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posted January 06, 2011 12:24 PM            

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I'v some time to kill so figured I'd go ahead and post this. I don't know his birth time and I have no way of getting it, because not in contact with him anymore, but when I describe to others that are into astrology they all always come up with the same guess for acendant- Capricorn. So I gave him a Cap ascendant.

What I've always had trouble figuring out is why this person never really seemed to care much for me even though we have fairly good synastry. It's not perfect synastry, but I look at it and think it's good enough to create a strong friendship at least. I always seemed to care a lot more about his welfare and quite frankly he often didn't seem to care much about me at all. To give you an idea- right before I broke it off with him there was a time when we had sex and his response was (I kid you not) "Thanks." and then he got dressed and left saying that he wouldn't be able to contact me for a couple of days but that "I'll stop by to see you Sunday if I'm bored." I was floored! It wasn't like I was some girl off the street. We had been dating for 9 months at that point. I cried for 20 minutes that day. He had often come off as a little cold towards me (to everyone actually, but I felt that he would at least be a bit warmer towards me) and he would often say things that would hurt me without meaning to. Stuff like this really shocked me. I started cheating on him and not too long after I dumped him. When I look at our synastry It seems to me that he should've had more feelings for me. At least as a friend or something. Primarily since both our moons are well aspected. Who wants to take a crack at this one?

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posted January 06, 2011 12:40 PM            

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I think squaring Suns will always require significant adjustment. His Sun also squares your Mercury, so he's not on board with how you think. Your Sun squares his Mercury, so you're not on board with how he thinks. I don't know why you'd think this would be better. Also, you're giving squared ascedants as well. Another bad omen. Seems kind of like a case of mistaken identity. He is like you in that he has a fixed Sun and a Cardinal rising, but that's the extent of the similarity.

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posted January 06, 2011 01:01 PM            

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hmmm. Well I never thought he was like me. After all I did dump him ages ago. But as someone who is interested in astrology I am more interested on what I should be looking for on his end. I see that 2 of his personal planets dropped into my 7th house, but I never felt like marrying him. The most i ever felt was that I cared about him a lot. Doesn't the moon handle that department? My sun squares the sun of my best friend of 15 years who now lives in France. And my Sun also Squared the Sun of my recent ex who was always quite nice to me. So yes Sun squaring does require adjustment- but I don't think it causes someone to say "thanks" after sex or that they'll see you in a couple of days if they're bored. I never experienced anything like that even from people I had horrible synastry with. The mercury square mercury aspect manifested simply in this manner.- We never really talked. lol. And when I tried talking to him the words would often get stuck in my throat. We spent all our time watching movies, and laughing at them rather than actually talking to one another. ha ha. So you're saying that even if someone's moon is aspected nicely by the other person, they can still be hurt by the other person's coldness on a regular basis?

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posted January 06, 2011 01:43 PM            

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if i had to guess what's wrong with him, i would say the cap AC and venus in the 12th is probably what makes him super detached. Every Cap I know has olympic level difficulties expressing any emotion and that venus in the 12th is a placement I will now avoid in any future relationships. my husband had it (i only discovered astrology after our marriage ended) and had I known what it meant I might have managed our marriage differently. It doesn't mean they don't feel, but it is all hidden.

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posted January 06, 2011 03:18 PM            

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What you said eft describes him perfectly. Everyone used to call him "stiff" and that he didn't know how to have fun. He was also a bit antisocial. I also just realized my venus squares his mercury and the astology-numerology site says this:
Mercury square Venus
This comparative combination may make it hard to communicate emotional issues, especially in romantic and marital relationships. The problem is likely that the Venus person is too uncritical, failing to challenge logical inconsistencies in your thinking; an over-indulging attitude. There is a blockage of real understanding and sensitivity to each other's feelings

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posted January 06, 2011 03:33 PM            

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squares are indeed very difficult but not impossible to overcome if you have other good aspects. me and my partner's chart doesn't have much special in it, and we have super many squares, because he's a Virgo Stellium and me Sagittarius Stellium. before we settled together in our own awkward way, we had to go through so much pain and struggle to arrive where we are. but i really don't think anyone would have put up with what we did to each other. i'd say things are still rocky. but maybe it suits my Sagi nature… better than stale and boring.

anyway enough about me, i think your Uranus conjunct his Sun created certain amounts of miscommunication/misunderstanding? his Uranus also falls on your 1st house.

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