posted September 30, 2010 05:08 AM         

Are you dominant or submissive in your relationships?

I have:
Venus in Leo
Mars in Cancer
Pluto in 1st house

I think if I found the right guy who had half a brain I would be submissive but I am dominant eventually

posted September 30, 2010 05:33 AM         

i listen to reason anf logic and i strive for fairness and equality in a relationship, peace.

i strive to find and do what is right, if i believe i see something the other isnt, i will try and show this, i will try and take the lead, this is where i can appear to dominate or appear a little bossy, but its never for the sake of being bossy. i like to just do what is right and for the best, of our interest, happyness and needs.. and goals. and its usually tactful.. i don't 'command' someone to do as i say, unless im angry and have little to no patience.. but generally, i just propose my action and inform them why, hoping to win their agreement. i only appear to dominate or appear bossy by being Decisive, i make decisions, i don't command or try and order. i try and propose the idea and action and decision to them, show them with reason, logic, understanding, and intelligence, hoping to kind of win them over politically speaking.. thats how i try and make it peaceful and agreeable.

if she shows something or a better way, im comfortable and happy for her to show it and take the lead.

i look at a relationship as a ship, there is two of us on it and are both captains/admirals!

i will steer the boat and sail it if i know or see the best direction or route to take, if she knows or sees a better way i want her to steer it. but i listen to logic and reason and whatnot.. i strive to be agreeable about it because my goal is for the ship to go in the right direction, the best direction.. to reach our goal, destrination..

not to be captain itself.

so im comfortable with all, im not comfortable being too submissive or anything though, that just isnt for me, im a guy and will wear the pants / trousers

i have Sun in Leo, Moon in Aries in the 9th , ASC in Leo.

sun in the 1st house.

mars in Virgo in the 2nd, Venus in Libra in
the 3rd.

MC in Aries.

i strive for the best, and the goals in a relationship.

anyone who simply wants to be incontrol for the sake of it or that reason alone, or to be bossy or domineering, icky/

posted September 30, 2010 05:37 AM         

I am not bossy or rude in any way.

posted September 30, 2010 05:42 AM         

but i also have a tight moon asc-trine.

uranus squares my sun..

astrologically on paper speaking, im more a leader than a follower!

posted September 30, 2010 06:57 AM         

I definitely got a dominant personality.
I would never be sumbissive to anyone.
Or let people tell me what to do.

However I much prefer equality in relationships- fairness. Both deciding what to do, where to go, etc.

posted September 30, 2010 09:55 AM         

I am completely dominant in my relationships but have always listened to the other person's point of view before I reject it out of hand

posted September 30, 2010 10:10 AM         

Venus in Pisces (10th)
Mars in Sag (6th)
Pluto in 5th

My boyfriend is stubborn as hell, but in a passive way. For instance he never wants to watch the movies that I want to watch. And when I bring it up when he wants to watch his dumb movies, he says "well, you don't have to watch it!" And I say, "Okay cool, I'm gonna just go on the computer then." and then he gets mad lol.

posted September 30, 2010 10:12 AM         

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He's a Cancer Sun, so he's a marshmallow but with a crunchy center (mmmm)

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posted September 30, 2010 12:04 PM         

I alternate between submissive and dominating. I am the opposite of how the guy is. If he's to submissive I go into aggressive overload (a cancer I met) If he's aggressive I get submissive. But I CAN be very dominating, if I feel challenged in any way. Or if he gets tooo controlling, I will fight back.. I guess its in conflict for me. I like dominance, but only to a certain degree...

I prefer aggressive men, but not controlling.. I seem to have no problem finding aggressive men... LOL..
Even their jobs are in dominated fields.
An aqua cop
an Aries demolitions (blowing up buildings)
A Sag Parole officer
A cancer UPS (idk what happen here..lol)
Cap in Trucking shipping and receiving
A Tuarus (how ever will hire him.. lol)
A Scorpio builds engines
Pisces works with cars

posted September 30, 2010 12:12 PM         

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If he's aggressive I get submissive. But I CAN be very dominating, if I feel challenged in any way. Or if he gets tooo controlling, I will fight back..

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posted September 30, 2010 01:03 PM         

Mars in Saggy in 1 st house
Moon in Aries in 1 st house..
Saggy Asc
Sun Scorpio(12 house not make shy )

O la la..I love my Venus Libra in 10 house..

posted September 30, 2010 04:29 PM         

you would think I would do anything to avoid conflict, especially at home !

but you're wrong lol I am dominant !

of course my cancer asc won't let me show my ugly side at first.. but when I do, I will never give up until things are the way I want them. I don't have much patience though (aries moon) so I will break up or move away if it doesn't happen soon. Or I'll nag/bring it up forever (virgo mars) With partners, friends, family.. I'm the same.

posted October 01, 2010 03:58 AM         

Venus in Taurus
Mars in Taurus
Pluto in the 1st.

With Virgo rising my inclination is to step back and let someone else lead. I like to pamper my people.

If you're a tyrant, or I'm not getting enough say/face time, I rebel and things can get quite nasty.