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featherlightly
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posted December 04, 2010 09:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for featherlightly     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have Venus in Aries, and just started dating someone who also has Venus in Aries (along with Mars and Mercury). I really want to make this one work long-term, so I'd like to hear about the love lives of any other Venus-in-Aries people here.

I want to know: HOW do you stay happy in relationships? What do you need in a partner? What does it take to keep you interested after you've 'won' your conquest? What elements were in place that made your current or previous relationships successful?

Relationships have always been very, very hard for me because I get bored quickly after the "chase" is over. Security and stability appeals less to me than challenges and excitement. In the past, my favorite part of a relationship has always been the part right before it becomes official -- the guessing, the flirting, the not-quite-knowing how the other person feels. The challenge. Venus is also my chart ruler and tightly conjunct Jupiter, so the effects are expanded.

I can't stand when someone is too available, or too "easy" to win over. I need something to chase. I need someone who is living their own life and doesn't feel like they need someone else to complete them.

How about you?

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posted December 05, 2010 03:11 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ariescancer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi featherlightly,

I have Venus, Mars and Sun in Aries, I never get bored with the people that I fall in love with, maybe because I have Saturn in Leo trine my planets in Aries, when I fall in love I am really in love, I don't get bored, I also have Moon in Sag making a big grand trine.

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posted December 05, 2010 05:30 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That is fascinating, how your Saturn modifies the "flame and burn "Aries Venus
Thank you for that teaching moment lol

I have had one experience with a male Aries Venus.
That will be my last one lol
He needed a woman to chase.
Also, he was very inhibited about his body etc.
This Mars in Cancer NEEDS a guy who knows what he is doing cuz *I* don't

He told me that all the woman in his significant relationships ,chased him.

He had Aries Venus in the 12th house which must have made it's expresion harder.

He had Mars conjunct Moon in Virgo(exact).
Maybe , THAT was why he was so inhibited, sexually.
I know I got off the subject lol,but what do you guys think ?

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posted December 05, 2010 08:24 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mir     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My sister and her b-f both have an Aries-Venus (conjunct at an orb of 4) and they are together for many (8,9 or 10??) years but... they are NOT living together although they often see each other.
He's from another culture and muslim.
When I think of them I think of EXCITEMENT! (it's this unceasing energy surrounding them)

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posted December 05, 2010 10:44 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for maira     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yeap, excitement and challenge are the keywords, those should be easy, since you have an aries venus yourself!

Super offtopic : ariescancer, I'm curious about your other placements, I also have sun-ven-mar conj in aries

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posted December 05, 2010 11:17 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Astra     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have venus in Aries in the 4th house, but it's opposite pluto, trine neptune and trine my ascendant. It's also sextile mars, but I digress....

Anyway, to be happy in a relationship, I don't need to constantly have the thrill of conquest, but I do need the guy to have his own life and not cling onto me every second. Clinginess freaks me out and I need time to myself. Basically, I don't like constantly being joined at the hip 24/7.

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posted December 05, 2010 12:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for britterfly     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
As far as keeping a Venus and Mars in Aries person interested (I have Venus and Mars in Aries), I would suspect that you would need to look at the whole chart to figure that out.

It is true that Venus and Mars in Aries natives do need a lot of excitement and stimulation to stay interested, but of what sort could be varied. For instance! I personally need a lot of intellectual stimulation and a deep, spiritual bond with a person to get my motor humming and to KEEP it humming. Also, I like to be treated with respect and love by whomever I am dating. I have, as yet, not found such a person, on any of these fronts. Guys tend to become very "relaxed" once they think they've got you, and the rudeness and inconsideration comes out at the first given opportunity, and tends to flow freely from then on. And I, in true Aries fashion, suddenly up and leave much to their surprise.

Okay, enough about me. (Very Aries to talk about oneself at length, so get used to it if you're dating one.)

Look at the whole chart and just talk to him and be around him to find out who he is on the whole in order to know how to keep him interested.

Key factors in keeping Mars and Venus in Aries interested: Surprises!! Keep the surprises rolling in. Play! Play rough and animal-like. We LOVE it! Do not be afraid to let your inner "bad kid" show. We like driving fast, loud music, bein' bad, petty crime (just enough to get the heart racing), traveling, impromptu road trips... Are you getting what I'm putting down?

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posted December 05, 2010 12:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for britterfly     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think that's mostly Mars in Aries that I described there.

My mom has Venus in Aries as well, and she is just a demure, lady-like, play-by-the-rules character, but as far as romance goes, I know she likes to play and find excitement in her dude.

My father has Venus in Aries just a degree or two away from my mother's (they also have conjuncting Mars in Cancer, with an orb of just a degree or two. Woo!).

My father was in the habit of calling my mother his "girlfriend" whenever she wanted to do something fun, and refer to her as his "wife" whenever she started to nag, and he would speak of the two opposing characters in the same sentence, as if they were contradictory people in his universe. (Jokingly, of course.)

When I as a little kid, my parents liked to do random, teenager-like activities, like sneak off in the middle of the night to go to a nightclub. One memorable even was when my Mom's best friend came over in full Renaissance Faire regalia (http://www.mullahsteahouse.com/images/History/1980s/1986NorthernFaireUnkUnkSageUnk.jpg), and my Dad just thought it would be super to have my Mom's friend pose for pictures with her nipples in various stages of exposure while wearing her Renaissance faire garb, with all the children watching. Why anyone but my father thought this was a good idea, I do not understand.

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posted December 05, 2010 02:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for justwanttruelove     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
i like it when guys try to hold back their emotions and try acting tough...while giving hints that deep down they are feeling a little.
trust. after the fun of the conquer is faded, i need to know we can go out into our own seperate lives and still trust eachother

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posted December 05, 2010 03:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
See Pire,
Justwantruelove is NOT me

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posted December 05, 2010 07:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for JChristine     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My mother has Venus & Moon and Aries. From what I've noticed, she's extremely independent, doesn't like asking for help or having to rely on anyone. She was the kind of woman who would do all the repairs in the house if it was within her capabilities.

When it comes to romance, she definitely doesn't like clinginess. She likes having her own time & space to herself to do her own thing. She enjoys the challenge of starting a relationship...the more 'drama' the better. But once the thrill is gone, she'd probably rather see them once a week, or once a month, lol!! The guy she's with now is sweet, probably too sweet to be honest. He's always home at the same time and is always available. He expects them to do all social activities together, and doesn't have his own circle of friends. He's unable to travel, and she has not let that stop her from jumping on a plane every so often to enjoy herself without him.

If I could find the perfect guy for her it would be someone who is independent, has his own life and circle of friends, romantic, gives her both attention & space and is able to pamper her.

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posted December 06, 2010 08:03 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for joyrjw     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I know someone who has Venus in Aries Retrograde and conjunct Saturn in Aries 9th house, Mars in Sagittarius and Sun in Aries

He's very independant.He likes the chase.He likes excitement.He could be selfish. He has ideas of what he wants in a relationship but it doesn't matter what the other person wants. He's also romantic. he's also repressed sexually and can be very distant. I think that's the aspect to Saturn and being Retrograde. *he's changed over the years and is less distant and more expressive

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posted December 06, 2010 08:52 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for letram     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
i find this topic interesting to read, because my partner has venus in Aries. mars in sagittarius, sun in aquarius.

very independant.


i definitely fitted the bill mostly of this "independant, has their own life, not clingy"
space giving part.

i also read the venus-uranus topic, very interesting too.

at the begining, i was more that way, as described above. but in our synastry, we have a double whammy of saturn square venus. but also a double whammy aspect of venus-moon. (moon conjunct venus, and venus trine moon).

i believe these, especially saturn, changes everything in us.

i like my own space too, but with our relationship, we can't get enough of eachothers time (likely moon-venus at hand) but saturn makes us want to commit this time to eachother alot with little space! and when we do have time apart we miss eachother and only feel "right" and at peace when were in eachothers company.

the uranus topic interested me because i have venus-square-uranus natally, and in synastry her uranus squares my venus. but without a doubt i play out as much uranus-energy, if not more, toward her than she does me. but maybe a 6orb square of my venus square her uranus counts and its a double whammy.

natally she has dsc in capricorn. and moon in capricorn. so commitment and closeness i tihnk are more important to her than other aries venus's, especially since her venus is in the 10th.

i think aspects can change this, some one in the venus-uranus topic mentioned saturn possibly being a reason thats holding their parents together for 30 years despite the "not lasting" venus-uranus hard aspects.

our circumstances, and the relationship nature its self, is packed with "excitement" drama, thrill, and the issue of chase was strong in the begining. the "unknowing" i am very reserved about my attraction and never let a person know. perhaps this kept her feeling like she was chasing me, but at the sametime, she wasnt really a chaser.


she states taht she doesnt like it when men directly flirt or show they want her so quickly and openly, i think this is the cancer asc/cappy moon coming into play.

she also has venus-square neptune, that comes into play with chase too probably.

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posted December 06, 2010 01:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mama Mia     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My Bf has Venus in Aries and I have Mars in Aries..He's kinda of diffrent from most Venus Aries ppl. His Sun,Moon,Mer,Mars is all in Taurus. I think the things that matter to him is a stable mate, a Independent mate, I think alot of Venus in Aries ppl are attracted to the the atheltic typ bc most of them are. The twisted one's like drama and confuse it with excitement. Be a challenge open for some adventure come up with some new things..And hope that the relationship is meant to be..

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posted December 06, 2010 08:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for featherlightly     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by ariescancer:
I have Venus, Mars and Sun in Aries, I never get bored with the people that I fall in love with, maybe because I have Saturn in Leo trine my planets in Aries, when I fall in love I am really in love, I don't get bored, I also have Moon in Sag making a big grand trine.

It sounds like you have some nice placements!

I have Venus trine Saturn (in Sag), but the boredom is still there. Maybe it has less to do with Venus in my chart than the fact that my 7th house ruler (Mars) is opposition Uranus. It makes me fickle and unpredictable. I feel so bad for the people who date me.

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posted December 06, 2010 08:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for featherlightly     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Astra:
Anyway, to be happy in a relationship, I don't need to constantly have the thrill of conquest, but I do need the guy to have his own life and not cling onto me every second. Clinginess freaks me out and I need time to myself. Basically, I don't like constantly being joined at the hip 24/7.

I soooooo relate to this. I had to break up with the last person I was dating because he was so smothering. I actually nick-named him The Clinger (though not to his face ). He would call every five minutes and send dozens of text messages every day... really sweet, but it sent me running in the other direction SO fast.

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posted December 06, 2010 08:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Diana     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by joyrjw:
I know someone who has Venus in Aries Retrograde and conjunct Saturn in Aries 9th house, Mars in Sagittarius and Sun in Aries

He's very independant.He likes the chase.He likes excitement.He could be selfish. He has ideas of what he wants in a relationship but it doesn't matter what the other person wants. He's also romantic. he's also repressed sexually and can be very distant. I think that's the aspect to Saturn and being Retrograde. *he's changed over the years and is less distant and more expressive


Do you think he became less distant when his venus went direct in his progressed chart? I heard that can happen.


Venus in aries does like the chase. I think a lot of how it's expressed depends on their moon.

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posted December 06, 2010 09:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for featherlightly     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by britterfly:

Look at the whole chart and just talk to him and be around him to find out who he is on the whole in order to know how to keep him interested.

Key factors in keeping Mars and Venus in Aries interested: Surprises!! Keep the surprises rolling in. Play! Play rough and animal-like. We LOVE it! Do not be afraid to let your inner "bad kid" show. We like driving fast, loud music, bein' bad, petty crime (just enough to get the heart racing), traveling, impromptu road trips... Are you getting what I'm putting down?


I love your last paragraph... definitely resonates. I LOVE rough animal play, haha.

Good point about needing to look at the whole chart. This is his -- he has his Venus conjunct late-degree moon in Pisces, which probably softens it quite a bit. My Venus is conjunct his Mars by 1 degree/his descendant by 3 degrees, so I think my Venus nature understands his Mars nature pretty well.

The Libra rising also makes him more passive and sometimes less assertive than you'd expect for someone with an Aries stellium.


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posted December 06, 2010 09:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for featherlightly     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by britterfly:
One memorable even was when my Mom's best friend came over in full Renaissance Faire regalia (http://www.mullahsteahouse.com/images/History/1980s/1986NorthernFaireUnkUnkSageUnk.jpg), and my Dad just thought it would be super to have my Mom's friend pose for pictures with her nipples in various stages of exposure while wearing her Renaissance faire garb, with all the children watching. Why anyone but my father thought this was a good idea, I do not understand.

I just laughed for five minutes straight. Thank you.

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posted December 06, 2010 10:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for featherlightly     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Mama Mia:
My Bf has Venus in Aries and I have Mars in Aries.

Do you have a conjunction? How does it feel being the Mars person -- strong attraction?

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posted December 06, 2010 10:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for britterfly     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Wow. He must be seeeeexxxyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!

Okay, after looking at his chart, I can only suggest just sticking with the plan of being full of surprises and always game to try something new and different and BE exciting.

I love a Taurus with Mercury in Aries as well... and I must say... he does like to win his arguments. So have the intellectual debates with him, but LET him win after a little bit of challenge and be like "Ooooh baby you're SOOOO smart. I could NEVER win an argument with you. Oooh lala!" And then stroke his arm all sexy like while staring him deeply in the eyes all coy and cat-like. He'll eat it up.

Pisces moon makes him very sensitive, so keep that in mind.

Stroke his ego, give him TONS of compliments, always make him feel manly, manly, manly, and be FUN!!!!

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posted December 06, 2010 10:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for britterfly     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
P.S.

Play hard to get.

Play hard to get, play hard to get, play hard to get.

I have venus and mars in Aries, and NOTHING is LESS attractive than someone who is obviously smitten and head over heals for me before the chase has even taken place.

It literally makes me feel nauseous when some guy is in front of me, fidgeting and acting cute and docile and ready to turn over on his back in complete submission.... Ugh. Get away from me.

Be self-confident, love yourself, sincerely enjoy life and enjoy life in front of him and let HIM come to YOU... and he will.

Do not prance around him like a love sick puppy. Bad move.

Think "Jessica Rabbit" and you'll be fine. ;o)

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posted December 06, 2010 10:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for raspberri     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You overpower him so much.

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posted December 06, 2010 10:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for britterfly     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yy5THitqPBw

That's you, Feather.

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