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StarrofVenusGirl
Moderator Posts: 1226
From: Down the Rabbit Hole
Registered: Jun 2009
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posted December 21, 2010 10:51 PM
  
If you're asking me, 85% from the extremely talented and incredibly generous astrologers on LL. You can learn a lot here by just reading. 10% researching aspects, obsessing over my natal, composite, and synastry charts and those of others LOL. Thinking about how the aspects manifest in life. You will learn an incredible amount from these forums and also by having a curious mind and looking up things on your own. The Internet is the best resource there is...also there are many, many good books on astrology. Knowledge on the topic is ancient and practically infinite. 5% from intution and just expressing what I feel when I look at the chart. IP: Logged |
justwanttruelove
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posted December 21, 2010 11:43 PM
hey, yeah i was asking you, lol.
i really want to learn how to read them
i was wondering if we could do a little practice thing on mine.for example
the red (i'm guessin venus lines??)
- what does it mean when there is one that goes from the gemini to sag sign?
- do u look at houses AND signs that the line begins/ends at?
- is there a way to tell which lines are the most influencial, or is that where your intuition comes in??
-are the lines the most important thing, or do u tend to look at other elemets as well.
- regarding the lines, is one side the begining and one the end?
lol, sorry i've edited this post a couple of times by adding new questions, hope it hasn't filled your inbox
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LauraSmith
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From: new york
Registered: Dec 2010
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posted December 23, 2010 02:08 PM
I've had a lot of friends who were cheated on. They tend to have a very different approach to love than me or others that haven't been cheated on. Though there's never any guarantee that it won't happen to you (that's the sort of thing that can happen to anyone) the thing that's most important is picking a LOYAL partner in the first place. I always tell these friends of mine when I meet their man that I don't feel he is the type to be sexual loyal- they ignore me and they always get cheated on. Then they start to blame themselves as if THEY were the problem.IMO sentances like "will I always get cheated on" and "how can I prevent divorce" scream of low self esteem and show that you blame yourself and feel that YOU are responsible for the relationship somehow. A person who realizes they are not the only ones responsible for a relationship wouldn't ask "will I always get cheated on" but rather "will I always choose scumbags" A person who tries desperately to save a marriage and prevent divorce while their partner goes around cheating has issues within themselves that they should really look into. Why should he stop cheating on you? After all he gets it all... He gets to have his fun and at the same time you end up blaming yourself and you end up trying to save the marriage instead of making his life hell and taking half his money. Guys who cheat are attracted to you because you are their dream partner. Just like a wife-beater can often sense who will be willing to take a beating from them (and therefore only date women who will) serial cheaters can sense what type of woman will put up with their cheating and often tend to choose to settle down with them). Again- any couple can go through this... I'm in my 30's now and it hasn't happened to me yet but it doesn't mean that it won't. And according to my friends I'm pretty good at sniffing out who's good to have a long term relationship with & who isn't. I find that cheating occurs much less often in the lives of my friends who are willing to leave such a relationship immediately without taking apologies and who are genuinely not attracted to the types of guys who have these traits-the first step to that is self esteem I think. You are not responsible for the life of this relationship. If he's not willing to carry at least 50% of the load then there is no saving this relationship no matter what. Fact: Almost 90% of couples who go to marriage counseling end up getting divorced. Statistical fact. The reason is because almost always it's a situation where one partner doesn't want to carry his/her load and doesn't even want to do the counseling and the other one THINKS that if they carry the whole load and make the other person follow that it will work out. Almost 90% of the time they are wrong. If both people aren't willing to put in the effort then it's over. Nothing can save it. But at least you can save yourself some time and heartache if you realize that right away. You can't make the other person take responsiblity. I would focus less on trying to "prevent divorce" and focus more on building self esteem and finding someone who sees your value. IP: Logged | |
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