posted December 25, 2009 02:04 AM         

I had always been led to believe that (Venus / Mars) was the number one sign of sexual attraction, but I think I read a post here by someone who suggests that the Sun's affect on Mars would be stronger. Also, just out of curiosity because I have this configuration, how would Mercury contacting the woman's Mars fit into the mix?

posted December 25, 2009 03:14 AM         

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To a woman's Mars?

I would say the Sun.. because as I mentioned earlier I don't like the Venus/Mars when the man is Venus.

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If a woman's Mars conjuncts and Man's Sun, and the man's Mars conjuncts the woman's Moon, wouldn't this be a sort of ideal set up?

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It's a nice setup.. It can be very attractive and also supportive, depending on the sign. I think the Mars/Sun conjunction in Virgo works extremely well because Virgo is a social sign that likes to collaborate and help others out.

(Aries can go either way, for example. My best friend has an Aries Mars along with an Aries Venus and we get on great. But I have also met Aries Mars people who try to head-butt me for "fun")

Other than being sexually attractive Mars/Sun can give a sort of solidarity coupled with friendship.. kind of like "You're my right-hand person. If I ever have a problem, I know I can count on you!"

However, considering the way you describe this girl and you really seem to have very strong feelings for her - I just don't think these aspects, alone, tell the story.

Psyche/Eros sounded more fitting.

These particular aspects are positive in a few areas:

1.friendship (mars-sun)
2.good mental back and forth – conversation flows (mars-mercury)
3.trust – LOTS of trust. You definitely know you can count on one another (mars-sun and mars-moon)
4. sex.. because mars is involved and there is always a sexual side to mars.. (mars-everything lol)

But the sort of love you feel, I wouldn't personally attribute to these particular aspects. I strongly believe that if you met another woman born on the same day and had both of these aspects with her, you simply wouldn't feel the same.

posted December 25, 2009 03:26 AM         

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feel like I am in total control of the attraction whenever a woman's Venus conjuncts my Mars in sort of vain egotistical way.

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That's interesting. I did feel "taken for granted" after a while - when his Mars was conjunct my Venus.. which is partly why I couldn't remain in that situation. Also, very often I took into account BOTH of us while he didn't even think about my own feelings - very "bull in a china shop" towards me at times.

I found myself constantly playing games and making him jealous - I'm not that sort of person.. but this was a result of feeling unappreciated. It always worked and he reacted very aggressively to these things. I find that Mars does not particularly WANT Venus after a while, but he does not really want anyone else to have her either.
That was the beginning of the end (but things took many more interesting turns than that

I think Venus/Mars works best with the man as Mars. But regardless of who is Mars - I do believe that it all comes crashing down in a "war of the roses" type situation.. with.. fireworks - if the people are not very mature (which we were not at the time) and if there are no supporting aspects elsewhere that show emotional and mental harmony.

It's a fantastic aspect for a fling. It's funny that in describing this aspect I though of "9 and a half weeks" which is a movie ABOUT a fling.

posted December 25, 2009 03:33 AM         

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It's a nice setup.. It can be very attractive and also supportive, depending on the sign. I think the Mars/Sun conjunction in Virgo works extremely well because Virgo is a social sign that likes to collaborate and help others out.

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Yes vapor-lash, her Mars conjunct my Sun (2.8 degrees Virgo.) and my Mars conjunct her Moon (3.7 degrees Aquarius.)

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However, considering the way you describe this girl and you really seem to have very strong feelings for her - I just don't think these aspects, alone, tell the story.

Psyche/Eros sounded more fitting.

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I certainly agree with that. I am trying to confirm for myself that the asteroid energy is more prominent at higher chakra levels.

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But the sort of love you feel, I wouldn't personally attribute to these particular aspects. I strongly believe that if you met another woman born on the same day and had both of these aspects with her, you simply wouldn't feel the same.

There has to be something going on with your ascendants imo

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That's interesting! Again, this makes me consider the relevance of the 7 chakra levels. My Ascendant is Leo, but I don't know hers yet.

My 2nd House is also Leo. I forget with that House represents.

My Descendant naturally is Aquarius. Her Moon, being Aquarius falls into both my 7th and 8th Houses.

I think I mentioned before that the tightest aspect between her and myself is her Juno conjunct my Psyche, (Leo / 0.06 degrees.) That's even tighter than the Eros psyche conjunction (Leo / 4.95 degrees.)

The Leo contacts are the most spiritual ones between us.

posted December 25, 2009 03:44 AM         

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I find that Mars does not particularly WANT Venus after a while, but he does not really want anyone else to have her either.

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OMG Vapor-Lash, that is so true! You Nailed It with that one. I can see this across the board.

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if the people are not very mature (which we were not at the time)

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... And I do believe that this is a crucial element in how all synastry combinations play out. MATURITY. Different energies are expressed in various ways. Some we like, some we don't like. At one moment we can truly appreciate one kind while we hate another, then later on at a different time it switches to be the exact opposite. Regardless of this, there is never any good reason to mistreat someone else no matter how we are feeling about the energy we are receiving and that is where one's level of maturity comes in to play.

posted December 25, 2009 08:57 AM         

His sun square my venus
My sun opposite his venus

posted December 25, 2009 09:44 AM         

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I think Venus/Mars works best with the man as Mars. But regardless of who is Mars - I do believe that it all comes crashing down in a "war of the roses" type situation.. with.. fireworks - if the people are not very mature (which we were not at the time) and if there are no supporting aspects elsewhere that show emotional and mental harmony.

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posted December 25, 2009 09:53 AM         

His venus trine my venus/NN/mars
His pluto sext my venus/NN/mars
His nept trine my venus/nn/mars

My jupiter/ conj his mars/valentine

Sex was the only as work in our relationship our last year togheter.

posted December 25, 2009 07:24 PM         

Same guy – different women (orbs 0-3 dg):

GUY & woman A

His MOON trine her MARS (*double whammy*)
His MARS trine her MOON(*double whammy*)
His VENUS oppose her VENUS (*mutual*)
His MARS quincunx her VENUS

GUY & woman B

posted December 25, 2009 08:30 PM         

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Taking your posted theories about Sun-Mars-Moon-Venus-combos into account … What would be the difference between these two attractions below? Which one would be more “sexy” – which one would be more “substantial”? Which attraction could possibly be more “fatal” or turn out obsessive one day? POLO: Which woman would you rather fall for, seriously, if you were “the guy”? Any other takes on the 2 below? Im cuuuuuriouuusssss!

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Well of course, I am far, far from being any kind of expert on this stuff, but...

In my humble opinion both would be quite sexy, but the question would be, in what flavor do you like your sexy?

• Woman A: Sexy would be more emotionally based and also, considering the other aspects, I would imagine a bit more drama along with it. Some people prefer it to be this way.
• Woman B: Sexy would be more harmonious with a more apparent casual friendliness to color things. Where the SEX ITSELF would be more emotional with (woman A), here, there is a deeper, emotional compatibility in general. The romantic air would be more prevalent with this pairing.

More substantial? I guess that would depend on what you value, but if by substantial you mean which of these would be the most intense? in that case, I would have to go with the drama coming with Woman A. It seems to me that with woman A there will be a greater need for adjustment, causing one to grow and consider old habits. On the other hand, with woman B, things will be more peaceful and serene. There may be some degree of competitiveness between them, but drama will be at a minimum. Some people like it this way.

Which would have the highest potential of becoming a fatal attraction? Hmmmm. That would probably be with woman B. Since they work so well together, harmoniously, if things went south, and had to end for whatever reason, somebody might have some problems letting go. That competitive mars quality might be activated and then, there you go! Glenn Close / Michael Douglas

What would my choice be? Well, ordinarily I would go for the least amount of drama, but if there was a deeply spiritual element to it all, then I would tolerate the drama because of the fact that I believed there was something bigger at stake.

posted December 26, 2009 05:32 AM         

We also have a DW Sun trine Mars, although one of the trines is super wide (9 degrees). So I agree with the Venus/Mars and Sun/Mars theory for the female.