posted August 28, 2010 12:25 AM         

Do you have any ? And do you think it relates to your Venus sign ?

If I start laughing when I'm about to kiss a guy for the first time, I know that I'm in love !! By that I mean when you really think you find them cute and fun etc

Also, when I think about them, it makes me happy and relaxed. There has been 2 guys like that so far

This one guy, I thought I was obsessed with him but he just made me feel stressed out and we had great sexual chemistry but it wasn't love.

I have venus in libra so I guess I don't see love as something stressful or when it's full of drama it's no longer love for me.

posted August 28, 2010 12:52 AM         

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I have venus in libra so I guess I don't see love as something stressful or when it's full of drama it's no longer love for me.

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posted August 28, 2010 01:20 AM         

For me I need emotional support.. I need to be understood,and respected.. I need to know he will stand by my side unconditional.

I personally dont believe in love at first sight. Thats attraction.. Yes it can be an intense attraction..

Love is something that is earned and takes along to to build, its not something that happens right away.

For me, I can be really hard to get to know, and I definitely have my guard up when it comes to love, and relationships.

But I also think (at times) Once we get out of relationships that we felt that we did love the other person. I wonder if did we REALLY love that other person or was it just an attraction and then we just get "use to" that other person being in our life..

Do you just "fall" out of love or was something else mistaken for love???????

Honestly I can't sit here and say I KNOW what love is...
What is love??
Can love fade away??
Does true love really fade away??

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So with that said I can't answer what are the signs that "show" love...

posted August 28, 2010 07:32 AM         

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Jane,
are you secretly a vampire?

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posted August 28, 2010 07:42 AM         

I have an unaspected Venus in Gemini in the 7th house.
I realize that someone must aspect my Venus for me to connect.
Who would ever know that without Astrology?

I like a man who is refined, well mannered,can go anywhere and not embarrass me

I love having Venus in Gemini cuz it is a light Venus.
It can leave when the time is right.
It is not a clingy love energy.

God knew what He was doing when he gave me Venus in Gemini cuz I have had to let many people I love go which includes a mother, father,etc

As far as what is attractive to me---when two minds click.

I say,"Wow, I have some connection with him. He is interesting"

Humor is the best.I love flirting but light flirting not Marilyn Monroe

Ami
PS Jane--that is interesting about Cap. I am totally serious--not kidding --could you explain more about your Cap Venus?
I don't have a sense of a Cap Venus.

posted August 28, 2010 07:42 AM         

I believe you are right.
And as they do ANYTHING To keep their identity secret (like Jane`s Scorpio ASC likes to do, too), I am really in trouble now, am I not?

Unfortunately I do not have an Edward to protect me.
Though the question sometimes is who is protecting whom actually?

posted August 28, 2010 07:46 AM         

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Though the question sometimes is who is protecting whom actually?

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posted August 28, 2010 08:05 AM         

Love is sacrificial and selfless. Caring for them, not just feeling sth for them.
Would you jump in front of a truck to save their life?
Would you want them to be happy even if you hurt you really bad and betray you?

posted August 28, 2010 08:13 AM         

Romantic love isn't unconditional. It can't be. That's unrequited love.

posted August 28, 2010 08:20 AM         

Ami

posted August 28, 2010 08:22 AM         

I think my post was similar to what you said. I am focused on him when in love.. I have a strong desire to make him happy, but not in a self-sacrificial manner. The love I feel for myself and the love I feel for others are not comparable, and neither "type" of love needs to *die* in favour of the other.

posted August 28, 2010 08:48 AM         

Love is sacrificial and selfless. Caring for them, not just feeling sth for them.
Would you jump in front of a truck to save their life?
Would you want them to be happy even if you hurt you really bad and betray you?

That is love. It's not giddy butterfly feelings.

i disagree.

EVERYONE is different. LOVE is defined by YOU. what is love to you? HOW do YOU love?

you alone can NOT define LOVE universally, only for YOURSELF.

LOVE isnt written it is felt.

you might be a selfless person and that is reflected in how you love.

i am too selfish in my own make up to love completely selflessly that way.

for me, its a mix of this 'romantic' and 'unconditional' love. i THINK both, maybe not completely both, but a good healthy portion of near both. one and not without the other. i don't think real love should need physical attraction, romance, attraction, or infatuation or obsession. but those romantic things are needed to bring two together romantically, to define it as a romantic love between two, not one that is almost the same between parent-child, or family. because two people who romantically fall are NOT related that way are they? it takes the romance to bring them together.

at the same time, all the romantic portions of 'love' in my opinion, are not 'real' either if they are without the unconditional kind.

love shouldnt be an exact text book reading for all people, it should be defined by how YOU love, because you and i are all individuals, we are all different, we expect, need, and share differently, astrology backs that up. but to some degree both of the unconditional and romantic kind should be present in my humble opinion. that is how i love. if i was more selfless, i might be able to say "if they hurt me, i will still love them" or feel in love. heck no, i will be in pain, no less attatched. pain, hate, all emotions are attatchment.

we just respond differently, a selfless person (which all seems piscean) can look past it perhaps much easier than others. but this is perhaps why some good women stay with sh*t men.

also, i think real love is ballanced and shared. you allowing some one to hurt you constantly and still loving them, you arent loving yourself anymore are you? then how is it real love naymore..

anyway...

my DSC & VENUS certainly describe what i love, need, and want to give - deep companionship, i show it by making and desiring their time alot together, 1-2-1.

i also love there to be a friendship quality present, absolutely.

if you can't be great or best friends and get along, how can you be happily in love?

i think the sun- and moon provide details too.

mars how we deliver it? mercury how we communicate it.

posted August 28, 2010 08:56 AM         

Great post. What you said resonated with me very much, and I really love what you said about Mercury and Mars. Particularly that Mars is the way we deliver it. I thought that was really sexy, actually. Nice.

posted August 28, 2010 09:15 AM         

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My Venus & Merc in Aries are very different to the expression of my Taurus Mars, which is very physical, very bodily/affectionate, but that expression is not for any early expressions, where I think Venus plays out in the early stages.

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My first love has Mercury/Venus in Aries and Taurus Mars. That's true about him - The nice, level-headed side of him anyway..
(He also has Pluto opposite his Mars which put a serious dampener on things & led to strange ups and downs.)

Letram -

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i think real love is ballanced and shared. you allowing some one to hurt you constantly and still loving them, you arent loving yourself anymore are you?

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posted August 28, 2010 09:20 AM         

Tell me if I am wrong.

Venus---attracts you

Mars--drives you there

Mercury connects you with communication

Pluto--ties you with obsessive love

The moons connect you with child to child(heart love)

The moons have to be there for me.
That is the core part ,for me.
Without that ,it will either be platonic or pure attraction .

Ami

posted August 28, 2010 09:28 AM         

but fewer the unconditional, core, 'real love' elements.

i think for those, MOON, VENUS has to be involved.

i think for example, mars-sun is attraction, compatibility.

but i think aspects between -

moon-moon,

moon-venus

venus-venus

provide the mutual, real love portions.

i think when they aspect anothers personal planets like - mars, and sun, (e.g. venus to these two) makes the venus person love that part of the person more, or is attracted.

i think pluto's aspects in alot of cases, is just infantuation and obsession, and Love out of those, but not at all the core, or 'real' kind imo.

posted August 28, 2010 09:41 AM         

Ami