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From: Texas
Registered: May 2009

posted April 07, 2010 04:02 PM         

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This is my mom's chart. We have always gotten along well (even growing up). There were things I wouldn't have done as a parent or let my child see but for the most part, we had a good relationship. Just since my daughter was born, she is 2, I butt heads with her alot on her "grandparenting style" if you will. We live 400 mi away from her and I'm the one always making the trip. She seems to go about her own routine and if my daughter happens to fit in somewhere, then fine if not she is still gonna do it. It's not the grandparent I always imagined for my daughter. We travel all that way to see her (we don't get to see her much) and she doesn't plan special things or might leave the house and be gone for a few hrs and we are there for the weekend. I'm sorry I'm ranting...it just bothers me. She acts like my daughter should act like an adult and she is still a toddler. If she watches my daughter for me to visit (friends from high school or people in my hometown) she requires me to put her to sleep before I leave. I think it has something to do with her new husband (her being a newlywed) she may not be ready to be in that "grandmother" role but too bad...my daughter is here and she needs a grandmother. I know my daughter doesn't get it all now but she will as she gets older.
Is there a way to find out if her chart shows jealously of any kind towards my daughter? I know she is submissive in relationships, she's been married 4 times and always the same thing. Does it show this as well? Any other comments on chart...please share! thanks!

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From: richmond va
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posted April 07, 2010 04:49 PM         

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You'd look to the 9th (Children's children = 5th from the 5th) which is ruled by Mercury retrograde with a loose square to Pluto retrograde. Interpret that as you like, but really if I were a grandparent and on my "second life" so to speak (you mentioned she's newly married), I wouldn't want to be bothered by my grown up children's babies, either.

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From: Bay Area, CA
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posted April 07, 2010 05:20 PM         

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I don't really feel this is jealousy...you said she's newly wed. That alone is HUGE. Being a newly wed AND a grandmother. Talk about an internal struggle.

Maybe you should cut her a break. I don't think it's fair to expect her to act a certain way on your terms when she's having this new thing in her life... I'd give her time for sure! It doesn't matter how many times she's been married, but it DOES matter that she's newly married.

On top of that I would look more at her transits, because this is something situational and having to do with recent activity.

Also, it sounds like this would go both ways... you have an expectation of her to 'behave' a certain way... and in all honesty as another Aries Moon, lol, I can assure you we don't do well with being told what to do or how to act. Her Taurus sun won't like it either, not one bit. Your Mom was raised as a bit of a hard-a$$ by the looks of her chart and came from the school of hard knocks (lots of Aries moons tend to have combative childhoods). She's old school. She's not going to like the soft approach necessarily with raising kids. Even as a 'grandmother'. You might just need to give her time and space to grow into her role, because I can assure you she's not going to just roll over and play Pie-Making-Hallmark- Grandma...that's not her at all lol. That sweet 7th house Taurus stuff is being given to her man for the moment probably, so cut her some slack, and just realize that your daughter is probably a LOT more forgiving about this... kids are pretty unconditional.

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From: Texas
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posted April 07, 2010 11:21 PM         

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This is why I can rely on you guys...cause you tell me like it is! thanks!!

MVM: She was the oldest of 3 siblings and was definitely the "good" kid of them. Didn't get in any trouble growing up and helped her mom as much as possible. She lost her father when she was 16.

I know that my daughter's grandmother(s) are totally different from each other and you are probably right...children are more unconditional. It might just be my jealousy over the newlywed situation. They are newlyweds but have been together for 4 years.

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