posted November 21, 2010 01:16 AM            

I feel torn between a choice I must make, and I have to make it soon because I feel that time isn't going to wait for me to do so.

Should I still continue to give all my love to the person who I love with all my heart?

Or should I take the opportunity I have to move on because I met someone new and I'm starting to like him..

Basically, I'm asking what you guy's would do in my situation. I have been constantly hurt by the first man, but the love is so strong I know I'm not going to have that type of love with anyone else. BUT he hurts me badly.

But the new person is very nice and he is attractive and smart. I just fear that I will do something stupid!

Please give some advice!?

posted November 21, 2010 01:22 AM            

But Ultimately I think you have to do whats "best" for u...

Try taking yourself out of the situation.. If this was your Best Friend, Sister... Loved one.... What would your advice be??

posted November 21, 2010 01:26 AM            

But the one I loved the most has incredible issues with these things and I just don't know if I can handle it anymore as I have been for years.

I just know that if I set him free, I will always, always miss him and think of him as the love of my life.

It's bittersweet.

posted November 21, 2010 01:32 AM              

that's one.. now two, i think you need to step back and analyze and make sure you're not confusing comfort or familiarity with love.

i don't think it's healthy or safe for anyone to stay in a sh!tty situation just because it's stable.. kinda like 'better the devil that you know' type thing?

i dunno.. if you don't like the person, i say break away... moving for another, i say no. if you break away, take time for yourself. move for yourself, don't move for anybody else. do it for you. after leaving a relationship though, i think u always need a break. it is never a good thing to jump ship only to get into another..

posted November 21, 2010 01:53 AM              

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Saturn Transits Through Your First House: This transit starts with Saturn passing over your Ascendant, and it marks the start of a new cycle in your life. During the next 14 years, or so, you have to concentrate more on taking care of internal matters rather than focusing on what’s going on out there with everyone else. The 1st House is You, your personality and how you approach things. When Saturn moves here, you have a chance to figure out not just who you are, but who you want to be. If you get depressed during this transit, it is most likely an indication that some of the basic routines of your life are faulty and need to be changed. http://www.bobmarksastrologer.com/transitsSaturn18.4.htm

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posted November 21, 2010 01:57 AM              

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When Saturn moves here, you have a chance to figure out not just who you are, but who you want to be.

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posted November 21, 2010 02:56 AM            

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...I know I'm not going to have that type of love with anyone else.

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posted November 21, 2010 04:45 AM            

It is GOOD ,btw,so don't panic

posted November 21, 2010 06:28 AM            

You know, it took 15 years for me to process things after my first love (while *I* was the one who broke up with him and he did everything to get me back). I can see that NOW and I remember that I always compared him to others for a very long time after our break. I think this also has to do with the fact that he truly WANTED me for who *I* was and he never really let me fall although he finally married someone else because he couldn't get me back. I never ever met a guy later on in my life who wanted the real ME and that's something you can and will never forget. In a way this was a cross to bear for me,.. (I still love him more than I've ever loved ..)

So, as I think processing isn't something you can force and as I know this can take a very very long time...

posted November 21, 2010 07:00 AM            

If some of them was right you should know. You will feel it clear.

If you want start a family or be really serous and dont want to hurt your self it's important to listening on your self. I never want to have the half cookie.

If you only live here and now and not are afraid to be hurt... If you not want to be a family... Take the man you feel very strong, for a while. I think it never will last. If you see a picture inside you on your self as an doormat, run quick ..

I always see through my self how I will lookslike togheter with a man in the future. One individual behaviour say very much.

posted November 21, 2010 07:06 AM            

what do you want in a relationship? do you want or need what you "want"?

how much you want what you want or need in a realtionship compared to how much you want a realationship?

ask yourself.

but do you still have the time to ask yourself these questions?

posted November 21, 2010 11:33 AM            

I don't care what your ascendant is and what it's effects are, to achieve growth we have to overcome the barriers that have been put in front of us, not use them as an excuse to stay stuck in ways that do not enhance our lives.

posted November 21, 2010 02:54 PM            

at the same time the transition person will probably turn out to be less compatible than you think right now, but people who are afraid to be alone tend to need "others" to pull them away from what they know is a losing proposition.

posted November 21, 2010 08:32 PM            

I'm still torn but my heart is telling me to concentrate on this new person for now. I'll see where life takes me.

Ami, I will email you right now.