posted November 08, 2009 02:35 PM         

I have dated people off and on since I was 24, but I've never really had any 'serious' relationships. The guys I've dated have often been players or emotionally unstable or about to leave to fight a war in another country, so I usually end up skipping off fairly quickly to avoid the drama.

I think I've said this before, but quite frankly, I think that having Chrion in the 7th is like walking around with an open sore. You just feel constantly like there's something wrong with you and that everyone else sees it (even when they don't)and that somehow you have to fix it in order to be "normal" like everyone else and have "normal" relationships. Until said time that it's been fixed, relationships will never come easily like they seem to do to everyone else. That's what it feels like to me anyway.

Aquariusmoon- I don't know if it's true that all of us with 7th house Chirons have trouble finding 'true love' but I do think that until we've reconciled our own sensitivity within ourselves (whatever that open sore is that I mentioned before) it is very very hard for us to see our own value and what it is that we can bring to a relationship. Even when I'm just dating people I have to constantly remind myself that other people can understand what I've been through in my life and that I can relate to others on a deeper level.

posted November 08, 2009 05:35 PM         

Yep I havent really had a 'relationship'. I mean I've had 'relations' with guys but I didnt consider that a 'relationship' even though they might have, so nothing like 'boyfriend/girlfriend' - at least not in my mind.

My Saturn doesnt make any aspects to Venus, but I do also have that T-square between Jupiter/Uranus opp. Chiron and Square Venus. My Venus actually makes quite a few square aspects (semi square Mars, semi square Pluto, and the ones involved in that Chiron T-square).

The other thing that I read about that might also contribute is Lilith (which is in my 3rd and in Aquarius). I read that that position can make the person see relationships more like friendships...which seems to be the case with me. I can't even imagine right now having someone that I call 'my boyfriend' probably because I havent had that before.

Its weird too because lately I've really been feeling like I want a relationship (not a desperate/lonely feeling) but this year in my Solar Return I have the Sun conjunct my Descendant, Mercury in the 7th, and Venus in the 5th. My Solar Return Vertex is in the 7th too, and I have Mars conjunct Part of Fortune conjunct the 5th house cusp and the Vertex conjunct my natal Venus. Anyway - to me it seems like a whole lotta 'love' aspects.

Enchantress - what you've said strikes a chord with me a lot. Even though I havent had a boyfriend before, its not like I'm hideous or something. Not trying to sound conceited or anything like that but I dont have any problem attracting guys (all kinds of guys infact), and I know I'm a pretty cool person to be around. But I definitely have that 'open sore'. I definitely have that one thing that I think is like the dealbreaker that if I didnt have that then I'd be ready to have a real 'relationship'. And then there's other times that I feel like maybe I'm just not ready for it yet (but again thats probably because I havent had it before).

posted December 05, 2009 12:38 AM         

The biggest problem is that my Pisces moon wants a relationship but the rest of me is perfectly fine with being independent and goal driven. I'm also not unattractive and I get plenty of attention from older men but barely any guys my own age. I think they are to afraid to approach a tall and independent person like myself, so they go for someone predictable and easy.

I actually had my first experience with almost feeling like I was dating a guy about two months ago, but he flaked out on me and it really hurt my feelings to the point that I probably won't ever try to reconnect with him again. But like Chiron there is a reason to that wound and eventually it heals.