posted August 26, 2010 11:48 AM         

I truly believe in the saying "You can't judge a book by its cover"

maybe it's more of a social thing

my Mom's Venus is conjunct Uranus
but her Venus square Neptune-Sedna opposition.

She has Saturn in Scorpio in 5th trine Cancer Ascendant

it might also be to her extreme sensitivities

her Ascendant,Mercury,Venus,Jupiter,and Uranus in Cancer along with Moon and Saturn in Scorpio, and so she's very strong in water. The South Lunar Node is also in Cancer which conjuncts her Mercury

She also has Sun in Gemini that is located in the 12th house trine Neptune,sextile Pluto.

She has transneptunian dwarf planet candidate Orcus conjunct her Ascendant with 10 minutes of arc. That is similar to having Pluto conjunct the Ascendant. It can indicate extreme sensitivity,intensity,and nonconformity that lead to one desire privacy and lead one to be reserved

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No..I am not a Virgo.

posted August 26, 2010 11:55 AM         

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I truly believe in the saying "You can't judge a book by its cover"

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No one can know what is in another person's heart, soul, or their life experiences. You truley cannot know a person until you have walked in their shoes. The outward appearance does reflect the individual somewhat, (grooming habits, health, etc.) but is an illusion to the true self. You can't know someone else's personality until you spend time with them and get to know them.

posted August 26, 2010 12:06 PM         

My sister jokes that it's my facial features (piercing dark eyes, thick dark eyebrows, a small mouth).

posted August 26, 2010 12:51 PM         

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women are often expected to smile a lot

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YUP. It's so annoying.

My default facial expression makes me look mad or upset. People are afraid to approach me.

posted August 26, 2010 01:20 PM         

-I don't smile for no reason. I smile when there is a feeling inside of me that inspires a smile.

-I don't laugh at things that don't amuse me.

-I don't talk for no reason either.

-I'm slightly reserved so I will observe new people before I engage with them. I do this not only for my own protection but also to make sure that I communicate in the best way with that person.

-I will question someone if I hear that they are speaking meringue (hot air) lies, or incorrect info.

-I always ask for clarification when I don't understand which usually exposes some people for phonies.

-I also get bored easily by mainstream conversations, so I will usually be quiet when people talk about their jobs, crushes, their money, or how fabulous they are. I don't mind touching on these subjects, but not for too long.

Maybe I am a snob, if a snob is someone who is reserved, not pretentious, careful and interested in esoteric/fringe subjects.

Astro:

As Glaucus has said, I have a strong transneptunian influence, which I assume would make me "rebellious" against the mainstream, that including smiling, laughing and being fake because it is expected in order to present myself favourably to others. Basically, I always say that those who stick around and get to know me are only those with an eye to see beyond first impressions.

posted August 26, 2010 03:12 PM         

Ami

posted August 26, 2010 05:56 PM         

"Autistic children usually display intense emotions. Mrs Pillay is a mother whose 5-year-old son, Somesh, has been diagnosed with mild autism. "Even though it's just mild autism, he is extremely sensitive and cries over nothing at times. He is in normal day care but when these episodes take place, he has to be separated until he calms down. Sometimes he stares into oblivion for hours," explains Mrs Pillay about Somesh."
http://ezinearticles.com/?Autism---Handling-an-Autistic-Child&id=1603621

Many autistic spectrum get treated with antipsychotic medications like Risperdal to treat problems with irritability and aggression.

sensory integration issues are said to be common in people with with neurodivergence in general, especially ADHD and Autistic Spectrum.

"While research indicates that sensory integrative problems are found in up to 70% of children who are considered learning disabled by schools, the problems of sensory integration are not confined to children with learning disabilities. SID transfers through all age groups, as well as intellectual levels and socioeconomic groups. Factors that contribute to SID include: premature birth; autism and other developmental disorders; learning disabilities; delinquency and substance abuse due to learning disabilities; stress-related disorders; and brain injury. Two of the biggest contributing conditions are autism and attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD)." http://medical-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/Sensory+integration+disorder

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No..I am not a Virgo.

posted August 26, 2010 08:40 PM         

Venus in Leo
Mercury, Jupiter, and Uranus all conjunct one another
Sun and Pluto in the 1st house

Some in my family call me The Barron, which really tees me off, because they're all quite stuck up. Maybe it's their projection defense mechanism kicking in.

Also I can be a bit aloof, reticent, shy with people I don't know...Virgo Sun with Cancer Moon. People who don't know me might interpret that as snobby. Why do some people expect/demand everyone they come across to be a cheerleader or open book?!

My default facial expression (I think) is neutral. I can have extreme poker face. Others interpret that as mad or sad, and nothing makes me happier (yes I'm being sarcastic...there really should be an emoticon for that) than people I don't know coming up to me and saying, "What's wrong". The implication is that there's something wrong "with me". I think they're intimidated (even if they think they're being concerned) because they can't read me.

With people I know however, you can't shut me up, stop me from laughing, grinning from ear to ear, gesturing wildly, etc. There's that Mars in Sag.

posted August 26, 2010 08:50 PM         

I'm also a Virgo Sun with Cancer Moon.

posted August 27, 2010 01:53 AM         

"Also, I HATE when people I don't know tell me I need to smile when I have a blank expression on my face. Am I supposed to walk around grinning like an idiot 24/7?!"

posted August 27, 2010 05:46 AM         

I have cancer asc as well.

I have so little energy on some days I just can't waste it by socializing or smiling or talking too much.

posted August 27, 2010 07:19 AM         

She is very different now and jokes around but I see the same Olivia ten years ago when I introduce her to new people. She is a tenth house sun conjunct mars and mercury in aqua and a 12thhouse Pisces moon with an Aries ascendant.

I on the other hand am very easy going and always smiling. I think I am too affectionate to be cold. When I meet new people I always aproach them with a smile and do my best to make them feel comfortable.. If I sense someone is uncomfortable or I don't know them well I concentrate on that person till I feel a mutual comfort zone.

posted August 27, 2010 10:17 AM         

However, I know how turn it off or on when I want to. For example, if I go dancing with friends I can put on the impression that I'm snobby so no one will talk to me. On the other hand, I can be super approachable when I put that wall down.

posted August 27, 2010 03:08 PM         

(i am actually capable of feeling emotions, just never like showing it in public.)