posted February 02, 2010 11:17 PM         

I don't usually like to post questions such as this on public forums, but at the moment, I'm at a loss as to what to do. For the last few weeks, I've been having serious conflict with one of my best friends. I don't really know what's going on on his end, as he doesn't seem to be particularly disposed to discussing our issues at the moment (which is kind of distressing, as I'm leaving town tomorrow for a week, and I don't like the idea of all of this ill will festering for longer than it needs to). In any case, as of the last few weeks, the two of us have found it increasingly difficult to get along (lots of sniping back and forth, veiled comments in public to make the other feel stupid, outright ignoring each other, etc), and over what I'm not entirely sure.

For some reason (at least on my end, as like I've said, we're not particularly chummy at the moment), I feel like I've been sustaining a lot of negative comments from him lately, which intentionally or not, have resulted in a lot of hurt feelings on my end. I feel like he's sort of dragging me down by taking a very negative view of things (i.e., he tends to see the world very much so in terms of black and white with very little gray, he tends to be quite judgmental, and doesn't really understand more formal social situations which has resulted in a few awkward instances of late).

All in all, I'm sort of at a loss as to what to do, especially as he's one of my closest friends. Granted, I know that I haven't been particularly mature in the conflict (whatever it is), but neither has he. In the end, though, I'd really rather not loose a friend over something really stupid.

I know that astrology isn't going to fix any problems with my friend, and I'm not asking it to (nor am I really asking for any advice in handling the situation), but nonetheless, I'm sort of curious as to whether there are any transits or synastry aspects between the two of us that could lead to such feelings? I'd be really grateful if anyone could take a look at the chart(s) and give me an idea.

Me
April 13, 1990 (17:06)
Madison, Tennessee, USA

posted February 03, 2010 01:21 AM         

I'm an Aries and often attract Pisceans.. My closest friend of a decade now is a Pisces. But she has Venus/Mars in Aries (I have Merc/Jupiter/MC in Pisces + asteroids + other Neptune stuff).
This guy has nothing in Aries. You have your Venus in Pisces. Maybe he just doesn't understand you.
At least you have *one* planet in his sign, so I'm guessing you have a slightly better understanding of him.
You do have some things in common - mainly Virgo and Aquarius related.. but none of these aspects are close ones - so I'm not sure how relevant they are.

posted February 03, 2010 01:24 AM         

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or am I really asking for any advice in handling the situation

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Unwanted advice coming up:

Avoid him and look sad. If he says hi - look sad. Always look sad.

Tell him you're considering cutting yourself because life's a bi*tch.

posted February 03, 2010 09:11 AM         

Leaping, what stands out about that particular aspect in his chart? Just curious, as we were born somewhat close together (a month-ish), and as such, I've got the same aspect.

Belgz,
I don't know how to do a composite chart with transits (I don't see the option for that on astro.com???) but here's a composite, with transits for each of us:

Composite

Transits for Me

posted February 03, 2010 02:51 PM         

Avoid him and look sad. If he says hi - look sad. Always look sad.

Tell him you're considering cutting yourself because life's a bi*tch.

He'll be on his best behavior in no time.
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Vapor, Are u serius? or this is one of ur fun-loving stories. i am candidly curious.

Cara

posted February 03, 2010 02:54 PM         

for doing the composite goes to other chart selection, then go to composite and then when the chart pop up, u will see the option "with transits"

posted February 04, 2010 07:05 AM         

Cara - It was said in fun.. BUT – I do believe that to be true for this person.