posted March 17, 2010 02:41 AM            

I googled explanations on this aspect and ended up feeling very scared, it is as if one's romantic relationships are doomed to fail.

Or maybe it is not that pessimistic.

Would someone elaborate on Saturn in the 7th?
Lessons? Experiences? The positive side of it?

posted March 17, 2010 02:53 AM            

My mother has Saturn IN her 7th (along with Pluto, and I think Mars too. She's been married 3 times. Has she had bad luck in love? Well, not really. She ended up being married to a really great guy - my stepfather is wonderful and they've been happy for 26 or 27 years.

I think no matter WHAT sign you have on your 7th, there will always be work to do

It bothers me though that such fatalistic crap exists out there, cookbook interpretations to turn people off and scare them, offer them nothing in the way of understanding.

posted March 17, 2010 03:29 AM            

Saturn is exalted in the 7th house, because it is exalted in Libra.

Saturn and relationships might not sound like an attractive combination but he does an important job and he has a positive side. He isn't just obstacles and restriction. He is foundations and serious bonds.

Saturn is the father, and if you are lucky like me, that image is someone who gives good advice and can be relied upon.

In my working relationships I have always got on well with older men. They look after me, introduce me to important people, help me get along.

In my family relationships there are plenty of Saturn interactions. That makes sense to me, that is where we are dutiful and long-term committed.

In romantic relationships I have been with the same person for nearly 20 years. He is older than me, very career-orientated. He has a natal Sun CNJ Saturn. He says things like, "don't sell yourself short, you can do better than that."

Saturn gets a hard time on on a messageboard that is over-balanced towards short term romances. Discuss long-term relationships, friendships and family, it starts to make more sense.

posted March 17, 2010 06:52 AM            

If person has Saturn in the seventh they may have fears or anxieties about entering a relationship. Someone with Saturn in the seventh will not be comfortable with the concept of "there are other fish in the sea"(unless Jupiter or Uranus are heavily involved in the chart) to cheer them up once they have decided they will invest in "the one". Relationships can be seen as purely duty or responsibility, even if this fear is unfounded and not true in their current relationship. Saturn in the seventh thinks when pondering about investing in a relationship "I want love/companionship....but at what cost?"

An older partner, someone who adds structure to their life, or someone successful could be seen as ideal for Saturn in the seventh. This placement does not mean you will never marry or marriage will not be successful, only adds to the chance that you will find your true soulmate later in life than most.

posted March 17, 2010 11:21 AM            

A guy I dated had this placement. He was very Saturnine, with his Ascendant and Venus in Capricorn. He is still looking for his true love, and has been disappointed many times. He has high expectations, and wants a serious commitment with someone he deems worthy. Dating for him is like work.

posted March 17, 2010 12:11 PM            

I got married a long time before my Saturn return and now I am a long way past it.

The return of Saturn to my 7th house was very positive for me - at this time I had my first child. This was after having had several miscarriages in a row.

posted March 17, 2010 12:33 PM              

i would say if you marry the wrong person someone's saturn will create a split...but i agree with BM that saturn is exalted in the 7th

saturn takes possibilities and gives them structure. i agree that in 7th it often seems to indicate an age difference between the partners...which can go either way. HE had saturn in the 2nd house and so "success" in business and material things was where he was going.

posted March 17, 2010 03:48 PM              

my bf´s brother has saturn in the 7th.cancer.sqyares his moon/uranus/merc/kiron.

not easy i bet.he married around his saturn return.with 28yr i guess but it only lasted 3 years.

since then that he had several gf,like breaks up with one,some weeks later another one is there...ive never seen a person with saturn in 7th to be so---womanizer---but for now he is with a gf for 3 years and that is his highsest score till now.

i agree that if you marry with the wrong person,then the saturn return mighr break it apart.

hmm i think he had some gf much older than him too.

this is from skyviewzone

"Saturn in the 7th House

This is a lifetime to perfect the art of one-on-one relationships. As a marriage partner you will last through even the worst of times and your close friendships can endure for a lifetime."

posted March 17, 2010 03:59 PM            

In addition to this, the person is more likely to end with a man who is much older than her and with a man who will give you structure. :P

You see, I have had my experiences with older men and did not like them at all. At the beginning, I had this ideal that dating an older man meant dating a more mature man.

Perchance, for other women, dating an older man makes her feel secure and directed somehow. But for me, these relationships were stifling, I found the men as being too controlling, domineering and too serious.

I am a self-reliant woman who has been taking care of herself on her own since the age of 17. I don’t need a daddy or mother figure, besides, I already have my parents.

Now, I am with a virgo, he also has virgo moon and Capricorn rising. He has Saturn in Scorpio in the 10th house. If his birth time is correct, his Saturn is conjunct my venus in Scorpio. This man is only a few years older than me, he is young, looks youthful (must be the virgo in him), mature, hard-working, fun and laidback but above all I feel free with him. I have Saturn in Sagittarius in the 7th house.

With my previous relationships, I always felt as if I had to work more than the other person, felt anxious about arguments, relationships, ect. I felt patronized because of being young and I look like a 16 year old….but now, I just feel very secure at the moment, my virgo partner respects me and wants to make the relationship work with me, arguments occur and we don’t worry because we know everything will be all right. We never insult each other and have a deep respect toward one another. But above all, I feel free! I feel free! (within the relationship).

And even the possible Saturn conjunct venus in our synastry does not play out as it is described. Over and over I read that I should be the ‘child’ and my partner, ‘saturn-the father’ but thus far, I have always been more of the teacher and more mature with all the people I have dated.

I have always been very mature for my age and deemed as an 'old soul'.

Instead of being with ‘saturn-the father’, I rather be with an equal and not with a fatherly man.

Maybe having a Saturnian partner works better for virgo, cancer and pisces women. I have seen plenty of cancer and pisces women with saturnian men but for a scorpio-taurus with some sag and aqua like me, I just have a hard time tolerating authoritarian- fatherly type folks.

I have a great respect toward my elders, but that is about it.

posted March 17, 2010 04:46 PM            

I'm a Virgo with an Aries Moon and Taurus rising/Scorpio Venus.... I don't like having any type of 'authority' lorded over me. Yet even the square my sun and Mercury get from my boyfriend's Saturn isn't annoying to me - maybe because he's got Saturn well-integrated in his own chart, and isn't into power trips. IN addition my own MC is in Capricorn, and Saturn squares my 7th house ruler. I am used to some of that Saturn energy.

You need some hard Saturn aspects usually to establish some glue in a relationship anyway. But they don't necessarily need to play out in a terrible way.

posted March 17, 2010 06:22 PM            

There's no rule that that Saturn Return will break up a happy relationship. It didn't work out like that for me, as one example. That doesn't mean I am disagreeing with that suggestion. It is just one way that particular symbolism has played out in their experience.

posted October 14, 2013 09:13 AM            

Other than that, my friendships are lasting. I have very close friends ( 20 to 30 years of friendship ) whom I am very devoted and loyal.

In my early young years, I was attracted to older man but it did not took too long to discover, guys more or less at my age better for me

I am a rebel in my family but still very loyal to them. I care about them deeply.

I am a Capricorn, ascendant, venus, mercury in Cap as well.

I have 3 other friends who have Saturn in the 7th house.

Let's say A - sun Sagittarius, ascendant Cap. woman; Saturn in Cancer / 7th - married at the age of 23, divorced in her Saturn return. After that it has been nearly 13 years now, she has been in and out numerous relationships. She loves men and can handle several at the same time. But there is always something off about her relationships. Now, she is single. she says she likes being single. She has always been a free spirit. She is naughty and very funny.

B- sun Leo, asc. Libra woman; Saturn in Taurus / 7th - never had a "proper" relationship even though she wanted. So far the only relationship she had was at the age of 40 and with a musician 15 years younger than her. She was kinda mothering her. It lasted 1,5 year. She is mostly platonic. She is still single. She has always been a free spirit. A very joyful & animated one.

C-Sun Cancer, Asc Libra woman; Saturn in Taurus / 7th - in her teendays she had a relationship with a guy who she cheated but could not forget for nearly 10 years. She was always in search of a relationship, had numerous lovers - most not classy at all but sadly always got her broken. At the age of 40, she got married and now has a child. Unfortunately, I sense sooner or later there will be a divorce if she can fix the financial problems. She has always been a free spirit and daring.

posted October 14, 2013 11:40 AM            

Sun square Saturn
Moon tribe Saturn
Mercury square Saturn
Venus square Saturn
Saturn conjunct Neptune
Saturn conjunct Uranus
Saturn sextile Pluto

Clearly I have a lot of relationship karma to deal with in this lifetime because not only do I have Saturn in the 7th, but Uranus and Neptune there as well, and Pluto in the 5th house.