posted August 01, 2010 06:37 PM         

To all of you who have heard me talk about the Aqua ex...well I haven't contacted him at all from the last round of times he ignored me (ie hung up on me etc)...and was just going to accept that whatever reason he had against me was what it was (all I know is that I told him I missed him in early june, and am applying to grad school in the south and if I do I'd like to try again...and he didn't say anything...he just sorta said he had to get off real quick...I took that as a "no" and decided that I didn't want to go to grad school in the area. So I saw a friend of his like a week later and told her I was moving cross country after I graduated, which is next week. At this point I'm not...I applied to grad school else where. We were still facebook friends at this point...then all of a sudden like two weeks later he deletes me when I didn't even contact him).

Anyway I was out of town last weekend, and came back on Sat night. He was in town. And I didn't know that. My mother (a pisces who doesn't like this ex) was staying with me, and while I was out he knocked on my window to see me (she actually saw him do this, and then walk down the stairs and leave). After all the crap that he pulled...hanging up the phone...etc he actually stopped by when he saw my car.

Anyway I was sufficiently getting over him, but now it's kinda hard knowing that he stopped by. I don't know how to take this...I guess this isn't really astrology related but it's more like how could he have the nerve to do that AFTER deleting me on facebook...AND hanging up the phone. I know he's not stupid...he has to know what he did hurt me. In fact he did it on purpose...he knew answering the phone then hanging up would hurt me. And he made such a big fuss about not wanting to be my friend. I'm just not sure how to take this...I don't want to mention this to my friends, they think I shouldn't care anymore...but I just don't know how to feel about this. And more over whats even more strange is I actually text him like yesterday saying I would give him a call sometime this week because I know he stopped by and I was going to be in town...and nothing! Why bother to show up...and then not even text someone back. I don't know if this means anything...like he at least still wants to be friends (or friendly) or what...or does this mean anything.

He's an Aqua with Virgo Moon, Pisces Mer, Venus in Cap and Rising in Cap, and Mars in Aries.

posted August 01, 2010 07:02 PM         

x o x Ami

posted August 01, 2010 08:28 PM         

Tell me, out of curiousity has it been about 8 weeks since he tried to purge you?

posted August 01, 2010 11:18 PM         

You sound like you're getting really smart about how to deal with this situation. You've dealt with his brutal non-communication and you know how much it hurts to be left in the dark without any consideration for your feelings. My "suggestion" is not to text him back and don't expect him to contact you again or knock on your door, etc. I suggest that so that you won't be pulled back into waiting for a response from him that may never come.

If he is absolutely desperate to contact you, he'll find a way to do it. And don't feel guilty about not contacting him after you told him you would. It simply means that you made a decision to take care of yourself, and if he has the nerve to bring that up to you at any point, well...at least he finally communicated something and he can also see how it feels to wait for someone's communication that never comes.

I don't mean to sound cruel with that last sentence, but it's not like you planned it, so you're off the hook.

posted August 02, 2010 12:59 AM         

"Tell me, out of curiousity has it been about 8 weeks since he tried to purge you?"

Actually yeah...it was about eight or seven weeks ago last week. He did it about a week and a half before the beginning of July...and we didn't communitcate after the 30th when he gave the phone to someone else to tell me it wasn't his phone. And by the way when you say purge what do you mean? I'm not sure why there is this distance, but you're deff right I'm not over him. Maybe that was a test to see if I was...so that we can be friends.

Btw Starr...is the Aqua the same one who was your ex?

And you're deff right...I am not over this Aqua. I don't get it why the distance. I tried to figure out why he felt the need to delete me and nothing. I've dealt with Aqua's before...and even my mom is an Aqua Moon/Mars but I don't get where the distance is from. I have Aqua friends, and they aren't this way AT ALL!! They are really great friends, and my nephew is an Aqua and stays friends with all his exes. I'm not really sure why he does this...but I know he's not doing it because I'm not over him...I hate to say this...but he is VERY self centered so whatever reason he has for treating me the way he does (or not answering texts or deleting me from facebook) they are solely based on how he feels. I do know one thing about him...if someone else feels something and it doesn't matter to him it won't affect his behavior. If it does matter to him his behavior can be affected. For example a girl likes him, if he doesn't like her he'll stay her friend because her feelings haven't and can't influence him (I've seen this with him first hand) whereas if he does he'll act accordingly.

Either way whatever he feels or thinks...I just find it really strange he thought it was a good idea to see me...after he did what he did...AND then he actually came to see me ONLY to NOT answer my texts...its just kind of annoying...and rude. And I hate to admit it...it gave me hope...when I just need and was moving on. I know he's never going to change, and be the guy he was when I first dated him. I was a good girlfriend, and have been a overall good friend to him, and he never appreciated it (even if he said he did). I've tried so many times with him even to just be friends or get him to tell me something (as in why was it so difficult to be friends, and all he could say is that it was awkward between us as friends, or that he didn't want a gf as far as girlfriends go) and he won't...so I just find it strange he did this. He has the entire time I've known him behaved like a child...I hate to say this but I deff blame his Pisces Mer for the lack of communication.

posted August 02, 2010 01:04 AM         

x o Ami