posted January 17, 2011 03:38 PM            

We work together. He is kind and helpful. Sometimes he makes sarcastic and on the edge of rude jokes with his friends from work but he never does that with me. I have known him for about eight months and in the beginning I guess we had normal conversations but by that time I was stuck with a Scorpio guy friend of me and I was feeling sad for having those feelings to that Scorpio guy. I have moved on as I started to develop feelings for that Cancer guy. He can be really sweet and he could be really kind if he wants to. He changes his mood regularly and there were times when he was in a bad mood and I had the feeling I am afraid if I find out he doesn't care or his body language indicated something I wasn't able to interpret correctly. We couldn't talk as soon as I started to have feelings for him and I was so shy and I was ignoring him and he was ignoring me back. Then after few months little by little I tried to start some short conversations with him
and he was always kind. Now I ask him most of the time work questions and he is always answering and helping and saying that's why he is there to help and he isn't busy and it is better to ask. I am afraid I have annoyed him with asking him so often stuff and always trying to talk to him shortly, sometimes I try to make a joke but of course a very innocent one. I told him that I hope I didn't annoy him with my questions and he said no there is no such a thing but later he said also he is used to it now.

I guess he knows I like him because of the attention I constantly pay to him and because of always talking only to him for few minutes and always asking him for help if there is a problem. He is cool with it as far as it seems but I am not sure if he likes me too. I have feeling he likes the attention but I am not really sure too. I can't risk to ask him for out of work thing like a coffee or something because if he says no I would feel really bad and it would make it impossible to work together. I am really emotional and I was rejected once and I didn't handle it well, it took 3 years to recover. There are other guys who asked me out but I fear commitment with a guy I do not have feelings for and I fear to be with a guy who is really active as it scares me. That Cancer guy is kind of passive and that's what attracts me as he doesn't push things and he is just waiting and doing nothing. But that might mean he is not interested I do not know, and me being
also really passive I do not know if something might ever come out of it.

I really like to think I have a chance with that Cancer guy but I am not sure if I really do. He is helpful and he is always kind to me, sometimes he jokes a little bit with me too, other times he jokes openly with his friends in front of me but I am not sure if that means something. Sometimes we smile to each other, other times I smile to him and he looks me serious. He is really cute as I have feeling now he knows I pay more attention to him and he just waits to see what would I say or would I talk to him. I really hope to become friends with him but I am so afraid not to scare him or not to annoy him and I want to be always understandable to his mood swings. When he is in a good mood, so am I, if he is in a bad mood I feel moody around him too. I also do not want to embarrass him or myself with something so it is really delicate but I also do not want to take forever and if he finds a girlfriend one day and I miss an opportunity if there is any at
all, I might feel sad but of course I would wish him all the best. Any insight would be appreciated. Thanks for the attention.

posted January 17, 2011 04:27 PM            

So uhm.. I'm young and not at all experienced, but I think first of all you should try to see if he shows any interest in you. Watch his body language, his eyes, his language. Does he ever make the first move? Does he take action? Try to detach yourself also, because you may be projecting onto him. Try to see reality, and not what you would like to see. Be rational. It may be hard to focus on such things when feelings arouse, but it's always better to see the truth instead of some illusion.

posted January 17, 2011 04:53 PM            

Thanks for the kind and objective answer. I guess you might be right I need to examine his body language further but it is a little bit confusing and I am not sure as sometimes he smiles at me and feels a bit worried when I am worried for addressing him, other times he is really confident and then we could joke a little. His birthday is 25 June and mine is 26 Àpril. I am 27 and he is like 2 years younger than me.

I know I shouldn't have illusions and things like that but I really like him and I want to make sure I can at least be his friend because he is someone I like to have in my life, even it would be just friendship. I like him because in the past when I liked other guys I always felt sad and really unable to communicate with them as I am shy, and I have never felt happy especially when I was friend with a Scorpio guy for 3 years who I really had strong feelings for and now it is all so different because I feel happy when that Cancer guy smiles at me or pays attention to me.

posted January 17, 2011 05:12 PM            

I see you are a bit new to astrology aren't you?

Ok so here's the thing, you need to have both birthdays, birth times and birth places for you and the guy, so that we can make a comparison between your charts. That's what we call "synastry". It is a much more detailed method, it can give a lot of information.

So, first, what's your birthday, birth time and birth place? Then it would be good to AT LEAST have his exact birthday.

But geez, why a Cancer?? they are sooooo changing, moody, and..and.. sweet! LOL (yes, I'm in love with a Cancer too. It's complicated, too.)

posted January 17, 2011 06:45 PM            

Yeah I am kind of new to astrology. I will tell you my details as well as his but probably I would delete it in a couple of days later as I am worried someone to find out that I am revealing personal information on here. Although I am really interested to see what is the forecast for me and him in an astrological aspect.

Thanks a lot for taking time in trying to tell me more about the astrological comparison of birth charts so kind of you

Hehe it is true Cancers are really changeable and their moods are constantly different but they are really sweet and cute and that's why we like them.

posted January 17, 2011 07:49 PM            

From what you've described, it sounds like he is definitely enjoying your attention, and that he is interested in you, at least a little bit for now. However, don't forget, you're a woman who needs a man to step up and make a move (at least that's what you sound like to me). Just accept this about yourself, and in a quiet way make sure you 'demand' it from guys. It'll save you a lot of this kind of emotional turmoil.

A lot of chicks don't know this about Cancer men, but they DO like to play the field a little bit. They're not just shooting to commit, they enjoy these little games and can drag them out for f***ing ages. He's gonna have to be 100% sure about you before he makes a move. And there isn't a whole heap you can do to speed that up except be yourself. If he doesn't like it, his loss, and you need to understand that making guys notice you rarely involve chasing them, as hard as it is to be around someone for whom you have feelings.

My advice would be, do detach a little and give him a chance to come after you. He's now grown used to your little questions and attention, so withdraw it for a bit. Take your power back, play with him, enjoy it. He might act like he's not doing anything for a while, but if he really is interested, you'll find out this way - he'll come back and talk to you, might ask you if 'you're ok', etc, he'll smell something's up. Might take a while for him to catch onto this, but be patient.

If he does NOTHING, then sad as it is, that will tell you whether he was interested or not. And this is what you need to know anyway. Don't think you could have influenced it if you'd stuck with it, you just don't know that, and it's not right anyway to be trying so damn hard. A beautiful Taurus woman should most definitely have her share of suitors.

posted January 17, 2011 09:50 PM            

Thanks a lot for the kind analysing of my descriptions. I would accept your advice and try to detach a little bit myself for a while and see what would happen. I definitely agree it is important to demand the man to make the first move if that can happen would be really much easier for me just to agree instead of trying to figure out how me to be the one in change which seems so not intrinsic to my personality. That is also true that Cancer guys like to play the filed and can play games like for a really long time but I am arlight with it as I do not like to force things neither and I enjoy that as long as I need as you say to make sure it is mutual. I agree it shouldn't be like trying so hard but I just feel like I would like to know that young man further and I am ready to give my best if I have a chance to achieve it.

posted January 17, 2011 09:55 PM            

The way that I see it, you have already given him MORE THAN ENOUGH indication of your feelings. You've still ended up unsure of how he feels. Hence, you've done all you can, short of telling him. Now it's up to him to reciprocate, and you'll just have to change your strategy and be prepared to find out if he'll chase you back or not.

posted January 18, 2011 05:37 AM            

Judging from your description of the situation I think it's really absolutely impossible to tell whether this guy likes you, but is super passive or is just professionally friendly. There really isn't enough 'evidence' either way. Also, we are listening to the story from your point of view, so you could read too much into every smile that's just meant to be professional encouragement. But at the same time, you could also be much too critical and may think you have been very clear in your interest, but really haven't.... Bottom line, as someone else has already mentioned, your best bet is to stop all these little professional enquiry missions and see whether he is active himself! However, if an opportunity presents itself where you could move all this professional talk to a more personal chat level I think you should still use it and see how he reacts (e.g. do you have a canteen where you could accidently happen to have lunch together?)

posted January 18, 2011 12:53 PM            

Thanks for the birth info.

So what I see first in the chart comparison is that his Venus in Taurus falls in your 8th house, and conjuncts your Mars, Mercury and Chiron. This means he affects you deeply, arouses intense feelings, and creates great attraction. Usually when someone's Venus touches someone else's planet, the Venus person likes that part of the other person. SO I would SUPPOSE that he may like you, quite a lot. You are very venusian because you have a Libra Moon and ASC and a stellium in Taurus.. I bet his Venus in Taurus likes that.
Now YOUR Venus conjuncts his Chiron, too, and opposes his Neptune. BE CAREFUL. Venus in hard aspect to Neptune often suggests a very idealized view of the other person, and you may end up very disappointed. Chiron can be hard too, it can create very hurt feelings, and combined with Venus, hurt feelings because of love. He must appear a bit confusing to you, and you certainly see him through rose-colored glasses.
So be very careful ! He may feel something for you, but you have to try and be as realistic as possible. Your Moon also conjuncts his Pluto. Intense aspect which can create obsessiveness, possessiveness, and power struggles, fear of losing control. He has the upper hand. Try to not be too influenced by him and what he says/does.

posted January 18, 2011 04:21 PM            

I will listen to all your advices. As Moons Of Jupiter and annaf suggest I will give some time without asking professionally related questions at work to see if that boy would come to talk to me for something. And catch an opportunity if any for a conversation not related to work. Thanks a lot for the useful insights and analysis.

RunAroundScreaming it is really useful to hear something from a Cancerian point of view and that helps me to understand how the boy I like behaves better. I will also listen to your kind advices and I would laugh at his jokes, I actually do laugh at them sometimes, as some of them are funny but other times when I am afraid the joke is a little bit rude, then I do not laugh as I do not like to offend someone. I would try my best to show that I would not hurt him about anything if he decides one day to tell me something. I will take the lead maybe again but first as Moons Of Jupiter and annaf suggest I would give some time and see if he would come to me for something. If he does I will initiate conversations with him again and would try to joke sometimes too and make him feel I like to be around him.

And least but definitely not last Doux Rêve you seem very professional in interpreting charts, thanks a lot for the time and the attention, it is highly appreciated and it helps me a lot. I will really consider all that you say and be careful not to be the one end up being hurt and to avoid that I would try to be more objective and not always see him through rose-colored glasses as I actually do and it is amazing you know that by our birth details. I hope it is also true that when his Venus touches my planet there's a chance that he likes me back but all that you have told me would make me be careful not someone of us to end up feeling hurt. Thanks a lot, you are really kind and very helpful person and I wish you the best with your Cancer boy, I am sure he is a lucky dude to know you!

posted January 18, 2011 05:10 PM            

I wish YOU the best with your guy ! There is some potential, trust me ! Don't worry too much okay? Everything will be just fine, I'm sure

Here is a very good site, if you want to learn more about astrology and how it works: http://www.bobmarksastrologer.com/TOClessons.htm