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Topic: Do We Jinx Our Love Lives?
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meta_4
Knowflake Posts: 789
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posted November 10, 2009 05:51 PM
 
I know for me that once I meet a beautiful boy one of the first things I do is his natal chart. Then a synastry chart. Then a composite. Then blah blah blah.I get so wrapped up in discovering him that I feel like I know him before i KNOW him. I can't help but feel like i'm jinxing myself!!! Does anyone else feel this way? Is there any remedy for this damn illness!?! IP: Logged |
blue moon
Knowflake Posts: 1344
From: U.K
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 10, 2009 06:10 PM
The remedy is... self-control.Don't do the charts yet. Get to know the person, get to feel the bond between you, the dynamics. Trust your instincts. It will be all the more interesting when you find out his birth data and can see how close you were to getting it right. Now, I don't know about you, but I know if someone is tapping close to my Moon/Pluto. The chart will only tell me what I can feel already. I don't know that many people who do have an aspect to this point of my chart, and I think there is a reason for that having happened. I didn't plan it with synastry. IP: Logged |
leapinglemur14
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posted November 10, 2009 08:52 PM
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Diana
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posted November 10, 2009 11:54 PM
I look at the charts, but I don't make any decisions because of them. I go with my feelings and instincts and only look at the charts out of curiousity. I would NEVER leave someone, or be with someone based on charts. It's so prejudicial.IP: Logged |
PeaceAngel
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posted November 11, 2009 01:55 AM
It's possible. By looking at the charts too intensively you could be placing expectation upon the relationship, rather than just letting it unfold. I only ever look at synastry after a dynamic has revealed itself to see if it fits what I'm thinking/feeling.IP: Logged |
comica23
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posted November 11, 2009 08:47 AM
Well, we can always look at a chart but not sure how the aspects would play out anyways (whether coz astrology is not perfected yet, and/or coz we don't have enough astrological knowledge yet anyways). I've seen nice synastry aspects between myself and some other people, but it rarely really leads to anything meaningful (maybe coz there are no meaningful transits, or there are but doesn't mean that it's linked to this relationship, etc.). So mostly, all we can expect is that maybe the charts can show that we can have a possibly better or worse affinity with someone, but not much else.So my take is, we can look at the charts, but not expect much still - whatever has to happen will happen, and whatever doesn't won't happen. IP: Logged |
amowls*
Knowflake Posts: 1258
From: richmond va
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 11, 2009 10:34 AM
I always do a synastry chart and composite chart when first meeting a boy I'm interested. But I don't let those charts replace actual feelings.For instance, the guy I'm with right now, I'm not really blown away by our synastry or composite. But I'm really into him. Also my roommate and I have amazing synastry, but I'm not in love with him (we have "classic" love aspects, his Mars conjunct my Venus and my Moon conjunct his Sun). I just see it as why we get along so well, without knowing each other for that long. IP: Logged |
venus in gemini
Knowflake Posts: 563
From: Florida
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 11, 2009 02:32 PM
Meta,
I'm so glad that I'm not the only one who is somewhat obsessed with looking at the charts! I have this compulsive desire to look at the charts of anyone I am involved with, I work with, or even just have an interesting encounter with.I think I just like to see it in black and white, you know? Like I am testing my astro knowledge, but also learning at the same time. Things I felt, or the way we interacted, either physically or mentally. It's like an "AH HA" moment with myself. ..."Yes, I felt that", or an interesting way the other person projects themselves, or speaks, and I can see it in the chart. Okay, I feel better now that I've admitted this publicly...!! Thank you. 
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vertiver
Knowflake Posts: 575
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Registered: May 2009
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posted November 11, 2009 02:51 PM
I encourage looking at the natal and synastry charts of guys that interest you. But, from my experience I over emphasized the positive inter aspects and not the negative ones, and I'd really stray away from looking at composites until you think you really know the person, because otherwise it is just confusing. So I wouldn't say you're jinxing a relationship, you might just hype it up more than it really is. IP: Logged |
meta_4
Knowflake Posts: 789
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posted November 11, 2009 04:37 PM
Venus in Gem,We share the same sickness! I don't judge a person based on their natal. If i'm interested in you, i'm interested in you- warts and all. In fact, it touches my heart when I see where you are struggling. It gives me hope that I can help you and support you through your battles. The problem is that if i find someone i'm interested in i HAVE to look at their natal and our synastry. It's a compulsion. Probably unhealthy. And I feel like I put too much weight on what I expect them to be like, and what i expect our relationship to be. So it's like i'm setting myself up- JINXING myself! Have any of you ever checked someone's natal, or your synastry and expected you two to have a specific relationship, and it didn't pan out that way? It's so maddening! And i feel like i want to stop that compulsion. I'm abusing astrology! But i can't stop.. LOL!  IP: Logged |
Diana
Knowflake Posts: 1907
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Registered: May 2009
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posted November 11, 2009 04:47 PM
Maybe you don't give it long enough to turn out the way you pictured. Relationships evolve and no one shows you their real self, ie their chart, for awhile. I know I don't. Why should I? Why should anyone else?IP: Logged |
meta_4
Knowflake Posts: 789
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posted November 11, 2009 05:29 PM
Diana,I totally agree with you. I just don't know how to relax and like someone. And i want to know immediately if they feel for me the way i feel for them- which is where astrology comes in. Then i check all the placements, and if it looks promising i put all of this weight on him, and us and i... yeah. So, in short: Hi. My name is Meta. And I have a problem. *"Hi Meta.* It's been 30 seconds since i last looked at a synastry chart... IP: Logged |
Diana
Knowflake Posts: 1907
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Registered: May 2009
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posted November 11, 2009 05:55 PM
But, Meta, I don't think astrology can tell you how someone feels about you. At least, not initially. Things take time. I think the key is that you can't relax. I think everyone gets that way, we all want to know if someone likes us or not, but you just have to train yourself to let it flow. Easier said than done, I know. You should realllly try to refrain from casting charts until the relationship is cemented, since you have a problem, hehe IP: Logged |
Nightingale
Knowflake Posts: 74
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Registered: Jun 2009
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posted November 11, 2009 05:59 PM
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I know if someone is tapping close to my Moon/Pluto
Blue Moon, can I ask you to explain how that feels or how you know? IP: Logged |
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