posted January 17, 2010 02:45 PM         

His Mercury conjuncts my Venus in Scorpio and his Merc is in his 2nd house. My Merc is early degrees Scorpio and is in my 4th house.

Up until Friday we were texting and messaging each other several times every day and it felt as though it was a sort of compulsion to talk. Then all of a sudden no contact on Friday - I left it having had a sort of 'feeling' that he needed some space. I texted him yesterday and he seemed genuinely happy to hear from me but then stopped a lot sooner than he would normally end the conversation, saying "Chat soon".

No word so far today and once again, I feel sort of reluctant to make the first move in case I'm space invading!

Has anyone else experienced this change in communications since Merc went direct or could this be the effects of the eclipse perhaps? It hit my Moon in Cap and was in my 7th and hit him in his 4th house crossing his Jupiter.

posted January 17, 2010 03:02 PM         

I just wanted to say that Mercury is still sorta in a daze from the effects of it being in Retrograde. Kinda like when you drink heavily the night before the next day or so you'll still see the effects. Mercury will feel 100% better on Feb 4, 2010 when its released. Until then don't worry. Even though things aren't as bad from when it was Retrograde, there is the potential for things to still go haywire. Some astrologers say this is week after (along with the week before it hits Retrograde) are the most sensitive times. I'm not sure. But I'm sure your communication will start back up once Feb hits. Good luck!!!

You might want to read this: http://www.astrologycom.com/mercret.html

posted January 17, 2010 03:29 PM         

Hope your situation improves and perhaps your ex will have a change of heart once the dust settles? Hope so

posted January 17, 2010 08:25 PM         

18 minutes,7 seconds

Raymond

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the truth is it only matters relatively"

posted January 18, 2010 05:27 AM         

Yes amowls* we started contacting each other on 4 Jan and the only days we've not spoken so far are Jan 15th and yesterday the 17th.

As I say, probably not weird in so much as things have a natural cycle of peak and trough however it 'feels' odd because we'd been so hungry to talk to each other the rest of the time. That's the only reason it stood out as odd. Maybe it's due to Merc still gathering its pace and gearing up to go forward?? Or maybe it's just a natural lull that I didn't expect? Or maybe my friend has felt the need to retreat a bit. All of which are fair enough Just took me by surprise I suppose and made me think as it happened the very day Merc went direct.

posted January 18, 2010 09:28 AM         

I'm not saying this is by all ANY chance what is occuring. But typically with Mercury Retrograde we have a change of mind (Mercury) after it goes/continues to move towards direct. The interruprution is even associated with ex's coming back to talk to you, or signing contracts and then having a change of mind. Mercury rules all communication, especially electronic communication. So if all of this particular talking was done over an electronic medium that could perhaps be what is the case. Because Mercury is still on its natural path they would say that perhaps a person would have a slow change of mind...as thinking is getting clearer and more linear. Especially if he has any Mercury/Cap/Cardinal planets as ppl who those were VERY effected with this Retrograde.

posted January 19, 2010 03:42 PM         

We texted all afternoon about all sorts of things and it was just really nice to speak to him. Also a little flirty which was good too Anyway, for once in my life I will not rush head long and try to fast forward to the middle of something. I will take baby steps and see where it leads. I think we will always be the very best of friends if nothing else so I'm happy about that at the very least

We're both Libra sun, (and he's Libra Asc conjunct my Sun) although he's 23 Oct so on the cusp so to speak. He's got Virgo Moon same as your guy and I've got Moon in Cap and Cancer Asc so very affected by the eclipse and Merc going retro in Cap!

posted January 19, 2010 04:39 PM         

I really hope it can get all cleared away. I do miss him VERY much. I too am a Cancer with Cancer Rising and Cap Moon. So typically I'm not that flighty (although I do have a Yod with Mars/Sun Uranus and Jupiter). But I have a progressed Moon in Sag EXACTLY Conjunct Uranus so its hitting me hard. The Mercury Retro has been VERY hard on me. I'm starting to feel better. But I do miss him like crazy. I'm hoping with seeing him in class tomorrow that he'll talk to me. I really want to lay it on the line that me doing what I did was I felt my freedom was infringed on AND I am afraid that we won't last/afraid of my feelings. He has a Cap Venus so I'm wondering if my random flightness freaked him out, and upset him or if he even cares. Or he gets what its like to feel out of control of your feelings. I'll keep you posted on how things turn out tomorrow.

I text him to ask him if he had something of mine yesterday. And he was very matter of fact and cold. And all the while my poor Venus in the 11th was like why can't he be civil and friendly.

I'm kinda mixed bag of sorts right now. I want closeness...but I'm terrified of it. Of it not lasting, of him flaking out, of me losing my freedom/depending on someone. Ugh I just wish I knew how this situation ends. I'd feel horrible if my issues made me push away the best guy I've EVER dated.

posted January 19, 2010 11:28 PM         

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Yes amowls* we started contacting each other on 4 Jan and the only days we've not spoken so far are Jan 15th and yesterday the 17th.

As I say, probably not weird in so much as things have a natural cycle of peak and trough however it 'feels' odd because we'd been so hungry to talk to each other the rest of the time. That's the only reason it stood out as odd. Maybe it's due to Merc still gathering its pace and gearing up to go forward?? Or maybe it's just a natural lull that I didn't expect? Or maybe my friend has felt the need to retreat a bit. All of which are fair enough Just took me by surprise I suppose and made me think as it happened the very day Merc went direct.

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posted January 23, 2010 03:55 PM         

If it's any consolation I think my situation is dead in the water. Communication is at best sporadic and now only initiated by me whereas before it was mainly him if I'm honest. I just have a feeling he's met someone and feels odd about telling me because we'd got so close. Nothing had happened between us so technically he's got nothing to hide or feel bad about but I think as he's such a nice guy he may be trying to be tactful. Ah well, such is life. Hopefully we'll still be able to meet up this week and have a good time as I'd hate to lose him as a friend.

posted January 23, 2010 05:04 PM         

I again think that's giving hope. Part of me is wondering if my over expression of emotions while drunk scared him away. Or was the last nail on the head. I drunk dialed him and text him ALOT plus sent a text that I was done with him, plus I told him i loved him. And he said he thought i was serious (I suspect that my behavior then changed things).