posted January 30, 2010 09:41 PM         

He and I have known each other for two years now - romantically together since July 30, 2009. It's been almost 6 months, and within the past six months we've been wrestling with a lot of power struggles...

Charts:

Him: June 30, 1987 1:00am London, England
Me: June 24, 1988 2:00pm Chicago, Illinois

Composite:

Synastry:

posted January 31, 2010 01:54 AM         

1) He's always trying to dig into my psyche. I do trust him, but he's always digging deeper and deeper into me. He claims that he always feels like he needs to have his "feelers" out with me and that a lot of his knowledge about me is based on his intuitive observations - that I'm vague and always withholding all my emotions from him. Perhaps I am... but I don't see why he needs to know every fiber of me. I trust him, but I need my space and his constant questions are starting to get on my nerves...

2) He breaks up with me to gain control... I'm very passionate, while he's very simple and extremely sensitive. When I hurt his pride either calling him out on his bs (he can get domineering and moody towards me at times when he's stressed... and I DON'T take that from anyone), he breaks up with me... and tells me that my *emotional* reactions are "overdramatic" (my actions are very calculated) and that I'll never change, and so on. The first two times I was very depressed by it... and blamed myself... but realized not that I'm overdramatic but that all of my feelings and my passions are very concentrated into one moment... then disappate into coolness... While his tend to be very moderate though VERY changeable. He always comes back not even a week later. Each time I've taken him back, but my arms have been less and less open each time... I'm not sure what to do about this anymore... Is it me? Is it him? How can I bring this up to him without invoking defensive behavior or hurting his pride? It's a double edge sword...

3) We work together (He's a director/producer; I'm an art director/publicist). Very well. And a lot. But we work together. Enough said.

4) We are complete opposites, but the same person at the same time... I liken it to two pieces of one soul: we are made of the same qualities, but are mirror images of each other. I find it so difficult to see where's coming from and we really have to sit down (and be in the right mood and mentality) to get things across. Things are golden then, but when we're out of sync.. communications just get worse.

There are a few other minor things, but these are the major. I do want to work things out, but it's getting so difficult and I feel like there's a lot of unsettled karma between us.

posted January 31, 2010 10:25 AM         

I'm new to serious astrology and so cannot offer any interpretation, but I admire many of the experts on LL and hope you get some responses that shed some light on the power struggles.

posted January 31, 2010 10:55 AM         

i never looked at composites the way you´re doing.

moon is the woman and saturn is the man?

hmmm in ours there is no moon/saturn contacts,and moon receives an oposition from mars hihihi

Saturn is well aspected but receives a semisquare from Venus. Venus rules the 3rd while saturn rules the 5th.

i can see wehre the semisquare appears cause we´re in a long distance.but the part when you say that contact between moon/saturn means attraction...im sure we´re very attracted to each other

posted January 31, 2010 11:34 AM         

Saturn and Moon harmoniously aspected doesn't necessarily mean attraction, but it does show basic affinity between the couple. But the lack of it doesn't necessarily mean lack of affinity, just neutral (so that the rest of the chart would be determining about this).

posted February 01, 2010 06:31 PM         

I definitely feel the tension of the T-Square in our interactions with each other. I don't mind the intensity, but I think I deal with "high intensity" situations differently than he does. He's much more evasive and keeps things straight forward and simple, while I've had some strange dramatics happen throughout my life... I'm not saying that he can't handle the intensity between us, but rather he's never learned how to...

posted February 01, 2010 06:41 PM         

not surprised you have power struggles and the moon is at the apex.

posted February 01, 2010 07:48 PM         

Do you really love him? or is it other thing?

cause if it makes you suffer so much,...is it worth it?

Is it true love..suffering too?

the way you talked...seems that power struggles,manipulation and taking control are the things that bonds you to each other.

To me,it is a way the person has to feel superior,to feel that they can control and actually have power over you.then it starts to manipulate,to say things like im gonna break up and bla bla bla...it´s acting like if you are a playing toy. when he says you need to be together...waht do you FEEL?waht does your INTUITION say about that?Does he want to be with you,as a way to be taking off your energy to him?cause the behaviour he has is to do exaclty that:he might not know it counsciously,but after he play those games,he feels a lot better,cause he actually drained your Energy.

that is why you feel so emotionally drained..and im not speaking metaphorically.

it is the Ego of him feeding off your energy.

im sorry but that doesnt say Love to me...and im so sorry for being so direct....this is what im seeing.

but of course...im here and im not directly involved,im just an observer.