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From: kokomo, IN, USA
Registered: Dec 2009

posted August 06, 2010 02:44 AM         

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As some of you read...I was in a relationship with this guy, who lived two states away...it was hot and heavy and yeah all that. I really thought he was my soulmate. I really honest to god did. When I started going through my separation and divorce, I really delve into astrology, my mind has a tendency to over think things...and I knew that if I had something to keep my mind busy, well then..that could always help right? Well, that's what I did.
I wanted to see what astrology had to say about us. I remember having a reading done by someone on here not too long ago..and yeah, there were indications that he could be lying to me. Well, he was...but it took me a very long time to find out. I have lost so much to be with him, so much sacrifice to say the least. I recently got some burr up my ass to really research his activities. When things got serious between us, he got distant..I thought it was his saturn conjunct venus...but honestly I think he can't handle committed relationships...He was on several adult websites, not just porn sites but also advertising for sex...and yeah..he was doing this WHEN we were together too. I feel so used, so used....I thought he loved me. I know I loved him. and he still denies it but it is pretty hard to deny something when the profile has pictures of you...*laughs* dumb ass. Well I am a fool, and I have lost so much...so much. what have I done?

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From: Cloud 22, Jupiter Ave, Lalaland
Registered: Jun 2010

posted August 06, 2010 03:06 AM         

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seeleah - I am sorry this happened - but astro-checking men will not prevent such a situation in the future. If someone is a jerk - it is his personal fault for making bad choices. It is not his chart. I mean I know twins with very similar charts who have different interests and have rather different personalities. Each aspect can play out in several ways.

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there were indications that he could be lying to me

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The indications (lets say Neptune aspects) that he will lie to you - could just as well be indications that he will write you poems daily.

I think you have to spend some time getting to know someone and really sensing the dynamic between you, in order to see how certain aspects play out.

In my opinion - what you should take away from this situation is to be more discriminating with men in the future and get to know the guy inside and out before you make serious changes to your life. (not astro checks)

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From: A symbolic tree, Earth
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posted August 06, 2010 03:18 AM         

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"He was on several adult websites, not just porn sites but also advertising for sex...and yeah..he was doing this WHEN we were together too..."

If they were on it before, their profile endures, unless they delete it. I am siding no-one, but there need not be activity or transactions when someone signs onto a profile.. it takes some time for people to quit what they used to do on a regular basis, and visiting such sites may only be profile checking.
(just offering an alternatuve viewpoint)

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From: California
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posted August 06, 2010 11:36 AM         

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From: i live in a kitchen
Registered: May 2009

posted August 06, 2010 01:24 PM         

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a similar thing happened to me. my ex's new GF (who by now dumped him) accidentally found his profile on a sex partner meeting site, and seemingly he had created it around the time he got together with me. just that the description of who he wanted to meet was an exact description of ME, and what kind of plays he was into was the kind of stuff "I" always suggested but he was too much of a chicken to try. i just laughed on that one.

loser.

(he was a Pisces whose courage could not match his imagination. lol. still don't really get the logic of creating a profile to meet someone exactly like the GF he already has. twisted fantasy? i don't think he made the account to actually meet anyone anyway. pretty pathetic!)

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From: i live in a kitchen
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posted August 06, 2010 01:26 PM         

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o but i didn't want to appear insensitive. it must be hard for you to digest what happened. what's weird to me is he had a photo of you on his profile?? wtf? i'm glad you found out all that early enough though!

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