posted January 03, 2010 01:45 AM         

what I specifically would like to know is whether you have strict rules , for instance, you are a jealous person but if someone really attractive comes along and you have great sex, would you be ok with a casual relationship for a while ?

Do you start relationships right away to see whether it will work or not ?

posted January 03, 2010 10:22 AM         

I used to think that I should know a person really really well before having any commitment with him. Now I don't see things too black and white, although I'd still prefer it that way.

The reason I don't see things so strict now is coz I think that things/feelings happens naturally. So if we start liking each other, and we feel that we can trust each other, then why not give a chance?

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what I specifically would like to know is whether you have strict rules , for instance, you are a jealous person but if someone really attractive comes along and you have great sex, would you be ok with a casual relationship for a while ?

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Or do you like hanging out or having sex a couple of times before making any commitments ?

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posted January 03, 2010 10:35 AM         

Ow jep, because my nerves are super-sensitive after all I went through I couldn't commit myself to anyone that will awake my deep jealousy. I think that relates pretty well to the emotional commitment at the head of the list.

posted January 03, 2010 03:28 PM         

Words are cheap. I'm an action-orientated girl.

As little insecurities and fear as possible and masses of HOT passionate FIRE loving... open communication, uninhibited and a great imagination.

I like some scorpio in my men cos then they can match my sexiness and they need to have a high sex drive and be great in bed!! So bring your BRAINS with you!!!!

No manipulation or controlling behaviour though.

venus in aries
mars in taurus
juno in scorpio

posted January 03, 2010 04:37 PM         

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I don't have "strict rules" as such.. but there are things I would expect as a back and forth.. to make it *work* - like "mutual trust", a great mental connection, honesty..

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for instance, you are a jealous person but if someone really attractive comes along and you have great sex, would you be ok with a casual relationship for a while ?

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I'm not a jealous person. In my past patterns of attraction - I only end up in serious relationships with men whom I truly feel LOVED by. If I feel uncertain - like either MY heart or theirs isn't actually *there* completely.. I wouldn't enter a "relationship".

Any whiff of uncertainty from a man, any whiff of slight rejection.. puts me off. It's not a feeling of "hurt". It just feels like a put-off.. because I want something intense and mutual. So if he doesn't feel intensely passionate about me - I don't go there.. I lose interest.

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In the situation you described.. it really depends. I could be FRIENDS with a guy and find him attractive and possibly have sex, just for the sex.. when I actually feel nothing else for him. But this person wouldn't be "serious" to me.. It would just be a mutual physical release or whatever you'd like to call it.

I think this is because I can LIKE sex for its own sake and there is no associated guilt or dogma.. There used to be.. but I woke up to myself.. I just find certain things disgusting now (religious and so-called spiritual views that try to control people's sexuality.. I could throw up. It disgusts me to no end).. These are things I used to wonder about when I was younger and nearly *believed* in.. But no. My views are very different now and I can proudly embrace my animality for everything it is.

However, even in this kind of casual situation I'd have to really like the guy as a person and respect his intelligence. If I can't have fun banter and back and forth with someone - if they seem too serious to me, too dogmatic, too preachy, too insane.. but most of all: IF they have some kind of sexual psychological- "issues" or body issues.. I'm not interested. I like men who like themselves (including the animalistic parts).. I like men who can be BOTH intellectual and raw, depending on the situation (I think I'm describing Sag, which is funny because my ex is a Sag lol)

If you have some kind of interesting inner-conflict you'd like me to help you resolve - all I have to say is: I'm sorry, but I've been through a lot in my life.. and it is now HOLIDAY time for me.. I don't feel like wasting time and energy providing psychological help - which is often unappreciated anyhow.

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Do you start relationships right away to see whether it will work or not ?
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I don't make commitments right away and I don't "date" as such. I never planned it this way lol.. But this is always what happens as a pattern. My past relationships (only 2 that I see as serious - I'm 23, almost 24) began with men at the place where I was either working or studying at the time, so usually I was around the person often, sometimes daily.. during that period (we didn't "date"). I did know a lot about them before we actually started going out.. on both occasions, but I didn't have sex with either in the initial stages.. I think we only had sex after it was "official" - Although this wasn't something I planned. I just don't go there sexually - unless I know the person for a while.. I don't feel physically OK around ppl I don't know well.. and I'm not very attracted either (I need to have a story line in my head to feel "in the mood" – and it takes a while for me to see the story.. For instance – I have nothing against one-nighters, morally speaking, nor am I apprehensive for other reasons (like the traditional ideas about keeping a guy hooked by withholding sex - no).. but I don't find it a "turn-on" to go there, so it defeats the purpose for me. Why have sex that I KNOW I won't enjoy?
If I was having casual sex, as I said above.. it would be with a male "friend" - someone I LIKE and KNOW and have known for some time.. I'm easy-going in situations like that.. I can be just friends the next day, no problems. I only desire exclusivity when I feel "in love".

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My Venus - Tauries (I think you know that story lol) - 11th house

aspects: - conjunct NN, trine Mars/Neptune, opposite Pluto.

My Mars - Capricorn - 7th house

aspects: - square Sun (very wide), trine Venus/NN, sextile Jupiter, conjunct Neptune, sextile Pluto.

My Mercury - Pisces - 10th house (why did you ask for Mercury? - just curious.. People tend to disregard Mercury in relationships & sex.. but I think that's a mistake lol)

posted January 03, 2010 04:44 PM         

if i was too enter a relationship. i would do it right away somehow they always doo lol. must be my venus square uranus in 5th house that is responsible for that.

i dont really get jealous much . sometimes ill get jealous if someone pays attention to me alot one day to the point where its needy. then by the end of the day ill get used to it. then the next day they are really independat and withdrawn.that will get me jealous its like whats wrong with you.

i dont put sex with a casual relationship. if you want sex then wait 6 or whenever im ready. i mean if you care that much then wait.

posted January 03, 2010 05:01 PM         

Except my current boyf, we didn't hook up or even kiss or anything for a month, but we went on a lot of dates. Once we started having sex, we were immediately a couple.

posted January 03, 2010 05:17 PM         

I am determined and I don't mind struggling for him. some like blue moon might remember this guy I talked about this summer, well, he's still my "target" I said I had given hope for a romantic relationship but I guess I haven't, and I've got one other option much closer and damned sexy but I won't change my mind (sometimes it's hard though, literally)

I'm so determined Because with the one I want, I will be everything my libra moon and cancer rising desire; a homely, nurturing, 6'4, independent, sweet, strong warm, husband, cooking for my husband

I might also pi$$ him off and I expect struggle in my relationship, but I'm ready to put up with it. I'm seriously considering the worst scenario and there are 2 things that I do Not want: kids from his past and him being passive with someone else.

kids is because I would have loved to have some But being gay, I think life has made the choice for me. and also I had a step dad and I don't want to be one myself.

the passive thing is because I'm quite reserved about it myself so I wish he would consider it precious too, and preferably for me.

ps: the one I want has eros in cap exactly on my dsc and exactly squaring my eros

right now, it looks grim. I actually don't expect much to happen, but I swear to god that I will not fall for anyone else (I already regret my stubbornness) well, if the one I see everyday insisted much, and considering nothing is happening with the one I want, and being seriously tickled by his sag eros exactly in trine with my aries eros and his scorp mars exactly trine my pisces venus, and his asteroid union exactly on my IC... i mean, he would have to insist and to show me who he is first.

posted January 03, 2010 05:21 PM         

Hi Belage,
Here my Venus (can) and Moon (scorp) aspects.,

Venus trine Neptune (0'28*)
Venus sextile Pluto (2'09*)
Venus trine Jupiter (3'13*)
Venus trine/sextile S/M (2'52)
Venus conj. Sun (7'32*)
Venus trine/sextile MC/IC (4'13*)

Moon square Mars (3*)
Moon square NN (1'56*)
Moon square Sun (9'06*) wide
Moon square Juno (1*)
Moon opp. Pallas (4*)

posted January 03, 2010 05:36 PM         

Though, I guess I would like to be myself, I would like to be loved and accepted as myself because Im not perfect but at the same time people should not settle for my bad traits. They should be honest with me and I will be honest with them. Be open with me and I will be open with you slowly but surely.

I do not like the " let's be one" philosphy, I am not a posession or a bottle of glue that wants to stick to you lol, I value individaulity in myself and others. I never liked when people tried to change me, I will change if I feel I have to.

I would like someone who I can call my best friend in the whole world and my lover. In other words I need to laugh a hell of a lot with you.

Pisces Moon(Emotions)-Aspects Pluto and Mars located in the 3rd house(Using whole house system, this is why Im bonkers)

Virgo Mars(Desire)-Aspects Saturn(Good Lord lol) locatd in the 9th house.

Venus in Leo(Love Crap)-Aspects Mercury,Pluto,Jupiter, and my Asc and it is located in the 8th house.

posted January 03, 2010 08:25 PM         

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Virgo Mars(Desire)-Aspects Saturn(Good Lord lol)

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