posted November 09, 2010 02:12 PM         

With Cancer DC-Moon-Saturn and Venus in my 7th house, square Pluto, I've been working to be more openhearted and to STOP looking to relationships for validation.

Woah Cakes has me thinking about draconic charts this way, too. My Draco 7th and 8th houses are in Libra and Sagittarius. My path is to be more Libran and Sagittarian about love!

posted November 09, 2010 02:17 PM         

I want to live naturally, alone, and with my soul mate.

posted November 09, 2010 11:21 PM         

I dont think anyone is going to really like my answers, but IDK its how I feel...

(I'm not talking about family, parents, kids..etc. Im talking about intimate relationships)

I dont think we "really" no what love is.. I think love its self is confused with lust, and I think we get so use to people we can't let go, even though deep down the love isnt there...
If love was real and true how can you "just" fall out of love one day... (u dont stop loving family) Ever been with some one and thought WOW.. this is the one.. I love this person... Later once its over.. You say that wasnt real love.. I "THOUGHT" I loved him/her but I guess I didnt.... It just couldnt have been love... So was it?? Was it not??? I think we want love so bad, that we will somehow convince our selves we are in love.. When in truth you are not... So what is that.. Can real love just die, or fade in time....
If two people really really really loved each other, wouldnt they stay together forever not matter what... ALways appreciating every single day with that person... Do we do that??? No I personally have never seen that.....

posted November 09, 2010 11:29 PM         

Personally I've got a bi-polar tendency when it comes to love, I'm either a big romantic or a detached fiend who just wants to get laid occasionally. But I fall for anyone easily and get mad at myself when I lose control. I've got a Gemini Desc. with Venus in the 7th opposite Saturn/Uranus and Mercury is in Leo in the 8th.

So I go from one extreme to utter loyalty and commitment to "you suck" and no response. Of course maturity and having better self-esteem has curbed these extremes a bit.

posted November 10, 2010 01:08 AM         

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I dont think we "really" no what love is.. I think love its self is confused with lust, and I think we get so use to people we can't let go, even though deep down the love isnt there...
If love was real and true how can you "just" fall out of love one day... (u dont stop loving family) Ever been with some one and thought WOW.. this is the one.. I love this person... Later once its over.. You say that wasnt real love.. I "THOUGHT" I loved him/her but I guess I didnt.... It just couldnt have been love... So was it?? Was it not??? I think we want love so bad, that we will somehow convince our selves we are in love.. When in truth you are not... So what is that.. Can real love just die, or fade in time....
If two people really really really loved each other, wouldnt they stay together forever not matter what... ALways appreciating every single day with that person... Do we do that??? No I personally have never seen that.....

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Yes I agree but the actual definition of love doesn't state it is a permanent never ending emotion ....

-noun
1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
3. sexual passion or desire.
4. a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.
5. (used in direct address as a term of endearment, affection, or the like): Would you like to see a movie, love?
6. a love affair; an intensely amorous incident; amour.
7. sexual intercourse; copulation.
8. (cap.) a personification of sexual affection, as Eros or Cupid.
9. affectionate concern for the well-being of others: the love of one's neighbor.
10. strong predilection, enthusiasm, or liking for anything: her love of books.
11. the object or thing so liked: The theater was her great love.
12. the benevolent affection of God for His creatures, or the reverent affection due from them to God.
13. Chiefly Tennis. a score of zero; nothing.
14. a word formerly used in communications to represent the letter L.
-verb (used with object)
15. to have love or affection for: All her pupils love her.
16. to have a profoundly tender, passionate affection for (another person).
17. to have a strong liking for; take great pleasure in: to love music.
18. to need or require; benefit greatly from: Plants love sunlight.
19. to embrace and kiss (someone), as a lover.
20. to have sexual intercourse with.
-verb (used without object)
21. to have love or affection for another person; be in love.
-Verb phrase
22. love up, to hug and cuddle: She loves him up every chance she gets.
-Idioms
23. for love,
a. out of affection or liking; for pleasure.
b. without compensation; gratuitously: He took care of the poor for love.
24. for the love of, in consideration of; for the sake of: For the love of mercy, stop that noise.
25. in love, infused with or feeling deep affection or passion: a youth always in love.
26. in love with, feeling deep affection or passion for (a person, idea, occupation, etc.); enamored of: in love with the girl next door; in love with one's work.
27. make love,
a. to embrace and kiss as lovers.
b. to engage in sexual activity.
28. no love lost, dislike; animosity: There was no love lost between the two brothers.

It also defines it as doing the sexual act as " love". I feel I love that person I'm having sex with too till it's all over and I don't want to see them again lol.

I believe in love but I just can't feel or be in that state consistently or indefinitely with someone. Even with family

Love depends on my mood.

posted November 10, 2010 08:46 AM         

The only thing that I can say with confidence is that being 'in love' is most definitely a state of mind.

posted November 10, 2010 01:33 PM         

i romantic relationships, i like to be consumed by passion and rocked at my core. any love relationship that i embark upon, i weigh seriously and it must help and not hinder my goals and life purpose.

posted November 10, 2010 03:14 PM         

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Benedict, what houses are your Sun, Moon, Mars, and Venus in? And what's the sign/house of your Saturn?

I think that Cancer Sun/Gemini Venus is so interesting.

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Whoops, here they are:

Sun/7th
Moon/8th
Venus/5th
Mars/3rd

And Saturn is in Sag/12th (Chart Ruler)

posted November 10, 2010 03:21 PM         

Sun Scorpio
Asc Mars
Venus Libra
Moon Aries..

posted November 10, 2010 04:52 PM         

The way my book subdivides love into characteristics and types is acceptance, commitment, passion, creativity, freedom, charity, detachment, partnership, energy, discipline(parental), respect, continuity, forgiveness, generosity, courage, power, touch, compassion, empathy, intimacy and affinity. For me in kundalini, loving the unlovable aspects of myself has been what has kept me sane. When I was higher on kundalini I tended to think we experience love differently at different dimensions of consciousness. I also had to hold back the urge to tell everyone they were divine beings who were already perfect the way they were, but that's another story..

posted November 10, 2010 06:58 PM         

As someone with Sun square Neptune, Pisces DC, a stellium in the 8th house (Aries Sun, Moon, Venus, Mercury, BML), before ever having a relationship, I used to idealize the perfect love. After meeting my bf, I'm able to see how things really are better, and he taught me important lessons about love.

As an 8th houser, in love, I'm demanding all of my partner. :P I won't allow secrets and I try to get as deep into him as possible. And as an Aries, I'm childish and demand to be the center of his attention. :P