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Topic: Wrong love
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Diabla
Knowflake Posts: 151
From: O
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 14, 2010 09:11 PM
 
Hello knowflakes..I'm desperate!!- I've fallen in love with the wrong guy...apparently he only sees me as a "friend". He trusts me about his recent broken relationship, etc- I think he uses me as his counsellor, the shoulder to cry on. =( He's such a lovely Pisces.....omg. !!
It's been soooooooo long since a guy affected me the way he does-  it's disturbingly sad.  I've never been on this situation before...usually the attraction goes both ways. But this guy is not interested in me in "that" way. What aspects in our synastry do you think indicate my falling in love with him so blindly???- (By the way he is not exactly sure about his exact hour of birth).
I would appreciate any insight on what you see in our synastry or composite. Thank you!! Synastry: (he's chart is the outside)-
 And this is our composite:
 PS- I've been thinking of breaking this connection, because it's not doing me any good- I cannot be his friend. It hurts. IP: Logged |
ohmybaby
Knowflake Posts: 103
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Registered: Mar 2010
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posted May 14, 2010 10:28 PM
i was talking to my dad all night last night. and i will keep my word to him. IP: Logged |
Cardinal Arbiter
Knowflake Posts: 219
From: T-dot
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 15, 2010 04:10 AM
Hey Diabla, it's been a while.  Maybe he's developed a philosophy against sexual relations, perhaps as a result of his last relationship and just wants to be friends with everyone. IP: Logged |
comica23
Knowflake Posts: 1060
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 15, 2010 04:39 AM
Jupiter/Pluto in a composite can show outer influences on the relationship, like career or other people. It can also show influence from exs. Since you've mentioned that you're his counselor for his recently broken relationship, maybe the ex's influence is strong.
Moon square Pluto can show complex emotional issues and struggles, and even manipulation in some cases.
So all these forming a t-square, it might indicate the ex problem along with emotional complex issues between you. If you can somehow relate to this, then it's better to be careful. There's Neptune oppose Moon/Venus midpoint here, so you can be caring and sensitive, but there's the danger of idealization.On the other hand, Moon trine Mars and oppose Jupiter, and Venus oppose Mars trine Jupiter. It can show attraction and good times together. I don't know how to read one sided attraction in a composite (even thought Moon and Venus usually represents the woman and Mars and Saturn usually represents the man), but with Mars involved, it could be a two sided attraction.. right? Also, Venus is conjunct Sun/Mercury, which can show affectionate communication.
But well, Saturn is opposed to Sun/Venus midpoint.. this could show devotion, but maybe his hesitance for love in this relationship as well?
(Saturn/Uranus midpoint is opposed to Venus/Chiron midpoint.. maybe his indecisiveness about this relationship or in this relationship could hurt you.) IP: Logged |
vapor-lash
Knowflake Posts: 1778
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Registered: Nov 2009
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posted May 15, 2010 05:25 AM
OOOOOOOk... That much Pisces O_O -- it's a miracle he is still alive.On a more serious note - quote:
Maybe he's developed a philosophy against sexual relations, perhaps as a result of his last relationship and just wants to be friends with everyone.
I must agree with Mr. Fish Tail himself --- Cardinal Arbiter.. Diabla -- if there ever was a time to trust in "It's NOT you, it's HIM" -- this is it! IP: Logged |
Ami Ann
Knowflake Posts: 1393
From: US
Registered: Dec 2009
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posted May 15, 2010 07:06 AM
Dear Diabla
I am gonna throw some ideas out. I am a newbie so could be all wrong. Please correct me---anyone --if I am off.
His 8th house--deep unconscious --has Saturn and Mars conjuncting your Uranus.
This must be significant cuz it is a strong set of circumstances.
Uranus is free spirited---do what you feel---go where you will go---and he has a lot of power squelching that----dampening or hindering that in you.
It looks like that would be a continual hardship.
His Pluto is on your moon. I have that in Synastry. I feel that one makes me feel great tenderness to him.
I feel like I want to nurture and protect his emotions.
My Pluto(strength, will) wants to make life better for him
*I* hear YOU saying this about this guy. You have a strong heart for him.You care for him deeply.
Perhaps--this aspect does that.I think it may .
His Neptune is on your Jupiter. Jupiter is expansion and going forward in a joyful exuberant way in life(I think  ) and his Neptune may impede that in you by making you think something is there which is not.
People have said this and you have to so maybe this aspect reflects what you said --above.
I hate to see you hurting (((Diabla))).
Love is two edged sword---for sure--even in the best of circumstances and the best of relationships x o x o Ami IP: Logged |
angel100
Knowflake Posts: 103
From: Ireland
Registered: Nov 2009
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posted May 15, 2010 08:05 AM
Diabla, First of all I would like to sympathize with you on this one. Unrequited feelings are never an easy thing to deal with. To be honest the first thing that hopped out at me when I seen the bi- wheel was that this guy has his moon conjunct pluto........Two of my exes had hard moon pluto aspects..one had moon square pluto and the other pluto conjunct moon. They came on strong at the beginning and then a few weeks in to both relationships I sensed that they were still very much hung up on their ex's!!!! It was so bad both times that I had to dump them and vow to never date another guy with moon pluto hard aspects...To be fair they weren't hung up on their ex's....they were more obsessed. Turns out both guys had been cheated on by their ex's and then dumped...and they had never really gotten over it. I'd safely say that that's what's going on here with Mr. Pisces.....he's still obsessed with her. My advice would be to stay away, well away, no matter how nice he is and how much you like him...YOU WILL GET HURT IP: Logged |
Happy Dragon
Knowflake Posts: 432
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 15, 2010 04:00 PM
diabla's chart with current transits and natal aspects ( if it's any help )
~ http://www.happydragon.pwp.blueyonder.co.uk/temp/x150510.gif ~just a note .. transiting Saturn is hitting on natal Neptune
natal neptune is in aspect with natal mercury on the dsc ..
t.bm.lillith be on the asc
actually t.saturn is still retro .. bearing down on natal bm.lillith by opposition
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maybe an idea to look at his natal as well ???? IP: Logged |
ohmybaby
Knowflake Posts: 103
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Registered: Mar 2010
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posted May 15, 2010 04:09 PM
Transit Saturn is also hitting on Mars... bad news... IP: Logged |
Diabla
Knowflake Posts: 151
From: O
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 15, 2010 05:52 PM
Aaww... I'm so touched by all the replies! thank you so much guys  I'll reply one by one.. and you are all so right! Oh.. This is killing me. =( and the reason also it hurts so bad it's because it's been a long time since I've felt such strong love for someone. I was having fun !- until this guy walked into my life. =S I also know he's a danger to fall with, because like a complicated pisces- not only he's a devoted psychic artist and lover of humanity but is painfully addicted to some drug.  He's not the kind of guy I'd fall for- but I think something happened when he showed me his vulnerability and sensitivity, like awakening something in my silly cancer heart that wanted to offer him a shelter for life. Heh. *Cardinal Arbiter!! wow- it's been really a long time!! HOW ARE YOU?
You may be right, I' don't know what to think anymore.. *Comica23- Well you are spot on, the influence of this woman is too strong. He complains and talks about how evil she is(a scorpio woman! and how she used and abused his oh so tender heart), so he cannot focus on anything else than her. I think he is still in love or maybe a bit obsessed like you said. You also nailed it when you said we had good times together. Actually it's FANTASTIC and time flies when it's only the 2 of us. About attraction, well at first I thought maybe he was feeling it for me as well, but then- all I hear is words about his ex. So... *Vapor-lash - hah...he's absolutely unique in a sensitive kind of way. He always say he feels too much- he's kind of psychic as well but does not know how to channell his power. **************continue next post IP: Logged |
Diabla
Knowflake Posts: 151
From: O
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 15, 2010 06:00 PM
*Ami-Ann - aww thank you for your words 
Well his Pluto is opposite my Moon and my Pluto is conjunct his Moon. Theseare bad omen! arent. they?
I think I'm a positive force in his life, but maybe he's not THAT positive for me. I'm pretty unhappy since I met him. But love you cannot control and I cannot help what I feel about him.
It's stupid and irrational. Angel100- You are right as well. He does not let go of that old relationship!!. Ahh.. I don't know.
Thanks for the advice based on your experiences. =) *HappyDragon- Hello Hello! long time not seeing you as well.
I'll put his birth chart later on. Thanks everyone for the advice and interpretations, I think the best thing is to let go of this connection (MUCH EASIER SAID THAN DONE) as I suspect it will not improve but only get worse. IP: Logged |
Ami Ann
Knowflake Posts: 1393
From: US
Registered: Dec 2009
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posted May 18, 2010 10:36 AM
What is going on , Diabla????
 Ami
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Diabla
Knowflake Posts: 151
From: O
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 23, 2010 07:35 PM
Hi Ami!Well I haven't seen the guy for a week now- ...I'm staying away, and I'm doing really good. Taking a step back and gaining perspective. I'm feeling a much better. Thanks for asking!
Love to you
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