the business of maintaining a relationship sometimes...but I've learned to take the bad with the good and there's a lot of good.

posted November 02, 2009 11:10 PM         

I thought you would like to look at his chart to see how right you were about him. Chart unseen. Fire & Water, for sure.

You're a Queen.

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posted November 03, 2009 12:41 AM         

My Aqua is an Aries moon too (like me). Aries moons are VERY focused on their partners as well.
My Aqua is very independent too, and is all about thinking out of the box and always liking to learn new things and is into philosophy (it's funny he even says this with his 9th house stellium lol).
But what they like in their life in general isn't what they like in their LOVE life. I've not seen an Aqua who enjoys variety in their love life - in fact quite the opposite. They like what they like and they stick to it. Plus when YOU yourself are an interesting, multi-faceted person (which you are), then it's like a dream come true lol.

posted November 03, 2009 01:01 AM         

MVM--thanks so much for the insight on Aries moons. I have to admit I'm often tempted to blame all his less than charming personality traits on this placement LOL. Especially how he can be less than considerate with his words at times. And that crazy "to hell with what you think...and you, and you, and you too!" attitude that he can display. But he is so darn vulnerable and sweet to go along with that...and incredibly romantic and generous. Everything you say is true.

posted November 03, 2009 07:56 AM         

Makes sense about the Mars. He is quite lucky and manages money responsibly, but he knows how to spend it too. Easy come, easy go with him. Not a saver type. He's also the hardest working man I know though--he works 7 days a week to keep making money.

MVM:

Actually I will give him credit where credit is due: he is an outstanding listener. He is usually very good about taking turns during conversation, especially important ones (and I LOVE this about him because I am super communicative and especially after a disagreement it makes me feel HEARD), so it is rare that he runs over people. The only times I have seen him do this is when he gets super excited about his two loves: sports and music, and usually with his male friends when they are talking about those subjects. With women he is very solicitious and respectful and pays a lot of attention to us.

Lehia:

I had no idea there were so many Aqua tribes out there raising kids LOL. But yeah, he's affectionate. Nowhere near "clingy", but he is demonstrative when the occasion calls for it. With one exception--he is not at all into PDA. In public, a hug or a brief hand hold is about it, and that's a good day. Unless he is liquored up, then it's like "How you doin?" LOL!

He can be super reserved, especially until he gets to know you better. But not in a suspicious or distrustful way. Just careful. But never detached. No one in need would ever go unattended around him. In fact, if his music career doesn't work out, he will probably go to medical school to become a physician. That is his other dream.

Incidentally, for those struggling with their Aquas, as far as "Aqua in love", I can only share my experience...I will say that I USED TO think he was detached. I confused his reservation with detachment. He would get very hurt by this however. See, I am super obvious (to a fault) when I'm crazy about someone and initially he's not. Although he chased me to high heaven to get me to notice him, it's kind of like he didn't quite know what to do with me once he got me. I didn't know he had fallen for me until I said something to him about my feelings first in this angsty, somewhat dramatic display (gotta love Mars in Leo!). He quietly processed this information (while I tossed and turned all night kicking myself) and then the next day...it was like the walls of Jericho had come crumbling down. Totally different man. There was so much vulnerability and openness there...

He doesn't respond to my forceful displays of energy by getting forceful back (this is probably a very good thing), but he is receptive to them. I have learned that when he is quiet, he is hearing me. I think that is a very important dynamic with Aquas. It was especially important with me because in my previous relationships, conflict = passion. Being heard had to = raised voices. Not with this one. If I leave him alone for a little bit, he will digest and then come back and amaze me by showing me that he was paying 100% attention and is very receptive to the needs of the relationship and me. Which makes it so easy for me to be receptive to him and what he needs...and btw, one of his primary needs is quite a bit of space. Not necessarily physical, but mental and emotional too. More than an average person I would say. Can't always be heavy with them. If you want to be heavy, you have to let them know in advance so they can get in the right mindset LOL. I realized this fairly early on. A super clingy person will NEVER make a good Aqua mate. A little clingy makes them feel loved. Super clingy makes them feel smothered.

posted November 03, 2009 08:13 PM         

Ok I read your first post and mine too is very atheletic been playing basktball since he was about 8 he loves it plays faithfully with the guys 3 days out of the week and coaches the kids from time to time (VENus in the 5th house)

Yes he too is rebellious but only when its personal stuff, Not authority bc he is a police officer himself but he can have a above the attitude bc of that. He was rebellious as a kid did what he wanted to do..

VERY,VERY physicall affectionate more then I am and I am a Pisces. Will kiss and hug me anywhere in front of anyone..He may hesitate when at the gym in front of the boys. It was not until I confessed to him I love him that he let some walls down. He hates to show any sign of weakness, His grandma passed and he apologized for crying in front of me..WHAT thats so normal honey..

I was happy to share that with him. Anyway so many things that you have said deems true with my Aqua,,He is very,very sensitive and tends to internalize things that have nothing to do with him..When they love a girl they protect her with everything in them..Mine is a cop so i get constant talks of safety sometimes I go huh!!!

Any one that has been on this board for as long as I have know about he and I bc i have driven these ppl crazy with questions and comments..So many mystical things have happen between us I cannot began to tell you..But what i have figured out over the coarse of our knowing each other is that we are meant to be..TO many things tell me that, my gut more then anything..

Yes he can be distant when he is mad and his feelings are hurt and that hurts me I am a Pisces after all..What I have learned over time is acceptance and patience(Still working on this one) and tolerance..He is who he is. Sometimes I feel he can be selfish, but alot of times he can be the most giving and sweet sensitive man in the world..

posted November 03, 2009 08:38 PM         

and he is an aqua moon and has uranus/nep in 6th like your bf.

your description fits my bf also as he is soo affectionate,and understanding.he is very sweet and loves family ( cancer asc),and im very pleased that your bf also shares that trait of someone who puts the partners pleasure firts good for you!!men arent usually likfe that.

what i find might be a bit hard is pluto in the 4th...also my nf has that.can make family/home an issue.probably he had a tought childwood?or upbringing?power struggles,dominant family member who someone who was prefered in detriment of your bf?this can really undermine the person´s self esteem...and as a cancer asc they can really be wounded forever if we dont know how to digg up well with love,and sent that free from them.

posted November 03, 2009 09:09 PM         

Wow, if you hadn't told me he was a cop I would start to get paranoid we were dating the same guy! Mine plays basketball too, that was his sports scholarship.

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It was not until I confessed to him I love him that he let some walls down.

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Yes! I have not said the "L" word yet but I have half said it lol. I told him I was "falling" in love with him. That's when the walls of Jericho came crumbling down. I noticed a huge change in his level of engagement with me emotionally after that--it was like he needed me to go first.

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When they love a girl they protect her with everything in them.

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+1. I had an asthma attack over the summer that put me out of commission for 6 weeks and almost did me in and he checked in on me almost every day. He was paranoid to the extreme about my health, and that was before we were even officially interested in each other. When I called him on his overprotectiveness he said in this urgent way, "I just need to know you can breathe." In hindsight, that was very telling about his feelings for me. He is also adamant about me calling to let him know I am home when I go places in the dark LOL.

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So many mystical things have happen between us I cannot began to tell you.

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I have been wondering about this. I wasn't sure enough about the experience to say anything about it on the board yet but now that you have mentioned it, I will: I really feel that I have some sort of telepathy with him...

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Yes he can be distant when he is mad and his feelings are hurt and that hurts me I am a Pisces after all..What I have learned over time is acceptance and patience(Still working on this one)...

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They could be twins. Acceptance and patience is definitely required! In fact, that was one of my Facebook statuses the other day LOL. The Force is strong with these ones...

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One of the very best parts to our relationship is the telepathy he can reach me any where at any time and vise versa..Strange stuff..lol

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OMG! Ok this is freaking me out...the telepathy thing is definitely true. I have never had that with any man like with this one. I swear he can sense when I am thinking of him. It seems to work best when I am angry, strangely. He will contact me suddenly. It's like "leave me alone, I'm mad at you!" LOL. It also works when I'm missing him, lonely, or just feeling super duper lovey and strong about him. It goes both ways. I am super attuned to him. I feel like if I think hard enough about him I can picture him in his environment, know what he's thinking and doing. I'm almost scared to tune into it too much, I don't want to abuse it. I might need it one day for something really important!

That is crazy that these astro-twins are so much alike and that we have had similar experiences with them. I'm so glad you contributed to the Aqua man thread

posted November 03, 2009 10:10 PM         

I have been through so much with this one my head spins when thinking about it..We laugh at times when we think back to all the fights and silly things that we have done and still might do..

I have alot of Aqua in my chart so I do alot of things Aquaria style my self..Moon,merc,Venus and rising all in Aqua..I believe what gives this relationship of ours so much depth and intensity might be his NN conjunct my Venus..The really hard stuff yet the stuff that sticks us is my Saturn conjunct his moon and Venus..But the best I think is the Moon/Venus conjunction to his Sun and of Course that Venus/Mars conjunction we have in Aries..GRRRRRR it can really set off some fireworks between us good and bad.

This relationship is very Karmic and I was told we were married in a pastlife..I can see that but I lean towards more of just thinking that we are meant to be..I have broken up with him more times then I can remember and every time we get back together and when we do its better then the last time..But right now I am really working on me to be a better person not for him but just over all I have been doing alot of soul searching. We have to get this right because if we don't try it will just be harder on us and seperation will take place again..He is not the most spiritual person in the world but even he knows somethings..