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posted November 27, 2010 06:59 PM            

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I don't want to not get married again. hee hee.

I come from a long line of serial marry-ers, what can I say?

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posted November 27, 2010 07:30 PM            

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Good one Gypsee! I've seen people that have dated for years and then finally Marry and I totally think that is awesome, maturity I think is key. But I still think marriage is too focused on the material rather than the spritiual bond...

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posted November 27, 2010 07:33 PM            

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Gypseewind. I say as you I dont want married me again either.

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posted November 27, 2010 07:40 PM            

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Ami Anne, its not a blessing so it must be a lesson

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posted November 28, 2010 09:00 PM            

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I have never cared for marriage. On 11/22 my boyfriend and I celebrated our 6 year anniversary which has lead many in my office to ask "where's the ring", "****** better put a ring on it soon", blah blah blah BLAH, or I just get asked "when are you getting married?". I'm just annoyed and bothered to get these questions from people who live or strive to live the lives I never want to live (e.g. get married shortly into a relationship, have kids). I don't want a wedding or to be wed. I don't want to waste money on a wedding for people to pretend to be happy for my S.O. and I or to even involve people in my relationship I hold dearly to my heart; I also don't see the point in wasting money on marriage when there are other places the money can go (e.g. people in unfortunate situations, my/our own future).
I'll admit I do want a pretty ring or any piece of pretty jewelry he willing to buy but that's because I like jewelry and the possible sentiment pieces can have.

Sometimes I feel like I insult people when I answer their questions and tell them "I don't want to get married...or care to", other times I get the impression they think I'm just putting on a show and deep inside am that stereotypical little girl who dreams of the big wedding, blah blah...

My big day is everyday of my life where I strive to my own perfection and accomplish things I dare myself to.

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I don't care to have kids or ever have. The most I want is a farm with miniature pigs, cows, and cats where I can go outside to paint, read, drink, and hike.

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posted November 28, 2010 09:17 PM            

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People in general now are becoming more evolved and seeing how pretentious and unnecessary marriage is. It is another old meaningless tradition that many won't let go of and some that are even forced into.

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posted November 28, 2010 09:19 PM            

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MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!

I will never ever get married again!!

Relationships... yes
Married NOPE! not gonna happen..

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posted November 28, 2010 11:26 PM            

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I feel so sad whenever I read about you missing your Aries. It's definitely his loss.

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Aw, thanks Teasel.

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posted November 28, 2010 11:46 PM            

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I don't. I have been in a long relationship and I have never felt the need to get married. Even before that I didn't want to marry.

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posted November 29, 2010 02:10 AM            

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Good to know there are some sensible people out there! Just the other night, on Thanksgiving to be particular, my Grandma in-Law said something that really terrifed me "pretty soon you'll be married and have kids." Uh no! I'm the one who dodges families at Farmers market amd makes fun of breeders, lol! One child is enough in my book...

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posted November 29, 2010 02:21 AM            

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I agree with banxmanx 100%, lol.

I feel like a lot of people marry because they think doing so will solve their problems, kind of like a fairytale we all secretly believe in but would never dare to admit.

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posted November 29, 2010 05:29 AM            

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Its a matter of perspective, timing and enviroment.

I'm no expert, but isn't it a matter of having all there and all of those three elements to be intrested in marriage.

I've been such a downer ever since moving to Ottawa in 2003. So I'm not exactly in the positon to be interested in marriage

I remember there was a topic on lindaland called are you compatable were you live and you can do a composite chart with the place you live and your birth chart.

I have a vary negative composite chart with the city of Ottawa.

But a positive composite chart with Toronto, the city I previously lived in.

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Capircorn Rising
Gemini Sun
Aries Moon
Mercury in Gemini
venus in Tarrus
Mars Cancer

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posted November 29, 2010 05:53 AM            

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Yeah, there is no point or fun in signing a contract saying that you have to be with this person until death of the body. If you ever wonder why most marriages end in divorce and even those married wished that they hadn't got married in the first place. It is church. Another crutch.

The real challenge would be to not make any commitments and see how long you can stay together. That makes more sense than marriage.

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posted November 29, 2010 07:16 AM            

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Affirmation from florence shinn for marriage soulmates
'I give thanks for the marriage made in heaven is now made manifest upon earth. The twain shall be made one now and all eternity.

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posted November 29, 2010 09:07 AM            

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alrighty then.

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posted November 29, 2010 09:54 AM            

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Banxmanx I disagree with your statement about evolved people not wanting to marry or that its a ..I forgot the next bit... but anyway, it's a choice thing, if people want to make a commitment in the eyes of "the great almighty" or whoever then that is their choice and their belief..you're not showing signs of evolution if you insist on your way being the only way

As an ideal marriage is a sacred and special thing to do if you love someone and intend on spending the rest of your life with them,
I don't think there is anything wrong in never being married but it must be nice to have that level of security if you have a good marriage. people, religion and the state taint the concept of being wed but in principal I support it even though it hasn't happened for me..and no I'm not a libran.

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posted November 29, 2010 11:42 AM            

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Well of course Banx doesn't want to get married. He said the he does not care about women past their looks. If I only cared about men so I could sleep with them, I wouldn't bother getting married either (or enter into committed relationships).

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posted November 29, 2010 11:45 AM            

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I don't want to get married again, seeing as I feel the prevalent thoughts about relationships in general tend to be shallow and sexual based.

If other's expectations are just for a sexual relationship, and nothing more, then why waste my time?

It would take extraordinary circumstances to make marriage appealing to me, again.

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posted November 29, 2010 01:06 PM            

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Chiron in the 7th house..opposite Saturn in the 1st house, yeah no grand marriage(s) here lol.

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posted November 29, 2010 08:27 PM            

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It would be wonderful to meet a great guy and eventually get married, but I'm not going to worry about it right now. As an independent Virgo, I've never felt that I need a man and besides- I can take care of myself just fine. The thought of combining my life with someone else's stresses me out since I love my freedom. That's probably thanks to Venus trine Uranus in my natal chart.

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posted November 29, 2010 09:02 PM            

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yeah. Women are learning now to be more self sufficient. They are slowly understanding their true power over men.

I know a virgo pianist, her name is Lauren.

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posted November 29, 2010 09:47 PM            

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I know I am not the marriage kind. I was engaged 3 or 4 times and never walked down the aisle. They were all wrong for me and things started to get hairy after getting engaged.

Now I am in a long term committed relationship with my aqua guy and he has been so wonderful and he is so gentle and loving.

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posted November 29, 2010 11:06 PM            

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yeah. Women are learning now to be more self sufficient. They are slowly understanding their true power over men.

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Cha! I came out the womb being self-sufficent. Perhaps that is the problem with marriage, you can't tame those independent dames anymore!

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posted December 01, 2010 03:08 PM            

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No. I don't want to get married and I don't see the fascination with it. Relationships were never paramount to me. I really don't have the personality to be in one either. I like nmy own space and don't want to answer to anyone!

Its kind of strange though because I have a lot of Libra in my chart. And my rising is in Pisces so I don't know what's going on there. Maybe its my Mars in Virgo.

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posted December 01, 2010 04:15 PM            

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Originally posted by dysfunctionalmystic:
Banxmanx I disagree with your statement about evolved people not wanting to marry or that its a ..I forgot the next bit... but anyway, it's a choice thing, if people want to make a commitment in the eyes of "the great almighty" or whoever then that is their choice and their belief..you're not showing signs of evolution if you insist on your way being the only way

As an ideal marriage is a sacred and special thing to do if you love someone and intend on spending the rest of your life with them,
I don't think there is anything wrong in never being married but it must be nice to have that level of security if you have a good marriage. people, religion and the state taint the concept of being wed but in principal I support it even though it hasn't happened for me..and no I'm not a libran.

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but see the people who are getting married are doing so based on religious tradition. It is impossible to marry someone without directly or indirectly being apart of a certain religious idea. I do not want to hold a gun to a person's head and tell them to not get married but as you can see by the statements of many different people on this thread, they are slowly realizing, even after the mistake of marriage, that it is not an authentic communion.

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