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Topic: Natal Venus-Pluto
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Delilah
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Registered: Sep 2010
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posted October 04, 2010 06:32 PM
 
My Venus and Pluto sextile and I find it hard as hell to get over a guy once things between us are over. Is this true for anyone else, regarding the soft aspects? From what I can remember, this only happens when there's such an aspect in synastry and it doesn't matter which planet belongs to me nor do the small or major aspects. There's always a heavy feeling- almost like it's hard to breathe in or out of each others presence. Most recently I had to break off contact with a guy whose Pluto semi-squared my Venus. I really wanted to know if he felt anything for me (my obsession). But that might have been my Pluto conjunct his Moon. Maybe the sextile is what keeps me from stalking though.... IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
Knowflake Posts: 1167
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted October 04, 2010 06:55 PM
(((Deliah))
I don't have Venus/Pluto aspects in the natal, only in synastry.
Everyone WANTS to stalk. Just don't do it 
Find a way to express your pain--writing,music, exercise : outer ways.
Keep talking. You can talk about it, here.
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Delilah
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Registered: Sep 2010
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posted October 05, 2010 07:03 AM
Lol. Hi Ami. I don't feel the need to stalk, but had a creepy feeling about him. He has always made me feel uneasy. When we're near each other I want to run and hide, while at the same time be the center of his attention (for the right reasons of course). It would be great if intesity had an off switch.How do you feel with Venus-Pluto in synastry? IP: Logged |
fenia
Knowflake Posts: 10
From: athens greece
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted October 05, 2010 07:13 AM
My pluto trine his venus and i feel the most passionate love, kind of dark lol
But we also have pluto conjuction saturn and pluto trine jupiter. It's very intense.IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
Knowflake Posts: 1167
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted October 05, 2010 07:46 AM
In synastry, His Pluto makes an exact trine to my unaspected Venus
I think it is Rhett Butler carrying Scarlett up the stairs lol------------------
Pluto conjunct Dejanira, Girlfriend. IP: Logged |
dysfunctionalmystic
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Registered: Sep 2010
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posted October 05, 2010 08:55 AM
I've got venus pluto conjunct and i don't find it hard to walk away or end things (i have moon opp uranus too) BUT if i get my eye on someone that's a different story, I do get obsessed..usually to the point of limerence, i don't stalk but i think of them constantly, a guy i currently fancy also has a venus pluto conjunction, the synastry is loaded with pluto and the composite sun is conjunct pluto lol, he doesn't even know i like him. IP: Logged |
Delilah
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Registered: Sep 2010
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posted October 05, 2010 12:21 PM
The current obsession that I'm working on getting over has Venus-Pluto square. He comes off as a little aloof until eye contact is made. Whenever we were around each other he would put himself between my friends and me. It wasn't too hard to walk away as there wasn't a real relationship between us as he is dating someone. No, nothing happened between us aside from making googly eyes at each other (very Jane Austen). I've convinced myself that it's all one-sided and keep in mind that if it's meant to be then it will be. Even though it hasn't been long (not even a week), I'm much happier. But I'm blaming my Virgo influences for over analyzing everything and trying to turn over every stone until I feel I've piled up enough information.IP: Logged |
enchantress299
Knowflake Posts: 167
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Registered: May 2009
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posted October 05, 2010 10:09 PM
I'm like that too Delilah. I have natal Venus sextile Pluto, as well as a Scorpio rising. My Saturn conjuncts Pluto and sextiles Venus as well. I also have Virgo aspects so I hear ya about the accumulating too much information. I do that ALL THE TIME. I do find it hard to get over once things are over, IF I felt like the relationship ending was in some way my fault or if I felt like it could have been avoided by me doing XYZ. If the guy is just a jerk and I catch him cheating, I walk away without a second glance no matter what I felt about him before. I've also had that feeling of wanting to run away and hide and simultaneously wanting to be the center of his attention, and unfortunately, when I get to that point, I usually end up PUSHING THEM AWAY (as opposed to stalking them). It's probably the true reason I'm constantly single or in short term relationships, as much as I hate to admit that. Lately I've been trying to force myself through it, no matter what happens with the guy in question just so I can get through to the other side. I figure I won't ever end up having a truly meaningful relationship if I don't push through it. Anyway... I hope you can figure out your own ways of handling it. IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
Knowflake Posts: 149
From: Betty Boop Land
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted October 06, 2010 01:10 AM
I prefer relationships with people who also have Venus/Pluto.My aspect is harsh - Venus opp Pluto and the people who are best for me have the Venus/Pluto conjunction. Because your aspect is easy (sextile) - I would think you'd feel more comfy with someone who has a trine or sextile as well. The square can be a lot of tension which your sextile will not want to deal with. I am like this with my Venus/Mars trine. I like men who have a positive Venus/Mars aspect. IP: Logged |
Delilah
Knowflake Posts: 8
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Registered: Sep 2010
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posted October 06, 2010 01:54 PM
OMG, Enchantress! This is exactly how I am. I definitely pushed him away, but felt like I had to. Maybe the Virgo influence is also what makes me triple guess situations. It's not enough to feel, but I have to have proof; I needed to KNOW not feel that he was interested in me. Since he is in a relationship the thought of hurting another woman like that disgusted me. Also, I just don't know how he feels so things could have been terribly humiliating.The funny thing is that I had my first/only personal tarot reading done about a month ago and the guy reading my cards told me that I had to trust myself and others before I could find happiness and lasting love. It was one of the most uncomfortable things that I've been through because it was so dead on. Betty, you're so right. His square is just too intense for my sextile. Some may find it a challenge they can find joy in, but all I could think was that a volcano was about to go off and I didn't want to be around for it. He has Venus trine Mars (Capricorn and Virgo) and my Venus conjunct Mars (Virgo). This may have just added to the attraction though. I did/do see him as an ideal match- he's everything that I think makes a real man.
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GrlyGirl20
Knowflake Posts: 195
From: USA
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 06, 2010 01:59 PM
"I prefer relationships with people who also have Venus/Pluto.
My aspect is harsh - Venus opp Pluto and the people who are best for me have the Venus/Pluto conjunction.Because your aspect is easy (sextile) - I would think you'd feel more comfy with someone who has a trine or sextile as well. The square can be a lot of tension which your sextile will not want to deal with. I am like this with my Venus/Mars trine. I like men who have a positive Venus/Mars aspect." I agree to this as well...I have Venus Opp Pluto by Sign, and Inconjunct by Aspect, and I LOVE ppl who have either the Conjunction, or Square...basically any hard Pluto is fine. I have dated ppl with the Trine and Sextile...and they are intense...but can sort of control it more if that makes sense.
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DD
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 06, 2010 02:07 PM
Betty,I absolutely agree with you.
I also feel drawn to people who "mirror" my natal, I suspect that is true for many people. I have the square between Venus and Pluto and usually guys I feel somehow attracted to have either Venus-Pluto or Mars-Pluto aspects, usually the challenging ones or at least Venus or Mars in Scorpio. IP: Logged |
NickiG
Knowflake Posts: 590
From: Pluto, next to Ami Ann
Registered: Jul 2010
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posted October 06, 2010 03:51 PM
funny...i have a venus-pluto sextile in my natal and i dont feel that way about guys..even funnier is venus is in 8th...and my venus conjuncts his venus...maybe its just my other placements that affect my venus and pluto------------------
Early in the morning, in the middle of the night
Two men got up to fight
Back to back they faced each other, drew their swords and shot each other
If you dont believe my story is true, ask the blind man who saw it too :P IP: Logged |
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