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Topic: Venus Rx SUCKS!!
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cappy1277
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From: philadelphia,pa
Registered: Jul 2009
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posted October 11, 2010 02:48 PM
  
My mind is reeling with indecisiveness...I don't know whether to stay or go. Bad enough I have a 1st house gemini moon but this is taking the cake! This thing is putting a whole new spin on things for me but I am trying to hold off on making any decisions. So for right now, I have put him straight to voicemail to avoid talking to him...ughhh..Just wanted to vent. IP: Logged |
racole12
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From: the world is my home!
Registered: Feb 2010
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posted October 11, 2010 03:04 PM
No worries Cappy- vent away... I'm kind of doing the same thing but different situation. I feel so much intensity and passion that in my head I'm saying "this can't last- it's too amazing" so I'm going back and forth between should I walk away or not, wondering is it possible to have everything I have ever wanted? IP: Logged |
soulful122
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posted October 11, 2010 03:19 PM
Oh I know how you feel, I hate it too atm. But today I finally made a decision, I left my long time boyfriend. I thought I'd hurt more but right now, I feel absolutely numb, I don't really even care. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted October 11, 2010 03:21 PM
Racole, I understand so much.
It is low self esteem, talking.
You feel you don't deserve good things if I have it right.
Right NOW, I am struggling with these same issues.
It is a way down deep decision about your value(or lack of it)
If I am only talking about me and not you, I apologize.
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cappy1277
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From: philadelphia,pa
Registered: Jul 2009
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posted October 11, 2010 03:21 PM
I mean nothing really detrimental has happened for me to feel this way...but I think I have fallen in....gulp...love. I come to this realization after his ex girlfriend took an indirect hit at me on his wall. I waited to see what the response would be and it was that he deleted the posts. I said nothing about it but I don't want to speak to him about it right now. emotions are too high and I don't want to lose my cool. My mind is reeling though...like why is ex (a libra)still his friend?? I mean I see nothing wrong with it but if she is going to cause trouble then why bother? Am I being played? Is he sincere? Is this worth the drama? so much but the only remaining fact is that I am strongly attached to him and I can't see him not being in my life but I can just as easily detach myself from the situation and be done. I will just harbor these feelings for the rest of my life...lol.IP: Logged |
cappy1277
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From: philadelphia,pa
Registered: Jul 2009
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posted October 11, 2010 03:22 PM
but Soul I thought you weren't supposed to make any decisions at this time...IP: Logged |
cappy1277
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From: philadelphia,pa
Registered: Jul 2009
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posted October 11, 2010 03:23 PM
racole- its almost like if its too good to be true, it must not be.IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted October 11, 2010 03:28 PM
YES ,Cappy, that is it  ------------------
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cappy1277
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From: philadelphia,pa
Registered: Jul 2009
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posted October 11, 2010 03:31 PM
yeah i know the feeling. I think its baggage that we must carry over from previous relationships...we kinda of think why would this work if nothing else has before? Its one of those things that we must take one day at a time until something ridiculous comes along and it becomes a deal breaker for the relationship to work. Instead, just enjoy what you have at the moment. : ) IP: Logged |
soulful122
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posted October 11, 2010 03:33 PM
I've been thinking about leaving for awhile now Cappy, before Venus went retro. And this is someone who I believed was my best friend/soul mate, he is actually the 'reason' I even started believing in 'soulmates'. I do hope this ex of his learns some decency and leaves you alone. Feel better soon! IP: Logged |
NeptuneIllusion
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From: Mendocino County, CA
Registered: Jun 2009
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posted October 11, 2010 03:45 PM
Relationships with past baggage usually never work out.If he isn't standing up for you and letting his ex harass you he probably isn't worth it. I don't know the specifics of the situation, but that is how it usually is unfortunately. :/ The same thing has happened to me many times and it never worked. Not trying to be a downer or anything, just basing it off my own experience. Either way, good luck.  IP: Logged |
cappy1277
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From: philadelphia,pa
Registered: Jul 2009
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posted October 11, 2010 03:57 PM
Neptune- You are right about that!
its not a secret on FB what we are to each other but its more or less she is trying to degrade me in so many ways (ex: so you think you have someone special...funny. LOL)Its his place to call her on her BS and he deleted both posts. What he has said to her I don't know at this time because I don't want to speak to him. I'm a little angry about it because its not like we are kids...(we're in our mid 30's for crying out loud! women still do this??)This is something I will not tolerate and this is the reason why I am thinking the way I am. I don't want to hand out ultimatums- delete her or I'm leaving. There are so many ways around that of course in the technological age. I think its best that I distance myself from the situation and see what comes out of it. Who wants that kind of interference? {{hugs}} soulful122...it must have been a hard decision but I am sure you made the right one. Not all soulmates are to be in our life forever. He may have came into your life to teach you a lesson...a hard lesson. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted October 11, 2010 03:57 PM
Soulful
Can you talk about it?
How did it start?
What is happening,now?
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britterfly
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Registered: Jul 2010
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posted October 11, 2010 06:03 PM
I know what you mean!!! My mind has been upside down and all around for the past 3 months, and this Venus retrograde is making me even more frazzled. The read somewhere that the energetic leaves will settle in December, on the 20th. It's only just begun.  CRY!!!!!!!!!! IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted October 11, 2010 07:41 PM
I wish I was having a, "this is too good to be true" time - not to minimize anything that the rest of you are going through.  My emotions have been all over the place - but they have been all year. (I wish that my attitude would stay in the "good" area - I slip from good to bad to good). I did one out of character thing, that should ensure that someone stays away from me (I'd had the feeling that he wasn't going to stay away, and I couldn't handle him trying to be nice again - because I don't trust him anymore), so count me among the crazies. Venus/Mars were squaring my MC from my 1st house, when Venus turned. I knew about this transit, and it still got me. Other things that have been affecting me this year, are getting to me as well - I slept half the day away on the floor, so that Bertie could come and sleep with me if he wanted to (my dog with a health problem). I woke up this evening to find him next to me, and surrounded by two more (Walt behind me, Emily stretched out along my legs), and it took me back to when they were babies (twelve years ago, in January), when they all surrounded me at the age of eight weeks, and I thought, "Oh, how am I going to give them up?" I wish I could just stop feeling like crap, because it's getting in the way of things I need to do. I feel like I've done almost nothing this year, except try to cheer up - I keep getting stalled, and again, all of the mistakes I've ever made with my pets, with people, with my life... ugh. (Sorry - I need to find something to make me laugh, and see if Bert will join me on the floor again.) IP: Logged |
soulful122
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posted October 11, 2010 08:12 PM
Cappy, if I were him.. I'd have a little talk with the ex, let her know I don't appreciate her subtly being a b!tch. Who knows what goes through her mind though, maybe she's just jealous, insecure that he moved on to someone better. Let her wallow in her own misery. "Not all soulmates are to be in our life forever. He may have came into your life to teach you a lesson...a hard lesson." Yeah definitely, it's not like he's a bad guy or anything, but it's time for me, and Venus rx or not, I'm ready to let go. Anyway, thanks for your kind words Ami, Cappy.
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Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted October 11, 2010 08:16 PM
 Soulful
You know, I think the human condition must be such that things don't work lol
You want connection, intimacy etc and all your issues and all his collide.
You have a puddle but you still want the sweetness and the beauty but it hurts so much.
Maybe , it is just me.
Maybe, this is how it is for everyone.
I am trying to think of people who are peaceful.
I think they have given up on the outside and just have God lol What do you think? ------------------
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cappy1277
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From: philadelphia,pa
Registered: Jul 2009
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posted October 11, 2010 08:24 PM
Awww....Teasel...{{hugs}} dogs are so much better companions.Soulful- I don't think its my place to say anything to her. Too old for that nonsense...lol. I did see that he has deleted her as a friend on fb though. His sister deleted her as a friend as well. So who knows?? Maybe he hid her if you can do that? Idk...time will tell.
Are libra women vindictive like that? IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted October 11, 2010 08:30 PM
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Ami, it started a looong time ago, I would say once or twice a year, he'd be trippy, like his mind and heart are elsewhere even though his body is next to me. His communications, affections, sex, would decrease, you know how a person would behave when they're cheating? Yeah just like that. He would be cold/disinterested, robotic, and I'd try to get him to tell me if something was wrong but he'd shrug it off and pretend everything was fine. Every time he does this it would last for a month or two, I would go into a deep depression, thinking he didn't wanna be with me anymore. It would feel like I lost my best friend, and I was the only person trying to fix it. And every time I'm ready to walk out, THAT"S when he's ready to make things right, that's when he begs for forgiveness for being distant and uncaring. I'm just tired of his emotional ups and downs. I just don't GET it, I'm not built that way, when I love someone, I love someone. I can't just shut off my personality for a month like he does. I'm just through with it Ami. And it's not like I hate him, I still love him, if anything I think we'll always be friends. He's a good person at the end of the day but I wanna let him go. I have a feeling it's not over anyway, I just don't want it to restart anytime soon.
Oh, I'm sorry to hear this, but I'm the same way when it comes to feelings. Thank you, Cappy. IP: Logged |
soulful122
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posted October 11, 2010 08:31 PM
Cappy, I also wanna add, that yes, he has taught me something. Before him.. I've NEVER loved another man 'unconditionally'. In my relationships prior, what I say goes, and what I want I'll get. With me and him, we're friends, there's respect, and lots of unconditional love, something I never gave another man. Ami, yeah but when things do work you get to appreciate it more. Me and him, we got along greatly, until his moods, when he gets all distant and detached, then we collide. My Venus in Scorp doesn't get it! IP: Logged |
soulful122
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posted October 11, 2010 08:34 PM
Cappy, I meant HE should. But it looks like he took care of it!  I don't think Libras are vindictive like that, I think it's a maturity thing. The way she behaved sounds like what a teen would do, not someone in their 30's. I'm glad he deleted her. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted October 11, 2010 08:36 PM
Yes, Soulful, when you touch someone you love, it is so special and precious.
You are right.
I am not familiar with Venus in Scorpio. It must be an intense,deep feeling Venus.
Anything in Scorpio is.
That would be hard.
I like my Gemini Venus. It is easy going lol
My Cancer moon feels things.Yes, my feeling is that you are not done. It will get better,I think. I hope Meta gets her Visa or I don't know what is up with me  ------------------
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teasel
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posted October 11, 2010 08:38 PM
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Ami Anne
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posted October 11, 2010 08:42 PM
Teasel ------------------
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teasel
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posted October 11, 2010 08:52 PM
Hi, Ami. Cappy, I was going to ask if you knew anything about how Venus Rx is hitting his chart. It's good that he deleted her posts, and deleted her. I'm out of here, to eat and cheer up - although sitting here and reading for a while, has helped. IP: Logged |
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