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Topic: How Direct Can you Be ?-Your Acsendant & Venus ?
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swirl-kitt
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posted May 23, 2010 12:49 PM
 
Let's say that you find yourself in a relationship with someone but the boundaries are not yet set..You feel like if you exert too much pressure the girl/guy might back off a little(or completely ?), but you feel jealous and want to be in control and don't want them getting involved with other people. So what do you do ? Have you always been really direct with your lovers ? I always just let them do whatever they want, because I feel like unless they are in love with me, or really want to stay with me or be loyal to me, I wouldn't force them to. I'd rather be sincere than pretend. I have cancer asc and libra venus so I guess that makes me a coward  and I'm a control freak as well but that doesn't help at all ! lol IP: Logged |
Ami Ann
Knowflake Posts: 1413
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Registered: Dec 2009
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posted May 23, 2010 12:59 PM
What are your other placements like Mars? Ami IP: Logged |
angel100
Knowflake Posts: 110
From: Ireland
Registered: Nov 2009
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posted May 23, 2010 01:04 PM
I have virgo ascendant and venus in libra  , in relationships at the beginning I act not bothered and not that interested which makes him all jealous and controlling lol Venus in libra taking the line of least resistance there I think lolIP: Logged |
seeker3030
Knowflake Posts: 161
From: UK
Registered: Dec 2009
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posted May 23, 2010 01:09 PM
I have Cancer Asc and Scorpio Venus and I tend to be inwardly possessive but outwardly I give lots of space. If you love someone set them free and all that...IP: Logged |
pretty_uglybefore
Knowflake Posts: 47
From: scotland
Registered: Jun 2009
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posted May 23, 2010 01:35 PM
I have Capricorn Ascendant and Aries Venus, I think I am very cautious about getting hurt but like to know where I stand as well.... this can be different when combined with my Aries Venus because when I fall, it's hard and fast and I live to love..... I ADORE doting on somebody and making them feel loved. So it's a bit of a mix for me.... =) IP: Logged |
Benedict Moon*
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posted May 23, 2010 01:53 PM
Capricorn Asc. and Gemini Venus: I'm pretty aloof in the beginning but if we're entering that relationship in the first place then there's obviously gonna be boundaries, otherwise we would've still been in some sort of permanent court stage. IP: Logged |
Ami Ann
Knowflake Posts: 1413
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Registered: Dec 2009
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posted May 23, 2010 03:35 PM
I have Scorpio Ascendant and Gemini Venus. If I care for someone--I want them to be honest with me--no matter how much the honesty hurts.
I am this way with female friends, too.
For me, a relationship has no value without honesty--fearless honesty.
That must be the Scorpio .
Ami
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Lara
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posted May 23, 2010 05:53 PM
I'm pathetic... i am never direct in this way and i always have a game of mental table tennis with myself wondering IF they like me or IF they wanna be my boyfriend lolI am really shy when it comes to my relationships and it takes me ages to open up. IP: Logged |
Lonake
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posted May 23, 2010 07:09 PM
Asc Leo, Venus Capricorn ~ quote:
You feel like if you exert too much pressure the girl/guy might back off a little(or completely ?), but you feel jealous and want to be in control and don't want them getting involved with other people...So what do you do ? Have you always been really direct with your lovers ?
If I'm with them then I want to be *there with them* so first line of action is to make their experience in the relationship so great that they wouldn't want to be with anyone else, then I use my intuition to see if its working. If I feel I have to say the words, 'I want us to be together with no one else in the way' then I will. The guys like when I'm forward so I don't have a problem with fearing they'll run away if I speak up. If they're backing off they're likely not right for you, I wouldn't waste my time there. IP: Logged |
jane
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Registered: Jul 2009
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posted May 24, 2010 02:53 PM
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Cap VenusI'm direct. (Mars cnj Jupiter and sextile my Asc. Fire Sun and Moon.) If they didn't want to be with only me, I wouldn't want to be with them romantically. It's that genuine exclusivity that really turns me on. Part of the pre-hook up flirtation always involved the two of us showing a strong sense of loyalty to one another. When they showed loyalty, I'd respond with more warmth, affection, and interest. Also during discussions they'd learn about my disinterest in casual dating. So by the time things took a sexual turn, it was assumed we'd be monogamous. Sometimes one of us would explicitly state that assumption just to be clear we were on the same page. Besides my Asc, Venus, and Leo Moon, I think this is largely because I have Pluto on my Venus/Juno midpoint. My Cap Venus and Cancer Juno are quindecile. The vibe between us has gotta be tight and loyal and craving commitment for me to feel that extreme emotional and sexual stimulation that I like to feel with a man. W/o that vibe, the connection feels too weak and inconsequential to hold my attention. In addition to exclusivity being a turn on, honesty is a huge turn on for me. Once I feel a strong personal bond with someone, I'm very honest. Maybe that's because I have Gemini on my 8th house, with its ruler in Scorpio in my 1st house. Bond --> honestly express myself. And sex is like a truth serum for me. If ever interrogated, they wouldn't need to torture me to get me to talk. They'd just need to love me up real good.  IP: Logged |
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