posted February 01, 2010 12:09 AM         

For example. My Aqua ex and I had three planets in his 7th (my Sun, Mars, Mer), along with my Moon in his 1st, and my Venus in 5th. None of my planets fell in his 11th. He had his Sun/Mer in my 9th, his Moon in my 4th, his Venus in my 7th, and his Mars in my 11th. And I thought of him as a great boyfriend, someone to talk about religion/bounce ideas off of and even better friend.

Looking back on my relationship with my Aqua ex I thought we were friends (his 11th house overlay). And I valued that more than our actual romantic relationship. He ended the relationship, and said that he didn't know if he wanted to be with me as we weren't ever friends. We were just a couple. Hearing that made me sad...not because the relationship ended but because he didn't consider me a friend.

Anyway my question is if there are no 11th house placements does that mean that one won't view someone as a friend. Or do we tend to take on the roles of the house their planets fall in.

For instance, I really really want to be his friend (I also have Natal Venus in the 11th and Sun/Mars Inconjunct Uranus/Jup) and am wondering if the house energy rules our expectations of how we relate to someone.

Even now I've read that planets in the 7th house want a one on one partnership. Because so many of my planets are in his 7th and none are in his 11th...would that mean that he will always view me as a natural partner (even though he ended the relationship). And because I thought we were friends, I'll miss the relationship but want the friendship because he was someone I could bounce ideas off of, and was emotionally attached to. Thanks. Basically will it be unnatural for him to be a friend to me? Etc?

posted February 01, 2010 03:19 PM         

so, if somebody planets fall into ur 11 if it is venus, it may mean that a friend can become a lover and a lover can become a friend.

posted February 02, 2010 01:24 PM         

For me he overlays two spots (his Sun and Mer) in my 9th, his Moon overlays my 4th, his Venus overlays my 7th, and his Mars overlays my 11th. Its pretty much all again fire and air...with one water placement thrown in.

Which shows that I really thought of him as a friend. And he NEVER thought of me as one. He even said that he didn't know if we could be together in the future as we weren't frineds. And if we could be friends, then he'd know.