posted February 16, 2010 10:39 PM         

if it's not "neutral" then you are feeling something for the man!!

you have mars conj sun/uranus in synastry which can be pretty explosive, but only explosive if there are needs in the relationship that aren't being met. mars/uranus is a cover, it blows up when it feels that the structure of the relationship is of faulty material. it blows up just to make waves, just to feel something. it's not out and out dislike, it's just somewhat bored and wants fireworks. it can feel incredibly irritating though..incredibly.

your sun/uranus is on his dsc so the uranus you bring a very, what can feel like anyway, a very shaky unstable foundation to him. he already has mars in h7 of others in sadge so he can naturally be a bit touchy with others, and sadge typically does not control what comes out of its mouth. his mars is conj jupiter so all this is exaggerated as well.

what's very good in terms of balance is your jupiter/saturn trine his sun. it's in air signs, so there is a definite point where you 2 can meet, rationalize, get to grips about whats going on, compromise and move forward.

but then there's mercury square moon. your moon his merc. this can be a very touchy aspect. you as the moon will likely feel rubbed the wrong way by what he says (his merc) but it's likely with this that it's just simple misunderstanding. he can hardly change the way he communicates the same as you can hardly change the way you feel. you just do. only with mature dialogue can this be worked through. the spanner in the works though is uranus, his uranus is square his mercury and it's opposed your moon. this could add stubbornness to his mental nature and possibly lead him to be perverse in a way that completely disqualifies what you feel as a result. it's frustrating.

on the other hand, his moon is conjunct your mars. another aspect of touchiness. but this time he feels that you may sometimes run roughshod over his feelings. your own mars is in sagittarius so you know a thing or 2 about his own martian nature! his moon issquare his pluto so he's already very sensitive underneath and prone to over-reaction, your mars on top of his moon and square his pluto is not likely to feel very calming to him. but it could be very stimulating, if you know what i mean! in a sexual context in a relationship that values give and take this aspect is nice and lively. in a relationship that is already starved of care and compromise this could feel very oppressive and provoke arguments over emotional slights.

his venus trine your moon is a lil wide but it helps. more for you than for him.

if you can both get your heads out of your butts you could take this relationship and make it work (by using the lovely air trine) for whatever practical or personal purpose you'd like, but first you'd both have to rise above some very frustrating feelings that you -both- evoke in each other. the only question to ask is if its worth all that work. if not, then avoid avoid avoid if you value your emotional/psychic well-being.

~L

posted February 17, 2010 02:56 AM         

No one listens...

posted February 17, 2010 03:07 AM         

I have no idea what he wants from you. Didn't you say he said he loves you? I'm trying to understand what you want from him. It sounds like you had some sort of romantic thing, but then he couldn't leave his wife because he's infertile ( I don't understand that part), but he still is pursuing you, even though you don't want him anymore.. Did I get it right?

posted February 17, 2010 03:14 AM         

I have always respect him,I dont feel love into him,I liked his frinedship and he was very valuable person for me..But there is a thin line,sometimes people or one side can go to beyond th line..For 2 years I have always seen him as only friend,manager,etc..but when he said he is n love with me for 1,5 years(he said one sided from his side) i was shocked.I told him:'I can go and find another job'..But he did not accept this.He did not want to change my life from his feelings,but then he began to behave unbalanced,he start to pressure me,and now some stories...

posted February 17, 2010 03:25 AM         

It's not possible for another person to ruin our life without our permission.

I believe that the people around us are a mirror that helps us see ourselves more clearly. My suggestion to you is to look more deeply into your situation. Stop seeing him as an enemy, that's the first step. Then ask yourself "What is he teaching me about myself?" He is showing you something about you (most probably something that you need to change), but unless you take a look you won't see it.