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Topic: Help me to understand Aquarians
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RunAroundScreaming Moderator Posts: 7642 From: Registered: Oct 2010
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posted December 21, 2010 05:35 AM
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oceaneyes9 Knowflake Posts: 138 From: missouri Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 21, 2010 10:22 AM
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firecracker Knowflake Posts: 554 From: all places Registered: Nov 2010
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posted December 21, 2010 10:32 AM
i only have one real life aqua friend, and he is so freaking cool. he always gets me unique little things, sometimes second hand stuff, that makes me laugh my butt off.like today, i got a card with richard nixon shaking elvis' hand, the capion he wrote over nixon said, merry x mas, then elvis said, say christmas dammit it's about the baby Jesus man. it was tucked in a second hand tee shirt that looked like it would fit a 10 year old that says, i am your secret santa. in fact i have a whole drawer of second hand tee shirts from him, fat albert, wrif rock, soccor mom..with soccor crossed out and a r for rocker mom. a tape, a actual cassate tape of his song, chrismas in the oalkand county jail, with references to turkey loaf...and dropping the soap. just little stuff all the time that cracks me up. i wish i knew more aquas as they are a hoot. everyone is different, i am leo and i find cancers to be clingy and moody for the most part, i don't find scorpios suns that attractive and can't deal with talking to depressing people all the time, so everyone really is different. IP: Logged |
VenusDiSirius Knowflake Posts: 5292 From: Registered: Aug 2010
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posted December 21, 2010 10:34 AM
To aquarius,people are flawed. That's why stick with ideas. U r cancer,your affections are linear: you love somebody-you say i love you. U need somebody-you call them. Cancer express emotions by the book. Crying=sad;laughing=happy; emotions by their first definition,you are ruled by moon. Other signs process it differently. And often get labeled as unemotional,because one doesn't express them by canon. It's like playing chess by football rules ------------------ Leo/Libra/Capricorn IP: Logged |
Still_Hopeful Knowflake Posts: 549 From: USA Registered: Aug 2009
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posted December 21, 2010 11:10 AM
I am Aqua Sun and Venus and multiple asteroids in aqua yes, I often distance myself from lovers/friends. Why? I have no idea. A lot of time I feel i need time for myself to collect my thoughts and not to disapper in a rel. completely OR often times I just get bored with a person. Does it sound horrable? I guess for some people it does, but .... what can I do? regarding phone calls.... I do not like phones it is much easier for me to hop in a taxi/car and drive to my friend house or email/IM/text versus talking on a phone. So I prefer not to chat on a phone.. Another reason why I do not call my freinds it is I hate to be a bother. I think if people wants to talk to me he/she will reach out. It is goes the same with me. If I really want to talk or run my ideas by I pick up the phone/take bus/take taxi/car and go to my lover or friends house (with a nice bottle of wine). I do not wait for them to call. I just visit/call them. I am not a cold person but I am somewhat uncomfortable with too much intensity, drama and emotions. Even though lots of people told me I am very intense (at least on a surface). I attribute it to my ASC (I am scorp asc). also the drama seems to follow me lately in my personal life.... it is sound so strange because all my life I always tried to avoid it. and the most important.... I do not trust my emotions. and sometimes I even afraid to be emotional, because If I give myself a right to be emotional can I stop myself after words? What I mean is.... if I start crying will I be able to stop later? If I start to feel angry will I stop this unpleasant feeling? and so on
Don't get me wrong, I fell... oh boy I feel so much... sometimes I feel I am like boiling water in a cold cylinder... the problem is/was/will be is to express the emotions.
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amowls* Newflake Posts: From: Registered:
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posted December 21, 2010 12:15 PM
I'm an Aqua (Sun, Mercury/Chart ruler in Aqua, Uranus conjunct DSC, and square Venus, too). My boyfriend is a Cancer. He likes me just fine Maybe you're too sensitive. I don't base my friendship-status on whether I call you every day. There are times in life where you can't be as close to certain people because you're busy with work, or family or whatever. I've literally had the same friends for almost 8 years (some 10 years). Who is super close to me year by year changes, but that doesn't mean I'm NOT FRIENDS with the person that I don't talk to or see every day. I remember growing up I had a Cancer friend who didn't understand that I wanted to be alone sometimes. She would literally call me 5 times a day, and when I didn't pick up, she'd walk over to my house and peek in the windows to see if I was home. IT WAS SO GOD DAMN ANNOYING. She was very very clingy and inject herself into activities. Like, I'd say "Oh, I'm going to the mall later" and she'd be like "OKAY I'LL PICK YOU UP." And normally, with all of my other friends, they are always invited, but this girl would do it so much that it was annoying (and not just to me). I constantly had to defend her. She was also bossy as hell and would whine (while accusing me of whining... I hate hypocrites). Finally, I just let us drift apart. That was my only Cancer friend until recently. Worst friend ever category filled by a person I know is a Cap Sun. She literally told one of her friends who lived with her that if came down to it, she'd rather eff him over than herself (this is because she was subleasing the apartment and wasn't contractually obligated to pay rent). So basically, her FRIEND had to pay $1000 because SHE bailed. She's also selfish and constantly demands money from her ill grandfather who is retired. She will also do everything in her power to charm the pants off of you at first. Once you declare your allegiance to her, she does not give a flying f*ck about you. She'd always come to me with her problems (still does but I'm not so sympathetic anymore because IT'S ALWAYS THE SAME GOD DAMN PROBLEMS AND I CAN ONLY REPEAT ADVICE SO MANY TIMES) but the minute that I was depressed, she'd coldly tell me to stop being pathetic. ie: She'd wail to me about her ex girlfriend but when I'd be sad about a boy, she wouldn't want to hear it. She's also extremely shallow. I'm just done with her. /rant over IP: Logged |
aethan Knowflake Posts: 117 From: Lisbon, PT Registered: Sep 2010
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posted December 21, 2010 12:22 PM
I agree with most of what Still_Hopeful wrote. I also have both my Sun and Venus in Aquarius. Plus I have an aquarian Jupiter and these three planets are all in my 11th House. It's so hard to live with my feelings. Most of the time I feel I have to suppress them, to not think of them. If I do, all hell would break lose. I'd break down. It's not a healthy way to live, I've had a breaking point a couple of years ago. It took me a while to get out of it. But back to what's at stake here. I will speak for myself, since I have more Aquarius in me than anything else (Pisces is a close second). There's a fear of being overbearing. Of being too needy, of being considered annoying. I never know how much is too much and how little is too little. There's so much love inside of me, that I give away in small gestures. And probably most people think I'm cold. I try really hard not to be. I was never accused of it, but I feel that I probably am sometimes. Rejection is unbearable. So I usually avoid putting myself on the spot. My Aries Ascendant usually tries to do that. Then my Pisces Moon suffers. My Aquarius sun wishes it could please everyone. One thing though, when I love someone there is nothing I wouldn't do for them. They are on my mind constantly. Showing that love is our big problem. We need to be sure we're not going to be rejected before showing it. Hugs are the answer. Hug us.IP: Logged |
bubbles Newflake Posts: 4 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted December 21, 2010 01:15 PM
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RunAroundScreaming Moderator Posts: 7642 From: Registered: Oct 2010
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posted December 21, 2010 08:15 PM
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firecracker Knowflake Posts: 554 From: all places Registered: Nov 2010
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posted December 21, 2010 08:25 PM
they do in their own way. like the little gifts thing to show they care or random odd stuff. just dont corner them. then they love you more i think. they seem detached, but they care.
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RunAroundScreaming Moderator Posts: 7642 From: Registered: Oct 2010
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posted December 21, 2010 08:32 PM
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Moons Of Jupiter Knowflake Posts: 150 From: Australia Registered: Jun 2010
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posted December 21, 2010 08:33 PM
LOL @ Amowls - hilarious (not your situation, just your description). You poor thing. Hope you fare better with friendships in the future. My experience with Aquas is this: they are people-people, and they are not 'attuned' to anyone in particular, meaning sensing what's going on inside you and moulding themselves to you. They will not fake communion and sensitivity where there is none, they bring THEMSELVES to every situation, and that includes their current disposition, whether you like it or not. When they're ****** off, they don't care who gets affected by seeing it. When they're happy, they're happy inside for themselves, it's actually not OUTWARD focused at all. So in that sense it's easy to feel like you don't matter around them. You do, it's just that you can't ever matter enough to completely change whatever the inner Uranian weather is doing. Sometimes, they will just fly away, and they don't take you with them. You're a Cancer, so as an evolved Cancer, the lesson is to not take it personally, you can actually only choose to determine whether for you this is an acceptable friendship or not. Just my experience. IP: Logged |
PlutoSquared Newflake Posts: 0 From: Registered: May 2013
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posted December 21, 2010 08:38 PM
Aquarians are "air" types. The closer you get, the more elusive and dispersed they seem...I love aquarians because of their accurate view of human nature, and good-will towards almost everybody. The bad parts? They are usually horribly disorganized, crazy-structured, and lack a TANGIBLE like wrap your fingers around and hold on to type of personality. Yes, they care. Yes, they are friendly. But, there is always something lacking in that kind of meaty-protein way - they are distant, detached and enjoy space - unless there's something about YOU that they require. I have an Aquarius in my life who sticks with me, and I have no idea why. Over so many years, I've even started to think like Aquarius - my brain waves are so mellowed out and spacey and free. But, the communication is always clear and I DEPEND that this person knows the answers I need, and can reach certain mental destinations in a clear, logical, and precise way... No one else I know has that ability. I trust Aquarians. IP: Logged |
StarrofVenusGirl Knowflake Posts: 1314 From: Down the Rabbit Hole Registered: Jun 2009
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posted December 21, 2010 10:58 PM
I just texted my Aqua ex who I haven't talked to in 2.5 months. I was looking at some old Facebook albums and started feeling nostalgic. I told him that. He replied that he looks at them at least once a week (way more than I do), and misses me too. THAT is Aquarius. Confounding, elusive, not necessarily expressive, but deeply sentimental and emotional on the inside. They are also very loyal and don't stay mad long. We have had the craziest relationship ever but could still be the best of friends tomorrow if we chose. They are also very accepting of people...your zaniest self will never phase them, they will accept you as is. They need a LOT of space though. With them, absence truly makes the heart grow fonder. They need to miss you. Aquas are maddening. It's unbelievable how many Aqua threads there are on LL. LOL...try browsing some other forums. ETA: Keep in mind that Aquarius is a fixed sign though. On the rare occasions that they become completely fed up with someone and decide they are DONE...the relationship isn't the same. This particular Aqua is also Cancer rising, which contributes to his mushiness inside. IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming Moderator Posts: 7642 From: Registered: Oct 2010
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posted December 22, 2010 12:12 AM
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LanaofAugust Knowflake Posts: 210 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 22, 2010 05:20 AM
My Aqua man (Aquarius Sun, ASC & Mercury) and myself (Virgo Sun, Leo ASC & Mercury)are discussing buying a property next year.One night when we were lying on the bed, I asked: "If I say 'yes' to buying that place, are you then going to ask me to marry you?" His reply was: "If it's important to you, we can do that". ;-) ~ Lana IP: Logged |
bunnies Knowflake Posts: 478 From: u.k Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 22, 2010 08:26 AM
Ha Lana! That is romance believe it or not from an Aquarian. My third husband (ex) was an Aquarian as I am. We used to joke about our romance or rather lack of it and yet we both completely understood our feelings for one another. And they were most profound at one time.I once asked him jokingly "Do you love me darling" and he looked at me most bewildered and said "I told you I did in 1998....nothings changed" And when we split up, sad though I know we both were it was like actually having a tooth extraction. "Yes I can see the source of the pain, open wide, there....it's gone now" And we both mumbled our thanks and went our separate ways never to meet again. IP: Logged |
bubbles Newflake Posts: 4 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted December 22, 2010 11:16 AM
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VenusDiSirius Knowflake Posts: 5292 From: Registered: Aug 2010
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posted December 22, 2010 11:23 AM
„i told you i did in 1998...nothings changed” Bunnies,that is so romantic. I am speechless! ------------------ Leo/Libra/Capricorn IP: Logged |
allouette Knowflake Posts: 90 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted December 22, 2010 12:05 PM
aquarians do have emotions and deep feelings, but the way the air signs feel (i'm a libra-gemini) is just so different from the way that the water signs feel.aquarians really care about their friends (maybe more that any other sign) but they also need their space, pls try to understand that otherwise they will just feel suffocated and misunderstood and will run away
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LanaofAugust Knowflake Posts: 210 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 22, 2010 12:34 PM
;-)))Hugs to you all, Lana IP: Logged |
Chahldean Moderator Posts: 212 From: Everywhere I've Been Registered: Jun 2009
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posted December 22, 2010 03:31 PM
Halo RunAroundScreaming This Topic caught my I as I too am trying to understand Aquarians. After 45 years on this planet I am still trying to figure my Self out! Being All Aquarian half Cancerian I feel as though I can relate to Your situation well with the dichotomy of Heart and Mind for ever dancing... My Mind in the Stars My Heart in the Emocean. Most inquiries about Uranians come from jilted Lovers... or disgruntled children of Aquarian parents. Being Human, most people believe Life is about "Feeling" relating only to emotions that can be displayed in the ceaseless drama Life can dish out. Aquarians, or at least the many I have befriended, see life as a cocktail of intellectual emotionalism or better yet Emotional intellectualism. The Mind and Heart are certainly two different perceptions of the same cause. Both intrinsically intertwined but both very separate. I believe most people do not know this.
Many Aquarians I know who have no Water in their chart suffer from lack of Love, as others feel it. They do become prisoner to their thoughts and ideas; love them and find solitude in their Minds. It is who they are and they are fine with that. It is their Lovers who suffer unless they know this. We do not pretend to Be anything or anyone Other than who we are. It is beyond us why one would do that. While it is True the Word "Friend" is all ways associated with Aquaria it often can present obstacles to those who define and perceive "friendship." This can be an unfair burden to Aquarians always being judged by their lack of return friendship according to the receiver... Such as Scorpions being bad Lovers or Cancerians being bad mothers. Most Aquarians never ask for friendship in return. We do not like restrictions and refrain from designing any, by imposing them. It can be and often is frustrating for those who "feel" differently and expect "more" from us. "Love" is an ideal... A concept we all strive for, like "Happiness". Sadly, humans have made these "feelings" tangible in hallmark cards, hollywood films, Valentine's Day and Zales commericals, causing most people to feel void without them. These fleeting emotions are made to be lusted after as if they were indelibly permanent. True Love is un-attainable. It cannot be "had" or "kept"... True Love, if it exists, remains. It Is. It never has to be spoken of or said. If True, it doesn't necessarily have to be displayed. (Although, it is Human Nature to do so, and should Be when felt.) True Love comes from acceptance of the Human condition, the flaws in each others design. Warts and All. I believe Aquarians do Love. We love on the broadest spectrum of All We love Love and All it's possibilities.... We love every One for who they are not what we want them to Be. We Love Man Kind and hope it will Be someday. The illusion of anything else simply brings out the "disconnected, aloof,arrogant, disattached, emotionless" Being our horrorscope portrays of us. Unlike True Love this is simply NOT true! I hope this helps you understand us a bit more.... Typing it out surely has for me!
------------------ Gnosis Thyself & Give unto Others
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