posted December 05, 2010 10:36 PM            

I'm an 11th house Venus (whats worse is the Venus is in its natural ruler...Taurus...so its VERY STRONG), NN, AntiVertex, Pallas, Psyche, Pholus, and Lilith with my Mars Conjunct both my Sun and Asc inconjunct Uranus/Jupiter (in Aquarius) and Sun and Mars Contra Parallel Uranus. And I'm a Cancer with 7th house Moon (in Cap none the less)...so that makes it soooo much worse.

I love relationships and closeness but as SOON as I get it...I want out. And pronto! I always say I'm a MUCH better friend than gf. I will admit I am hard to date, as things tend to be more mental like passion means nothing to me if I don't love the way you think!!.

Like if I can't have a convo with you ABOUT everything under the sun and crack on you as a friend...and then the next minute be able to be passionate then it won't work. Plus I'm super uncomfortable being called someone's girlfriend.

posted December 05, 2010 10:58 PM            

i think i've happened upon the perfect solution.

i'm seeing a scorpio. and we've decided that we are just connecting. we see each other when we see each other, which is quite often. but there is no pressure for titles. what it does for me is when i'm feeling super platonic, or just detached, which is random and at unpredictable times, i don't feel any pressure to break up because we aren't "together".

it has created such a freer environment for communication. we literally talk about EVERYTHING with no jealousy or envy or anger (so far

i feel free to oscillate between my usual extremes of wanting consuming intimacy and passion as well as just a friend that i don't feel like seeing or talking too.

posted December 06, 2010 02:43 AM            

Yes, Yes, Yes. I agree. I'm just now more happy as singel woman. I dating almost all the time but when I be too close ,I most of the time go out of dating quick. I cant feel wrong connection. I've 2 marriage behind me so I will never start or try something who feels wrong. I need more than love. I'm happy I not need a man to get a good life.

posted December 06, 2010 09:36 AM            

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i'm seeing a scorpio. and we've decided that we are just connecting. we see each other when we see each other, which is quite often. but there is no pressure for titles. what it does for me is when i'm feeling super platonic, or just detached, which is random and at unpredictable times, i don't feel any pressure to break up because we aren't "together".

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I'm one big mess if it comes to balancing these two. I've plenty (who doesn't?) of opportunities to have such connections but... I CAN'T, I really CAN'T!
As soon as I've kissed and feel something I want EVERYTHING (I don't have to tell you the effect) and if I don't get it all I'm ready with them. I can't wait for something that's not REAL enough (from the beginning) for me.. only the thought of losing or them sleeping with others is depressing the hell out of me.

Currently a Scorp - as if nothing happened - is trying to come back into my life (after one and a half year) but as he hurt me a lot I'm now making an infantile monstrosity of him while burying his face in the dust of every grubby little (sexual) detail you normally don't ventilate.

So, I have to protect myself by all-or-nothing!

Mars/NN in aqua (square SCORP-MOON!)
Venus in 11th
Sun sextile Uranus

posted December 06, 2010 01:51 PM            

Eternally single, but very easy to date. I look for someone who is an individual, not a person who thinks just because she is a woman, she has to act like one in social situations.

No time for people who test Men because they are insecure, nor any time for women who are b1tches.

Very easy going because I can remain calm and objective. Do have the longings for a stable relationship, yet want to see a few before I settle. I consider myself quite psychologically sound, which can mean the choice between single and in a relationship is down to me wanting both freedom, yet closeness, when looking at relationship choices.

posted December 06, 2010 10:17 PM            

I also don't do well with conflict, not conflict of like minor squabbles but like getting hurt...and 95% of the time when I get hurt I walk away and don't deal with things . Basically I just shut off emotionally when hurt (I think this is more my Uranus/IC aspect...I'm a Cancer so it's especially strong). It makes things hard because I actually don't deal with much...and tend to get numb to situations that hurt too much. I used to say my way of dealing with things is not dealing with them.

I think that's the hardest part about dating. I'm not really comfortable being a gf or saying this is my bf. But I also don't like being single (due to my stupid 7th house moon lol).