posted February 04, 2010 07:21 AM         

Annoyingly, being an Aries Moon myself I have a pretty strong like for chasing love interests myself, and as a result, choosing men who are hard to get.

But what do you do when the person you are chasing would prefer to chase you?

I'm so confused... Does anybody know how to effectively play hard to get and if this will work on an Aries Venus?

I know this has probably been asked before so please post me the links if you know them!
Any fresh advice is also very welcome!

posted February 04, 2010 07:29 AM         

I fall hard and fast for a guy who has wit, charm, blunt honesty and great sex appeal. Men who are too sexually forward bore me - no challenge. Men who mix it up so my head is in a bit of a spin get my attention. Once my attention is caught then flattery and being attentive without suffocating me works well.

posted February 04, 2010 07:48 AM         

I have recently come to the conclusion that I will never ever again chase a man (or not overtly anyway) My firm belief is that they need to do it. They need to be the ones who choose you. And although I like a good chase myself, I think it devalues you in a man's eyes to appear to be chasing them.

It's awful, I know, I wish I didn't feel like this but I do, it's from experience, I don't feel bitter or anything, I just feel that women and men are different this way. I have laid my cards on the table too much is my opinion, and I think I messed up doing that.

posted February 04, 2010 08:44 AM         

So is the general consensus is to let him chase me, but somehow continue to show I AM interested in him....? Would playing him at his own game be an idea at all? Because at the moment he won't give anything definite away.... just keeps hinting and then backing off continually!

posted February 04, 2010 08:45 AM         

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My answer: let him.

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This is my answer, too, for similar reasons to Wheels (and I'm an Aries Sun).

I wasn't the only one chasing - it's been mutual - but I've been the more open and honest, and at the moment, I am a little bitter. From now on, if they want me, they can come and find me; if I'm available, then we'll see. I no longer have patience for the push/pull - either he's interested, or he isn't. If he is, then he should stick around, and make it known.

posted February 04, 2010 09:41 AM         

MNF - If I were you I'd get myself a copy of "Born to be Together" by Terri Lamb and read it fast. It is GREAT. And it's all about the start of relationships being soooo important.

Basically MNF, have faith in your own special uniqueness and attractiveness. If he wants you he will come to you. There is a big difference between "head games" and just having the faith to have a little patience and take your time. Of course if he's an Aries Venus man you don't want to be too aloof and dry, he is after all attracted to your own spontaneity and spirit as an Aries Moon woman, so be warm. Just don't give it all up too fast out of insecurity. If he doesn't pursue you and doesn't take the time to understand why you are special, then he's not sincere in his liking of you, and therefore not worth the having. You are a queen. Don't forget it.

Good luck!

posted February 04, 2010 10:34 AM         

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Basically MNF, have faith in your own special uniqueness and attractiveness. If he wants you he will come to you. There is a big difference between "head games" and just having the faith to have a little patience and take your time. Of course if he's an Aries Venus man you don't want to be too aloof and dry, he is after all attracted to your own spontaneity and spirit as an Aries Moon woman, so be warm. Just don't give it all up too fast out of insecurity. If he doesn't pursue you and doesn't take the time to understand why you are special, then he's not sincere in his liking of you, and therefore not worth the having. You are a queen. Don't forget it.

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posted February 04, 2010 10:59 AM         

I disagree about them getting bored because believe me they dont. They love to chase. They hate the open out there slutty look too. Dont call them all the time. Never act desperate and have your own life. Do not and i repeat do not sleep with them before minimum 1 month or longer. Dont brag about sexual stuff either. Be friendly, laugh be interesting but a mystery. Dont talk about ur ex. Dont talk about why u broke up with your ex. Be independant!! Once a blue moon cancel your plans with him at the last minute saying you forgot you had other plans. Never mention marriage or babies or your age and the obvious clingy desperate stuff. Be sexy and aloof. They like more bossy type stron women. Dont be bossy to attract though. Always deny sex initially even after youve done it. They love when you say no so as long as its a no they can get around later. Make them want you .be unobtainable and keep them interested. Flirt with them by playing cat and mouse.
Remember you are the female and you choose who you want to pursue you, not he should be choosing you. Always remember action speak louder than words so if he isnt chasing you move on. They usually know what they want. All men are biologically programmed to chase us not just venus in aries. Your boring if you like to chase. I would assume you dont have a successful relationship on your resume cause of it. I have venus in leo and i never ever chase. He must admire me and do everything to make me come to him. I never go out of my way but im not a bit ch either.

posted February 04, 2010 03:49 PM         

They will be completely, totally enthralled with you at the beginning but maintaining that energy might be difficult. You will have 100% of his attention once he decides he wants you and that can be a little unnerving if you're not used to that intensity but the downside is that it can disappear just as fast if he gets bored BUT as an Aries Moon you should be able to keep him entertained

posted February 04, 2010 04:16 PM         

Always keep us on our toes! What sun sign is he?

posted February 04, 2010 07:50 PM         

teasel- it doesn't work well when you're open and honest with guys sometimes does it... which makes no sense! Same problem.

comica- yes, I read somewhere they were the ones who liked to be chased..! But I think consensus here says it's the other way around.

wheels of cheese- I will pick up that book next time I'm in a shop! And thank you that's really sweet. And you're right, if he doesn't keep pursuing me he can't be that sincere.

posted February 04, 2010 07:50 PM         

belgz- wow what a list! Thank you. Haha ermmm... well, I did have one relationship which lasted 2 years (I'm 19) but I reckon you're right that men don't like women doing the chasing. Trying to stop myself here! And lol "easy targets"..!

StarrofVenusGirl- Ohh I'm not sure he thinks of me as innocent sadly I am by no means someone who gets around at all. But I am not sure he knows that because I do come across quite confident sexually... Thanks for your tips btw! You think Aries Moon is a good match for Aries Venus?

maira- He is a Pisces...! I am a Virgo. Does that change things?

posted February 04, 2010 08:34 PM         

It depends on the synastry. If you're the Sun/Mars, then chase him. If you're Venus/Moon, let him come to you.

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Because at the moment he won't give anything definite away.... just keeps hinting and then backing off continually!

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Seems like you're cast in the masculine role here, in this case you must take the initiative. Playing hard to get is a Venus trait, and he seems to have that covered.

Venus in Aries, from experience wants to be chased. She flirts, teases, dares and if you don't get the message, she will bump into you to get her message across.

posted February 05, 2010 05:07 PM         

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maira- He is a Pisces...! I am a Virgo. Does that change things?

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Yeap, the backing off thing just screamed water sun sign to me

Logic should of told me it couldn't be anything else than Pisces, because venus is always near the sun. I had the same experience with a Cancer sun, Aries mars, Leo venus. His sun sign screwed everything up, I still can't figure out if he was shy, if I did something wrong or if he simply wasn't interested.

But um, cat-and-mouse sounds good, and lots of confidence. My experience with the Cancer sun guy taught me that they absorb whatever emotion the other person displays (I got scared, he got scared also, I was happy, he was happy), and I think in Pisces's case, it's like that also.

But, I'm lots and lots of fire, and air, I simply don't get water signs!!