posted December 15, 2010 10:00 AM            

In my many years of dabbling in astrology, I keep running across the notion that Aquarius is not a good bed mate, but rather a brilliant friend!

By and by, as the years pass and I approach my mid-centinal, I have come to know that Aquarius really sux as a "friend!"

Some of you know my propensity for attracting Aquarius as my Pisces soul is highly Aquarian.

Thus, I always have many Aquas in my life.

They just plain are not good friends. Ignoring, even the most few and far between contacts, putting out a cold and icy demeanor, almost choking on the word "love", no matter how it is used. Cold and blankly wishing happy bdays, holidays, condolences of bereavement, the list goes on and on...

I am raising, well have tried to anyway "raise" an Aqua daughter and she is no exception. She has a Cancer asc and her best gf is a Cancer sun and my kid would almost go to the ends of the earth for her friend, but the buck stops there. I just recently let of of a long time Aqua male friend who's icy sentiments on the recent death of my b-loved grandma made me nauseous.

So I am wondering, why pop astrology calls Aquarius "friends" when they really are not???

Maybe I have answered my own question in examining why Aqua can not be a "lover" but can be a friend, but in that situation, they can not even be friends, evidenced by observing my daughter and a couple of ex-Aqua flames....

I am so confused!

Any and all comments appreciated!!!

posted December 15, 2010 10:12 AM            

You want to ring me that evening and talk about the momentous decision you have just made?
Are you mad? Now you are just becoming plain needy and I will shake you off like an irritating Maltese Terrier that's trying to mate with my leg.

posted December 15, 2010 10:12 AM            

What do you mean when you say they aren't good at displays of birthdays or holidays or whatever. I'm not really understanding what it is that they aren't doing enough of. Like if someone says happy birthday or whatever isn't that enough lol. If they get a gift great, but its not a big deal. If they're telling you that and then the actions back up the words I don't understand lol. My poor Cap Moon and 11th house Venus needs you to explain it to me what you mean exactly lol.

I'm a Cancer and I deff need the emotions...BUT TOO much is just horrid...you can't have any relationship that is all emotions lol.

posted December 15, 2010 10:20 AM            

Since most people,most of us, are not highly evolved,the non highly evolved Aqua is phobic about showing even little displays of love.
They feel like they are losing an organ if they say simple words like "I love you".
At times, they will act loving.However, if you EXPECT it , the next time, they will chop off your head

posted December 15, 2010 10:29 AM            

amianne as well!!! no truer words!

girlygirl, it is not in just times of sentiment that i am speaking of. the aquas in my life even suck at business transactions...me to fomrer male aqua friend recently..."via text (and i have so, learned to deal with this particular aqua, keep it light!) hey do you know of any good carbody men? my miata recently manifested a gouge and would like to get it fixed..."

days later..texts me with nothing to do with the inquiry, but his usual stupid, useless flirtations...me "did you get my text re a body shop?" him..."o, Yea!, my hand has been hurting..."

what??????

I have to admit, tho, I do see a bit of my Aqua self in them, but the differenc is, that I will not even go there with someone if I have no intention of keeping in contact.

It is like they just see any sort of interatcion with people as a mere annoyance, and do it just to further themselves along in their days..

ah...well...

posted December 15, 2010 10:32 AM            

I am asking a question that traditional astrology has documented for ever!

So are you saying that listening to tradtional, text book astrology is a personal problem?

posted December 15, 2010 10:52 AM            

I have Venus in Aries, 0. 29 deg. But my birth time is a bit sketchy, so could be in Pisces, but probably in Aries.

I mean, by going there, I, far from demand constant contact from someone and the people who are in my life know this about me, being a Pisces sun, colored by so much Aqua I am as aloof as the next air sign! When somebody texts me, e-mails me, calls me, I will atleast make an attempt to call/text/email back when I can, which is usually in a fair amount of time.

I feel bad if I dont and I think it is an issue of respect. But, now, I have a small circle of "friends" and maybe that is my issue.

Take my sis-in-law for instance, she calls the whole world her "friend." (Virgo sun) she has some 900 FB "friends" and I do not doubt that she has had personal contact with all of them at some point of her life.

If I call someone a friend, I expect atleast a degree of respect, and that is why my circle of friends is so small. I do not desire a well of people from which to draw and I respect people and I know what I can give emotionally to all the individuals in my life. And that is not a whole lot at times.

But again, my question, what is it about traditional astrology that speaks of Aqua as "friends?"

Again...maybe I am trying to reform traditional astrology, maybe I should digress?

Just a question ya'all...

posted December 15, 2010 10:52 AM            

Aquarius people one day realize taht there is something wrong with them. They can't show affection and when they want to, they never learned how. This manifests as them playing some events or happenings in their life, as this allows them to remove themselves as the culprit, they become detached from responsibility, this way their ego can grow, even though it's growing in the wrong direction.

Aquarius people are also really good at making fun of you when you least expect it. Your best aquarius friend will make fun of you during an interview with your boss and tell you that it's your fault for not thinking of a comback....this is true with all aquarians unless they are spiritually advanced. They lack tact for the most part. That is why people say aquarians are initially magnetic...because after five seconds you ask yourself wtf you were thinking......don't get me wrong some aquarians are somewhat balanced, but the propensity for cruelty is amazing in real time since they don't feel what they've done until months later, when they're missing you and crying that they need a friend, and then expecting you to hear about their life story, when they don't even care to ask what your doing at the moment....and by the way never expect an aquarian to admit they are wrong....they simply say they are mis understood.

posted December 15, 2010 10:58 AM            

I am totally mezmerized by your post!

That is SO my 18 year old Aqua daughter!

Tho, she is physically violent all by herself, but all you say about Aquas is her, totally!

thank you!!!

posted December 15, 2010 11:03 AM            

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but the propensity for cruelty is amazing in real time since they don't feel what they've done until months later, when they're missing you and crying that they need a friend, and then expecting you to hear about their life story, when they don't even care to ask what your doing at the moment....and by the way never expect an aquarian to admit they are wrong....they simply say they are mis understood

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posted December 15, 2010 11:04 AM            

I know a lot of people that don't return communications promptly...or at all, and I've noticed that I do that too sometimes. Sometimes there's nothing more to say.

I can be fairly callous regarding holidays and birthdays, too. I arranged something to do as a friend's Christmas gift this year. It's tonight, and yesterday when it was brought up I'd forgotten about it (and I just arranged it a week ago). Amongst the gifts I'm giving this season it's one of the lowest priority gifts, so...
I'm not in to most holidays and birthdays. Christmas is the biggest holiday exception. The others I could do without. My birthday's the day after Christmas, so I may as well not even have one.

posted December 15, 2010 11:14 AM            

I have a Taurus moon oppo my Scorp asc, square my Merc, Mars, Jup (close conj) in Aqau opposed (close) to Uranus in Leo.

I am most prb a Aries Venus as I tend to jump into relationships too fast and, Venus being the only Fire in me comes out with passionate issues...such as this one.

AG interesting lament. My kid is half Aqua and half Cap...lol!

Venus no doubt people mis interperate the actions of Aquas, but again I am asking why pop (trational astrology) deems them as these great friends, when I have experirenced otherwise and as my Aqua daughter redily admits!

roadwarrior, O, I do not doubt their positive attributes, have had an ongoing love with Aqua for ever...just wonder why they are called these great friends?

thanks all!!!

posted December 15, 2010 11:19 AM            

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AccousticGod you reminded me something else that's true of all my aquarian friends....they are much nicer to strangers than their own.

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I didn't realize this was an Aqua trait lol. My mom and friends say to me all the time I'm more friendly and nicer to strangers than I am to people I know lol. I'm not downright mean, but I will say I present well with strangers...I'm really friendly in a group and when first interacting with others. However I'm actually quite introverted and pretty difficult to get to know when it moves to a one on one basis.