posted November 18, 2010 09:11 PM              

In regards to relationships I think we feel deep lust and sexual desires to other people and sometimes even very pure thoughts of the emotion we call love without the physical side to it, sometimes we are merely able to bounce along without any desire to be with that person.

I don't think this is love.

I don't think love lasts forever.

I think we love many people throughout our lives but none compare to family.

Mostly people believe they "love" someone simply because they can't have that somebody after they have evoked sexual desire in them.

I fall in love with everything and everyone all the time

I never expect it to be forever and couldn't cre less when it ends because I'm always expecting another great experience to come along.

None of them stay imprinted in my mind or heart forever so therefore I have come up with the conclusion that either love is NOT forever or it does not exist between couples who have a sexual role with each other.

posted November 18, 2010 09:37 PM            

you see, we all have the very bare basic of what love is to us all, but love is is not the same for everyone.

everyone loves with things and needs to be loved back the same or similar way or a way that although done differently, brings the same result.

for exmaple,

some people feel they are in love when they are able to love someone no matter how bad they are to them or no matter what they do wrong.

everyone has a different ideal of what love is.

some people need emotion.

me, for example, doesn't need emotional feelyness much.

what i need is a mental connection.

i don't need strong lust or physical attraction.

i need to be loved with Honesty and for the person to be real, and open with me, to be as intimate and united as possible mentally.
to sahre everything with eachother.

i need loyalty.

i need time with my lover, i need them to make alot of time for me, i need us to thrive in time so our companionship takes on a life of its own above everything else nearly.

some people need ALOT of attention and no space. some people need space a little, some need it ALOT.

point is, we all need and love in different ways.

true love to one brings out in a person the ways they want to love thoroughly, and will feel the person they love, loves them if they love them closely enough in the same way.

posted November 19, 2010 07:03 AM            

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posted November 19, 2010 08:29 AM            

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I guess love is really being there for someone no matter what. You can see them at their worst, and it doesn't matter

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Well, I think it DOES matter and that's what makes things so very hard. Seeing them at their worst makes you feel insecure, not worthy enough, makes you start fighting etc.
So, to OVERCOME all that sh*t over and over again for a long *time* .... (sh!t FEELS like sh!t you know)

Time must be the clue, probably you can say what true love is only after many many years of experience, even till the point that you didn't realize this (only) WAS love.

posted November 19, 2010 09:48 AM            

i agree. i think infatuation is infatuation. love goes by degree, the more infatuated reasons there is, in a non-making sense kind of way means its more impersonal, (if some other person had the same things baout them for you to be infatuated with) whereas the rest of what you feel is real love is the most Personal because there is less "listed reasons" for infatuation, but more that it is Them that you love. (that specific person). thats probably really confusing and makes little sense but oh well, that one i will keep inside on my own lol

posted November 19, 2010 10:09 AM            

There is philios(friendship love)
Eros(erotic love)
Agape love(unselfish love)

I will have to look this up cuz I may be missing one

posted November 20, 2010 06:12 PM            

What it feels like for me to really love someone... I feel within myself a deep,warm,sunshine-like,glow that feels like it radiates from the very center of my soul. I want to do things for them that make them happy. I want to share myself and my life with them. I want to share who they are and what they enjoy with them. I want us to share in things that make us both happy together at the same time.....There's more than that,but sometimes thoughts and feelings that come from love are difficult to articulate because it's not what we might consider a physical thing....Though there's the possibility of it being expressed physically.

I hope this helps. :-)

posted November 20, 2010 06:34 PM            

With a stellium in the 8th house, and a Pisces DC, I've always dreamed of the perfect love and connection before I have a relationship. I don't know how to explain it by words, but I just feel that I'm able to understand it bit by bit intuitively through these years. I think that love is the affection that is developed through time.

It's not the same as simple attraction or obsession. It's that affection that one feels for another even if the other is not perfect. It's that affection one feels for another for who they are.