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Topic: Unhappy in love!
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bonadea33
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posted June 12, 2010 08:16 AM
 
Here again, I have my friend from Austria. She is getting crazy about her ex boy friend. She wants me to help her. There is no help: only he can help her, not me. Her Natal Chart:
 Her Solar Return, 2010:
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bonadea33
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posted June 12, 2010 08:25 AM
There will be something about 7th house: there is Sun and Moon. Maybe she finds somebody, otherwise there will be more and more tears.
I see her Venus square Pluto in Natal Chart (deep emotions).
Venus in SR has trine with Pluto. It looks good. SR ASC falls in Natal 6th but is more in 7th: I hope from all my heart that she will find somebody, otherwise I don't know how to help her and listen her call for help, every day. B. IP: Logged |
DD
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posted June 12, 2010 09:24 AM
Speaking completely unastrologically, there is not much you can do instead of listening to her, yet not encouraging any illusions about the relationships and misusing astrology as a tool to escape into a dreamworld.
AT that point probably not even he could help her. She is the only one who can do that. But maybe that takes time. How long ago has the split been?IP: Logged |
bonadea33
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posted June 12, 2010 10:06 AM
DD,Thank you for looking here.
I think it is more than one and half year ago that they split.
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She is now talking how he has other girl friend and nobody told her. Come on!
I asked her: is he your husband to tell you about that? NO!
Is he your lover? HE WAS!
I told her: in that case he has his life and has nothing to tell you whatever he is doing or who is his girlfriend. DD, we are different from her.
She is double Cancer, Venus in 12th with hard aspects and what is worse she has Saturn with only hard aspects. She needs love. I am sure, that her ex husband was just a partner for s... There was no love from her side.
I am listening this since over one year. I can't help as I don't do Black Magic to bring her lover back.
I always say: try to do something! There is new Computer, new TV and big apartment. There are books to read. No way: she can't do anything! She is helpless! As I see in Solar Return there will be something in the year ahead. Hope, she finds really love. Bobbie
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Ami Ann
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posted June 12, 2010 11:22 AM
B What is her synastry with him? Does she have Pluto/Venus/Mars connections with him?
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oneruledbymars
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 12, 2010 11:40 AM
Ami...you posted on the number I have been seeing almost 5 times a day lately....3rd time was due to you today...hahaIP: Logged |
bonadea33
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posted June 12, 2010 12:25 PM
Ami,We don't have his birth time, otherwise I would do it since long time. Now, there is no chance to ask him. Maybe his daughter can look into his birth certificate. We will see.
He has Scorpio Sun. B. IP: Logged |
DD
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posted June 12, 2010 12:29 PM
B,I am sorry that your friend has such a hard time. But it really sounds unhealthy how she is obsessing about that man.
He is not going to come back to her, he has his own life,a nd she deserves to have an own life, too.
But it is easy said, when I am not in her shoes, I know. IP: Logged |
Izo
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posted June 12, 2010 12:54 PM
Getting over someone you loved is not an easy process. Sometimes it takes years. But it seems to me like she still has hope that they will get back together and this can slow or stop that process. If it's truly over and there is no chance for them to be together, she needs to comprehend and accept that fact. After that, it's an art to fill your time and your head with anything that's not him or related to him. I like the New Moon in her Solar Return 7th house! Really liking it! I'm gonna have that next year in my 5th and I am also hoping for a new love. It's been 2 years since me and my ex broke up. I hope your friend will find a new love... but she has to be open to receive it, meaning that she has to let go of the past. ------------------
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SagittariusMC
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Registered: Feb 2010
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posted June 13, 2010 05:28 AM
I am not at all surprised as she does have the classic divorce signature, venus squ uranus, but also venus squ pluto which is quite contradictory to the first aspect. so, this will be her major life challenge to get the freedom and independence and same time get the intensity and romance demanded by venus squ plutoshe also has an unaspected mercury in late first house (Equal house system) which doesn't link in with the chart, so could go from one extreme to the other, ie; not talking enough, then talking too much.
Saturn rules her marriage house and is placed in 9th (Equal) suggesting a possible foreigner or romance at least delayed til first saturn return.. Scorpio rules 5th with Neptune there quincunxing venus, sacrifices, illusions and confusions regarding romance and a hidden belief that romance needs to be painful somehow. Venus Quincunx (Inconjunct) Neptune "You are suffering at times because you are attracted to inaccurate perceptions of others. This is based on incorrect appraisals of who you are and where you are going. You approach the unachievable with naive confidence, then get confused when you aren't able to be complete with your various projects. This creates an environment where others find you unapproachable and difficult to know. As you show genuine self-acceptance (including your limitations) your range of love expression increases." http://www.cafeastrology.com/natal/quincunxinterpretations.html ------------------
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Belage
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From: California
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 14, 2010 01:20 AM
She has natal Venus in the 12th house, and it is squared by natal Pluto and Uranus. So typically, she falls in love with people who are unsuitable or unavailable one way or the other and there is a lot of power struggles and obsessive behavior. That's a very stressful and painful aspect and if she doesn't transcend it, it will be her undoing. 12th house matters are the most difficult for the natives to understand as they fall into the unconscious and subconscious. IP: Logged |
bonadea33
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posted June 14, 2010 05:55 AM
Thank you all for comments.It is true: she is obsessed about him as she told me that he is her great love. There is not much to do. I don't like when we talk and I try to change the theme but she always come back to him. Solar Return for 2010/11:
I see now that SR is not as good as it looks at first sight. Ruler of her SR ASC, Saturn has only hard aspects. She will have hard time.
True is: the Moon rules SR 7th house and is in 7th. Change will be in each case.
I can explain it so: there will be opportunities and some change but nothing good for her; she won't accept it or she will accept but with broken heart. I wonder how long somebody can be obsessed with other person. B.
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