posted February 02, 2010 04:10 AM         

my question particularly pertains to neptune. synastry. natally, i would believe that im very neptune friendly. my north node is in pisces and my neptune is in capricorn making a trine to my sun and square to my sun's ruler; mercury.. yeah, it also squares mars and opposes chiron making a cardinal grand cross but thats besides the point.

posted February 02, 2010 04:23 AM         

Hard aspects between the Sun and Neptune in synastry can be rather tricky, but certainly not unmanageable. In a very few cases, outright deception is involved with this aspect. However, in most relationships with this energy, conscious deception is not an issue. What can happen, however, is that the relationship starts off with a mystical and decidedly romantic air to it. You may have felt that you met "the one", and the Sun person, in particular, may project too many qualities (often unrealistically wonderful ones!) onto the Neptune person. The Neptune person will likely be charmed by the attention, and may be inclined at times to feed the Sun person's imagination in order to keep his or her devotion levels high. This is not a conscious attempt to deceive the Sun person!

As I have mentioned elsewhere, Neptune in synastry has often been associated with one person trying to deceive another person, but in reality, this happens much less frequently than the following, more probable scenario: the Neptune person tends to "play along" with the personal planet person's image, and the intention is not to hurt that person. What can happen is that the Neptune person ends up promising more than he or she can give. If the Neptune person eventually backs out, or slips away slowly, the Sun person can feel saddened and even slighted, feeling that Neptune was misleading. Misunderstandings can be the result, and every attempt should be made to keep the dreams and visions of the relationship not only realistic, but also clear and defined. In most cases, Neptune does not want to hurt Sun, and this may be the motivating factor behind Neptune's tendency to avoid bursting Sun's bubble. The Sun person should attempt to avoid putting the Neptune person on a pedestal as well. Both of you should consciously try to avoid offering each other unrealistic hopes. They will come back to haunt you! (In the sense that they will undermine your relationship, and possibly to the point of little chance of recovery). The important thing to remember, with the square and opposition, is that although the Sun person seems to want to see the best in a Neptune person, people are not able to completely snow themselves. The Sun person will eventually feel a certain level of mistrust, and might even swing from seeing the Neptune person as completely wonderful to seeing that person as someone who is completely evil. The ups and downs can be taxing. The Sun person should remember that if he or she has to make excuses for the Neptune person (whether those excuses are made to others or to oneself), then they are not seeing the Neptune person clearly. They are truly not accepting that person, warts and all.

posted February 02, 2010 06:29 AM         

but back to what you mentioned, i started to notice that the houses and the planets (or nodes) that fall in them are actually able to even affect you and your chart. but just as if their chart was yours, in a way. so someone with saturn in the second would more than likely be a person that's hard on themselves and has had to work extra hard on their self esteem. that saturn in their second house, will be felt by you.. in what house? that im not sure of. i was trying to ask around to see if it was felt in the same sign or in the same house but i never got around to it LOL!

neptune opposite venus sounds a bit dangerous. simply because neptune blurs and in a case of it aspecting venus, it sounds like its up for total disappointment. its just asking for codependency. the venus would be in a sense, blindfolded with the neptune and the neptune would play along and guide u to where they feel u want to go. which is no good. if u get into ruts or stumble while walking u may lash out or speak out about it making the neptune do what neptune does best, escape. and the venus will most likely continue to be blindfolded waiting for neptune to come back to guide u. it doesnt sound too fun. especially while blindfolded. while neptunes gone, you'd still be there wearing ur blindfolds so i think the venus person would be suffering, in a sense.

posted February 02, 2010 08:42 AM         

I wrote about my long relationship, more friendship: his Venus exact on my Neptune in 12th. That is romantic aspect.
Me, as Neptune didn't see, how much he felt for me. He was Venus (love), I was Neptune (didn't see or understood).

In any kind is good to have it, but not in the 12th, as Neptune is already 12th house, means double 12th house is double blindness.

Bobbie

posted February 02, 2010 09:30 AM         

I disagree. I think it is very useful to consider both methods.