posted November 03, 2010 07:08 PM         

Post your Sun/Venus/Mars/AC.

I have some questions:

1. Are you at all interested in playing the dating game or is this something that is trivial in your life?

2. Do you usually initiate dating? Do you chase?

3. If not ^^ - What is your reason not to?

4. If yes - What is the end goal of you chasing a romantic interest?

e.g. It could be having sex with them... It could be having a relationship with them. It could simply be getting them to like you and find you desirable although you have no lasting interest in them.
Or it could be something else... Who knows? Improvise lol

5. For the non-chasers: Do you feel some sort of empowerment as a result of your tactic?

6. For the chasers: (Same question ^) Do you feel some sort of empowerment attached to your own tactic?

7. If you do feel empowered by this - I'm curious psychologically speaking - Why do you think this is?

8. Are there other things in your life - other areas of your life that make you feel as empowered?

9. Do you take pride in being a chaser? Is this something that gives you an ego boost in life? Do you flaunt it?

e.g. Lookit me you lowly non-chasers. I'm a CHASER - Insert --hallow -- and banner saying: "God's Gift to You"

10. Do you take pride in being a non-chaser? Again - Does it give you an ego boost? Do you flaunt it?

e.g. Lookit me you lowly chasers. I'm a NONCHASER - Insert -- hallow -- and banner saying: "God's Gift to You".

11. Would you say you consider yourself to be someone who has a healthy self-esteem and a healthy ego?

12. If you answered yes to 9. or 10. --- What other things do you take pride in - in your life?

It could be a something you enjoy doing - cooking? It could be your appearance .... anything at all.... A talent you have, being a great mother, being a great friend... etc.

13. Do you find it challenging or difficult to start a romantic fling with someone? (This is regardless of whether your chase or not).

14. Do you find it challenging/difficult to start a serious romantic relationship with someone?

15. Is it a put off for you to be chased (rather than be the one chasing) --- and vice versa... Is it a put off for you to chase rather than be chased?

16. Is it a put off for you to have a rather equal situation where both people are chasing each other?

17. If you said yes to 16 - Why do you think this is - psychologically speaking? What puts you off about equality?

The End...

posted November 03, 2010 07:46 PM         

I will take it for partial credit!

Sun and Venus in Libra
Mars in Aquarius
AC in Capricorn
and
Moon in Capricorn

I do not chase. Well, maybe I do.

anyway... I refuse to chase on the surface
and will wait a lifetime if necessary
but love to flirt on a mental plane
while I wait to see if he will chase me.

If he chases too soon...
that's it for him.
I have no interest at all.
He has to get to know me or I distrust
his motives for chasing me.

Am I proud of my behavior?
It just comes naturally and feels right.
I think I am proud of quite a few
of my Capricorn behaviors.
Nature of the beast, I suppose.

Aqua Mars will cause me to burst out
with my feelings at strange times
when I have revealed nothing up to that point
that wasn't intense, deep, plutonic, symbolic
relating that most men haven't the depth
to notice.
It helps me sort out the ones with depth.

posted November 03, 2010 08:30 PM         

Gem Venus does not chase

I will try to answer the other questions, later lol

posted November 03, 2010 08:57 PM         

2. No, and that depends on your definition of chase, if you mean do i openly appear obvious of my romantic interest in the person and persue them, then no. if i persue someone, i persue them in a very spaced-out manner.

3. i like to ge to know them from afar first slowly into getting to know them more by conversation and time together, it feels natural to me. i like to know alot about them, but i don't like to appear romantically interested. but i like to show gentle interest in them as i want their attention and time. i want them to get to know me and be intersted in me as a person. i feel i have to look at this subconsciously, i think i want to see that i can get along with them first as person-to-person, or more - friendship. if i feel this energy working, it feels more right.

i guess those are the reasons i don't chase. but there is also other reasons, doubtful of my chances, and rejection fear. all the former makes me more confident and assured.

another part is, i want to want someone based on what we share tha njust attraction, and also, i want to see if they will get to like me as they get to know me, not just be intersted in me romantically because i show them im romantically into them, i don't want to flatter them. perhaps part of it is some kind of test, looking for genuine, mutual attraction to who eachother are for who we are. i just don't believe two people need to behave romantic or flirty, or show romantic interest, to get to know eachother and love and be attracted to eachother for whot hey are each.

now, the other thing is, i can kind of chase, and have done, and they tend to be more about sexual interest, and i have little to no further desire to share more with them. so 4. would be - the goal for chasing is more physical and fun and less serious.

non chasing is more. and i can wait a very very long time in letting a romantic relationship become after getting to know someone a long time or waiting for one or both of us to make a move. aslong as i have faith there is something mutual there.

5. not really, the only power i feel is that i can remain in the drivers seat of testing the other. if i have the power to test their interest in me and my time with them, i will do so, but nothing mean. for example - if were having a conversation at a typical time and location where we may talk for awhile, i will suddenly make out that i need to go early on. the test would simply be to see how much they care or may miss me and our time together - do they care? this all depends on how they react by what they say - "when will i get to talk to you again" or something.

i guess all of this gives me an idea. but really, im not into playing games, the idea is not naything like hot or cold, its just more like taking the temprature of a room.

8. im not sure, i like Power alot, and i like to be in control of my life, and my affairs, and anything that affects me. i guess what relates to the tactic is i feel empowered by knowledge that other(s) don't posses. *shrugs*

9. not a chaser but if i were, i'd be proud of the confidence im conveying. but only to the romantic interest. infront of other potential interests i'll feel really proud.

10. absolutely not, and i'd rather be good at chasing, not necessarily to become more ofa chaser but to switch between both. to be more versatile in approach, more ability, to be equipped with more "methods"

11. it depends. i swing between high and low self esteem, and being very humble, and quite egotistical. but one thing is sure - atleast as iv grown older, i keep my high-thoughts of myself, concealed, kept inside. i don't express it much. i prefer to be humble and fair, atleast on the outside. pride and ego are weaknesses and blindspots.

13. yes

14. neutral

15. most times, Yes. but it depends on what i desire with them, something serious - more put off if they chase unless iv wanted them for a long time before they noticed me!

16. absolutely not, i find it very ideal, but in your definition of chasing, i would find it neutral, in my own definition of 'chasing' i find it perfect.

im a Leo ASC with Sun in Leo, the 1st/2nd, with Mars in Virgo in the 2nd.

my Venus is in Libra in the 3rd.

i'm male.

posted November 03, 2010 10:28 PM         

i think my partner could relate to some of what you said, interestingly she is a cappy moon too, but with cancer asc, and a aquarius sun. similar though.

i think my approach on her was what helped us get to where we are, she always said she liekd how i never flirted or implied any romantic deal.

she doesnt like the idea that someone just appraoches her and wants her - she thinks they just want her based on her looks.

posted November 03, 2010 10:44 PM         

Warning: I wouldn't advise anyone reading mine. It might put you to sleeeeep!

I have some questions:

1. Are you at all interested in playing the dating game or is this something that is trivial in your life?

I would play the game if the effort of playing is worth the prize, if you get what I mean?

2. Do you usually initiate dating? Do you chase?

No

3. If not ^^ - What is your reason not to?

I don't have a reason not to, and maybe will in the future

4. If yes - What is the end goal of you chasing a romantic interest?

Depends on the person... I don't have an end goal, like right now, or anything :P

e.g. It could be having sex with them... It could be having a relationship with them. It could simply be getting them to like you and find you desirable although you have no lasting interest in them.
Or it could be something else... Who knows? Improvise

Yes, Yes, No. Probably not, in that order.

5. For the non-chasers: Do you feel some sort of empowerment as a result of your tactic?

Maybe

6. For the chasers: (Same question ^) Do you feel some sort of empowerment attached to your own tactic?

Can't really relate...

7. If you do feel empowered by this - I'm curious psychologically speaking - Why do you think this is?

I have no idea

8. Are there other things in your life - other areas of your life that make you feel as empowered?

Yes. I feel empowered by my own decisions, by my life and the way I choose to live it.

9. Do you take pride in being a chaser? Is this something that gives you an ego boost in life? Do you flaunt it?

No

e.g. Lookit me you lowly non-chasers. I'm a CHASER - Insert --hallow -- and banner saying: "God's Gift to You"

No

10. Do you take pride in being a non-chaser? Again - Does it give you an ego boost? Do you flaunt it?

Maybe. I like that people will approach me. It makes me feel desirable, which is nice

e.g. Lookit me you lowly chasers. I'm a NONCHASER - Insert -- hallow -- and banner saying: "God's Gift to You".

God, no. I would not like myself if I thought that way

11. Would you say you consider yourself to be someone who has a healthy self-esteem and a healthy ego?

Maybe? I feel good about myself, I enjoy being around others.

12. If you answered yes to 9. or 10. --- What other things do you take pride in - in your life?

My ability to see through on commitments that are important to me. My ability to perservere. My humor and intelligence.

It could be a something you enjoy doing - cooking? It could be your appearance .... anything at all.... A talent you have, being a great mother, being a great friend... etc.

I'm creative in a few ways

13. Do you find it challenging or difficult to start a romantic fling with someone? (This is regardless of whether your chase or not).

No

14. Do you find it challenging/difficult to start a serious romantic relationship with someone?

No

15. Is it a put off for you to be chased (rather than be the one chasing) --- and vice versa... Is it a put off for you to chase rather than be chased?

I would have no problem being chased or chasing someone that I have chemistry with

16. Is it a put off for you to have a rather equal situation where both people are chasing each other?

No

17. If you said yes to 16 - Why do you think this is - psychologically speaking? What puts you off about equality?

posted November 04, 2010 12:19 AM         

Aries/Pisces/Capricorn/Gemini

I'm gonna answer - when I was single and go from there. At the moment I am in a very stable relationship.

1. Are you at all interested in playing the dating game or is this something that is trivial in your life?

Never was into the dating game because it's wish washy to me. BACK THEN, I would rather keep a guy a friend than to date them......I want to take the time to get to know somebody. It takes a long long time till I consider a relationship.

2. Do you usually initiate dating? Do you chase?

I did once, back in 1994 and never again. I was usually pursued and chased by men. Some guys would chase
me for years and then give up on me.

3. If not ^^ - What is your reason not to?

No desire really or too reserved. Maybe just couldn't hack rejection....who knows.

4. If yes - What is the end goal of you chasing a romantic interest?

When I did, I pursued him cause I liked him and was in love. He turned out to be my 1st true love who ended up shattering my heart.

e.g. It could be having sex with them... It could be having a relationship with them. It could simply be getting them to like you and find you desirable although you have no lasting interest in them.
Or it could be something else... Who knows? Improvise lol

5. For the non-chasers: Do you feel some sort of empowerment as a result of your tactic?

Nope. To be truthful I could take or leave it with relationships. (I'm such a commitment phobe)

6. For the chasers: (Same question ^) Do you feel some sort of empowerment attached to your own tactic?

7. If you do feel empowered by this - I'm curious psychologically speaking - Why do you think this is?

No empowerment feelings here.......

8. Are there other things in your life - other areas of your life that make you feel as empowered?

I'm really not sure.....maybe the feeling of being independent and living my life.

9. Do you take pride in being a chaser? Is this something that gives you an ego boost in life? Do you flaunt it?

No chasing here.....strong Venus influence....I attract.

e.g. Lookit me you lowly non-chasers. I'm a CHASER - Insert --hallow -- and banner saying: "God's Gift to You"

10. Do you take pride in being a non-chaser? Again - Does it give you an ego boost? Do you flaunt it?

No flaunting here. It is just part of who I am....part of my personailty.

e.g. Lookit me you lowly chasers. I'm a NONCHASER - Insert -- hallow -- and banner saying: "God's Gift to You".

11. Would you say you consider yourself to be someone who has a healthy self-esteem and a healthy ego?

No comment

12. If you answered yes to 9. or 10. --- What other things do you take pride in - in your life?

It could be a something you enjoy doing - cooking? It could be your appearance .... anything at all.... A talent you have, being a great mother, being a great friend... etc.

13. Do you find it challenging or difficult to start a romantic fling with someone? (This is regardless of whether your chase or not).

Flings are highly unfullfilling and left me feeling empty. Once upon a time I had a sexual fix but he lasted 6 months and he was gone......I then realized that I needed a soul connection not some fly by night relationship.

14. Do you find it challenging/difficult to start a serious romantic relationship with someone?

I would get major anxiety when starting one. Well that is how I felt when I first started seeing my boyfriend.

15. Is it a put off for you to be chased (rather than be the one chasing) --- and vice versa... Is it a put off for you to chase rather than be chased?

Yeah - I am not a piece of meat.

16. Is it a put off for you to have a rather equal situation where both people are chasing each other?

No comment

posted November 04, 2010 01:30 AM         

Let me preface this by saying I am really tired and about to go to bed and I am also a bit sick, so it may be a bit rambling.

1. Are you at all interested in playing the dating game or is this something that is trivial in your life?

It's not that it's 'trivial' it's more the opposite. I take it very seriously and think 'dating' is really superficial. It's too staged, too fake, and too weird. I have to know someone before I WANT to date them.

2. Do you usually initiate dating? Do you chase?

No. Sometimes, but I don't initiate, I respond until I am more comfortable.

3. If not ^^ - What is your reason not to?

see above, i didn't read ahead.

4. If yes - What is the end goal of you chasing a romantic interest?

To end up together. Also, flirting is fun!

5. For the non-chasers: Do you feel some sort of empowerment as a result of your tactic?

Sometimes, if I like them already and I feel like they are pursuing me because they like me too. I don't like it when I get a game vibe, like they are only in it for their ego. Lately, this is a big pet peeve of mine.

6. For the chasers: (Same question ^) Do you feel some sort of empowerment attached to your own tactic?

I guess, but only if they like me back.

7. If you do feel empowered by this - I'm curious psychologically speaking - Why do you think this is?

Because it makes you feel alive and happy when someone you like is responsive to you or you to them. Everyone likes to be romantically entangled.

8. Are there other things in your life - other areas of your life that make you feel as empowered?

Yes.
9. Do you take pride in being a chaser? Is this something that gives you an ego boost in life? Do you flaunt it?

I have to say, I don't consider myself a chaser, but I do sometimes chase, which is why I am answering the 'chaser' questions.

I don't think it really boosts my ego. I don't really flaunt it. But I am not a chaser, per se.

10. Do you take pride in being a non-chaser? Again - Does it give you an ego boost? Do you flaunt it?

idk, no. I feel like I already answered this...I do think I am more of a non-chaser than a chaser, but it doesn't have anything to do with ego.

11. Would you say you consider yourself to be someone who has a healthy self-esteem and a healthy ego?

For the most part, yes, but not always. It really depends.

12. If you answered yes to 9. or 10. --- What other things do you take pride in - in your life?

Considering I never date, just about everything else I do.

13. Do you find it challenging or difficult to start a romantic fling with someone? (This is regardless of whether your chase or not).

Yes, totally. It takes me a long time to like someone and since I am not a traditional dater it's harder for me. It takes me longer to get to that point with someone.

14. Do you find it challenging/difficult to start a serious romantic relationship with someone?

see above.

15. Is it a put off for you to be chased (rather than be the one chasing) --- and vice versa... Is it a put off for you to chase rather than be chased?

I think I already answered this...but it depends. Everything should be in direct proportion to how much I like the person already. If they come on too strong too soon, it really freaks me out and makes me run. But everyone is that way...

16. Is it a put off for you to have a rather equal situation where both people are chasing each other?
No, This is the BEST and how it should be.

17. If you said yes to 16 - Why do you think this is - psychologically speaking? What puts you off about equality?

I should say, that a lot of times, when I like someone I do NOT flirt with them, because I am afraid it will be very transparent that i like them and if I don't know how they feel, I may not want them to know. This is especially true of male friends. If I seem like I am flirting, I usually don't like the person at all, besides a friend, and am just being friendly which is often taken by people as flirting, especially since i am a smart ass. If I think they like me and I also like them, I may flirt, or sometimes it just breaks through (if I like them), but that is because they started it and I am just doing the repartee.

posted November 04, 2010 06:42 AM         

1. Are you at all interested in playing the dating game or is this something that is trivial in your life? no, not interested

2. Do you usually initiate dating? Do you chase? I can initiate innocent flirt but not dating; I do not chase

3. If not ^^ - What is your reason not to? not interested in dating or chasing

5. For the non-chasers: Do you feel some sort of empowerment as a result of your tactic? hmm, not really

8. Are there other things in your life - other areas of your life that make you feel as empowered? maybe how perceptive I am

10. Do you take pride in being a non-chaser? Again - Does it give you an ego boost? Do you flaunt it? no

11. Would you say you consider yourself to be someone who has a healthy self-esteem and a healthy ego? yes

13. Do you find it challenging or difficult to start a romantic fling with someone? (This is regardless of whether your chase or not). yes

14. Do you find it challenging/difficult to start a serious romantic relationship with someone? yes

15. Is it a put off for you to be chased (rather than be the one chasing) --- and vice versa... Is it a put off for you to chase rather than be chased? I like attention but not chasing or being chased

posted November 04, 2010 03:43 PM         

I think for me these two Q's cover it...

Sag Sun - Cap Venus - Virgo Mars - Sco Asc

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16. Is it a put off for you to have a rather equal situation where both people are chasing each other?

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Not a put off, that's how I've preferred it. I've always preferred a subtle mutual chase on the surface, with an intense mutual attraction at the root.

As I think more about it, I was always the more chased one when it came to keeping a bond going. They would initiate activities, convos, etc.

But that would only take us to a certain point, and I was always the one who transitioned us from attracted "friends" to more. I wouldn't have liked if they chased me sexually before I made that transition.

Even now, when I'm (harmlessly ) flirting, I prefer to be the one who gets things hotter. They do the charming subtle flirtation and then I pull up what I feel is happening on a deeper erotic level. It's just for a flirting thrill. This is something I rarely do, not bc I believe it's wrong, but bc there have been so few people who inspire me in this way.

So, I preferred being chased as a person, while I preferred chasing sexually. But it's really important to me that emotionally we're evenly invested. That's what makes me happiest and most satisfied. I get uncomfortable when I'm chased by someone (even platonically or professionally) who I know cares more for me.

quote:

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1. Are you at all interested in playing the dating game or is this something that is trivial in your life?

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posted November 04, 2010 05:15 PM         

1. Interested? Yes. Trivial? Can be.

2. Yes, I usually initiate dating. Yes, I chase.

3. N/A

4. Good times

5. N/A

6. In a way. I don't generally chase what I can't catch, and the only way I know I will succeed is a sort of intuition and reading of what's going on. So it's sort of over before it begins.

7. Because I can read.

8. Definitely. Usually performing well in one of my creative pursuits is very fulfilling. Also, accomplishing the unusual is pretty fulfilling.

9. No. It can't really give me an ego boost as it's not with frequency that I chase, and while I'll entertain a finite relationship I'm really more hoping for a lasting one.

10. I do take pride in charming people even if there's no romance attached to it. I like it when people love me even if they can't have me were they to be interested.

11. Yeah.

12. Art. Freedom from debt. Being a good person. Helping people out.

13. Difficult definitely. Difficult not only in deciding to try it out in the first place, but also difficult in adjusting to let someone in.

14. Definitely. Easy in the sense that I'm ready to commit, and ready to take as long as it takes to get there, but difficult in actually making someone believe I'm as into them as they are to me. Like a lot of my expression, it takes time to convey what I'm trying to convey.

15. Sometimes.

16. Not at all. That's most preferable.

posted November 04, 2010 07:24 PM         

I have some questions:

1. Are you at all interested in playing the dating game or is this something that is trivial in your life?
Honestly, if I'm not in a relationship or have no romantic prospects, I get depressed/bored. I have a 5th house Libra Moon

2. Do you usually initiate dating? Do you chase?
I don't usually chase, but I make myself available.

3. If not ^^ - What is your reason not to?
Fear of rejection. I have Venus square Saturn (and Uranus).

4. If yes - What is the end goal of you chasing a romantic interest?
n/a

5. For the non-chasers: Do you feel some sort of empowerment as a result of your tactic?
Umm... not really? I feel like I have less power in the relationship, actually.

6. For the chasers: (Same question ^) Do you feel some sort of empowerment attached to your own tactic? n/a

7. If you do feel empowered by this - I'm curious psychologically speaking - Why do you think this is? n/a

10. Do you take pride in being a non-chaser? Again - Does it give you an ego boost? Do you flaunt it?
No. I don't usually flaunt things about myself.

11. Would you say you consider yourself to be someone who has a healthy self-esteem and a healthy ego?
Yes. Because I have a lot of romance prospects lol

12. If you answered yes to 9. or 10. --- What other things do you take pride in - in your life?
My MIND~~~~, also my sense of JUSTICE and FAIRNESS lol (5th house cusp is in Libra makes sense right)

13. Do you find it challenging or difficult to start a romantic fling with someone?
I find it very easy for me to get laid, it's a bit harder to start a relationship but I always seem to have a boyfriend so.

14. Do you find it challenging/difficult to start a serious romantic relationship with someone? ^LOOK UP

15. Is it a put off for you to be chased (rather than be the one chasing) --- and vice versa... Is it a put off for you to chase rather than be chased?
I don't like chasing, because I'm lazy and also I don't like the uncertainty. Plus I never need to chase really.

16. Is it a put off for you to have a rather equal situation where both people are chasing each other?
I like that because it's exciting but safe at the same time. BUT WHEN CAN YOU EVER FIND THAT??? There's never a completely equal dating scenario.

posted November 05, 2010 02:40 PM         

By leading, what I mean is that they were the ones who would move our relationship from a work/school/public setting into a personal relationship outside that environment. I never, in any type of relationship, initiate that transition. Within our environment, when I'm interested I chase as much as I'm chased. But I never push the relationship outside that world.

This applies not just to expanding the relationship, but also to prolonging it. For example, I randomly met my SO. We instantly hit it off and talked for a long time. After he learned of a mutual interest, he suggested I work part-time in a department he directed. He later confessed he did that primarily as a way to keep me around. Flattering, yes. But also brilliant! There I was, an idiot about to let this amazing connection's development be guided by chance. If he hadn't taken the lead in that way, we may have never even seen one another again.

Ninety percent of what makes me this way is that I'm a lazy commitmentphobe. I'm extremely cautious about giving up my free time. So even if I really like someone, I'm content with restricting our relationship to whichever environment it started in. Normally it just doesn't dawn on me to expand the relationship. And even when I like the person, I get a little panicky when they want us to have bigger roles in each other's world b/c I fear my loss of free time.

I think other people are just quicker to invite people into their world than I am.