posted February 16, 2010 10:47 PM         

A Venus-Ascendant can be an affectionate personality

Raymond

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"Nothing matters absolutely;
the truth is it only matters relatively"

posted February 17, 2010 03:01 AM         

I told him it will never happen. He thinks I'm joking when I say that and he says "you never know" etc...

I find him superficial (no offense to anyone else with this combo). I get a distinct feeling that if I put on 10 kg or had a scar or looked a little worse in some way, he'd bolt for the hills.

It's alllllll about the looks. When I told him that looks didn't interest me - He gave me this *blank* stare. I think he doesn't take me very seriously. I have a Pisces Mercury myself - but his Mercury is Aquarius. I think he's under the impression I'm "bluffing"..

Anyway - I find him silly overall.
I have my guy (call him X). I'm really happy to have met him. He's a very strong person. X would never leave someone for stupid superficial reasons. He's been *through* a lot in his life. I find him reliable & caring.. my Cap Moon loves that.

X has a Virgo Venus and my Venus *may* be in Taurus.. Grly - you might just have a Virgo Venus lined up somewhere lol We're both Cap Moon as well.

posted February 17, 2010 05:40 AM         

I have found, interestingly enough, that my mom has this venus-saturn conjunction in Capricorn.

My Dad has this conjunction between his moon and saturn in Capricorn and a Virgo venus.

They are not particularly affectionate with each other and subsequently I have grown up believing that their relationship was more brother-sister in nature than romantic. I thought that this was the case with all parents and romance was only for unmarried/young people.lol.

It's interesting that Saturn and Capricorn seem to feature a lot on issues like "being withdrawn" ,"cold", and "unaffectionate".

I had my first real sexual experience pretty late(in my 20's) and am what people refer to as a "late bloomer". I think this conjunction had a huge hand to play in this.

I don't think that venus aspecting saturn/capricorn flirts. And if they do flirt, they are usualy not that great at it and come off looking ridiculous.

This position makes a person(well, atleast in my experience) look dignified and "above it all" to be considered a flirt, often they paly hard to get. It could very well be that the other party is doing the seduction and flirting whilst the discerning venus in capricorn/venus aspect to Saturn looks for every reason under the sun, not to give in(even if they want to).

A teacher of mine also had this conjunction, but in aries, and although she was very beautiful,I just couldn't picture her being the dotting,giddy girlfriend.She always seemed strong and indepenedent(could have been the aries sign); the type of women that found men dispensable.

Even when I eventually saw her with him, they seemed more like esteemed colleagues than lovers.He walked a small distance behind her and at some moments,I'd swear I'd see her cueing him to "keep up".

posted February 17, 2010 12:24 PM         

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Anyway to any of you other Venus Cap/Venus Saturn are you affectionate at all.

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I have a Cap Venus. I'm physically affectionate and have been my whole life. I wrap my arm around acquaintances, give friends a kiss on the cheek when they say something that moves me, often give brief back rubs, things like that. I like to touch and be touched. Even some volunteer work I do centers around touch.

But I also really respect touch and know how powerful it can be, how it can bond people. So I wouldn't freely touch someone who I thought would interpret it as romantic when it's not.

In general, I wouldn't behave like your Aqua with an ex unless I were certain that the other person was no longer seriously interested in me romantically. I'd risk a hug hello, but certainly not multiple ones. That's just asking for trouble, says my Cap Venus.

In this situation, I wouldn't act the way he is unless I was flirting. You did tell him that you wouldn't date him, but you also said that you have feelings for him. So I would know that those strong feelings would make any touching intensely felt. I don't know if he's not looking at it that way, or if he is and knows exactly what he's doing.

You two have a Moon-Venus cnj on his ASC. He probably finds sweetly caring for you an impossible urge to resist. His own Venus-Neptune cnj plus his Aqua Sun may override his Cap Venus' pragmatism. Cap says there are appropriate ways to treat an ex so as to avoid misunderstandings. Neptune doesn't care about that, and his Aqua Sun probably finds affection between friends attractive. Telling him you care about him but don't want to date him may have been music to his Neptune and Aqua ears! A free pass to show you how much he adores you outside of an official relationship.