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Topic: Aquarius Moons... need advice
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paikchris
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posted February 11, 2011 03:42 AM
  
Currently dating a girl with a Taurus Sun and Aquarius Moon. I am a Libra with my moon in Scorpio.We tend to get in these arguments which I realize now are about my need for compromise and her unwillingness to do so. Go figure. But I've accepted that part of her as who she is. The issue comes from our moons or perhaps also my venus in scorpio. When we have a fight I have this need to talk it out and make sure everything is fine and dandy. If i accidentally hurt her I want to know that she's not hurting inside. The times i do hurt her.... she clams up and refuses to communicate with me. I have a hard time understanding this. I know for this relationship to work i need to give her space during these times. And I am getting better at it. I just wish i understood what's going on inside her mind. Any Aquarian Moon's able to offer insight? IP: Logged |
stormyvirgo
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posted February 11, 2011 06:01 AM
Hi paikchris...are you sure that it's her Aquarius moon that is the crux of your problems? What is her Mars and rising sign? Sounds like she might have a Cancer influence prominent in her chart.I am also an Aquarius moon and I definitely don't clam up during a fight or when someone says something hurtful to me (quite the opposite) but then again my Mars is in Leo so... Maybe post her natal chart if you can. I'm not sure I can help (since I'm fairly new to astrology) but I'm sure someone else can chime in with some wisdom :-) IP: Logged |
dysfunctionalmystic
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posted February 11, 2011 07:01 AM
The problem may be that she is not ready to talk when you are? Or maybe you're going on too much when she feels there's nothing more to discuss? When people clam up it's often because they feel something is being extracted they don't want to part with... You say you're getting in the arguments because of your need to compromise and her unwillingness to do so, this suggests that she may have a stronger fixed mentality whereas you're more fluid. Some people are unwilling to compromise on things that are important to them. Maybe you need to stop trying to understand what's going on in her mind? Boundary issues? She's too rigid and maybe you're too invasive? Mercury - communication saturn and chiron for boundaries IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
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posted February 11, 2011 01:29 PM
I am a Aqua moon and well I am like her as well. I don't really see it as claming up but more so about processing our feelings. Also if your being emotional and blabbing on I just shut it down and don't say another word until I get ready to..Maybe you should try a more calmer approach. But any way you guys have some major squares there between your sun and moon. So arguments are gonna happen re: IP: Logged |
TrueTaurus
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Registered: Nov 2010
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posted February 11, 2011 02:20 PM
That's a tough one. Aquas are generally known to avoid emotional confrontation, and Scorpio is the exact opposite. On top of that she has her Taurus, opposite your Moon. I think her Sun/Moon pair makes her more standoffish and reticent. Communication is imperative in a relationship, and when Water is not getting emotional feedback, they feel lost.
I might be able to relate a little. My Sun is in Taurus, Moon in Scorpio, and Cancer Rising. My Mars is in Aquarius...Now, when I am angry, I become argumentative, it's squared my Moon.Both of you need harmony. Her Taurus/Aqua combo and your Libra sun suggest this, but Scorpio wants answers right away and we probe. Give her a day or two to think about your fight. This should help her rationalize what happened and be ready to talk about it. In the mean time, your Scorpio moon is going to have a difficulty allowing this, but be calm. Her unwillingness to compromise might be sign of immaturity, but that's just my opinion. IP: Logged |
JohnFKennedy
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posted February 11, 2011 04:51 PM
Her Cancer Rising/Taurus Sun/Aquarius Moon combination is probably one of the most stubborn you can think up - both Taurus and Aquarius being "fixed" signs, and Cancer being notorious for retreating within their shell, and only emerging on their own terms. My Scorpio ex I was telling you about had a very deep need to lay everything out on the table (because he loved me, Scorpios tend to not do this on a casual basis, as I'm sure you can relate to), as he trusted me and had a huge desire to want to make this work. This horrified me. Sure, I could talk about my feelings on a casual basis, because nothing was "at stake" here, but I think a big insecurity of hers is that due to the seriousness that you naturally exude, for her to lay her very precious and often hidden emotions on the table in the same vein as you do would be a death sentence to her. What if she does that and you don't understand? What if you break up with her? What if you think she's a grotesque person? These things horrify me at my Aquarius moon core. People often mistake the Aquarius moon for being cold and analytical. There is a huge level of analyzation that goes on - absolutely - but at the same time, that analyzation only comes from a place of great emotional upheaval. We have to always have the upper hand by understanding someone elses' psychology before they do so we don't get hurt in the end. If she comes from a Southern/East Asian background, you can magnify that feeling sevenfold. Being East Indian as I am, emotions were scorned in my household growing up. You were seen as stupid and irrational if you ever expressed yourself in that way, so it became a habit of me to "intellectualize" everything within me so my family couldn't hurt my feelings anymore, and so they could take me seriously. This was a very "Aqaurius" way to deal with that emotional abuse. So, if that was the case with her growing up as well, extra work would have to go on for your part to help draw her out of that hole. You can never pry anything from her, and that would definitely be the Cancer/Taurus aspect of her drawing back from you, despite her love. I wish I had more advice to give. The Aquarius moon is actually very hypersensitive. We just don't want to be seen that way at all. IP: Logged |
blonderiverkat
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posted February 11, 2011 05:15 PM
My bf has his Moon in Aquarius, and he is not one to talk about his feelings...much...we broke up a year ago for 3 months after a big, ugly fight...he 'ran' and 'hid', although he already had a huge wall up with me for the previous 6 months of our relationship...It was fear, I know now...and my Taurus Moon is a bit stubborn at times anyway too..heheLike JohnF said, Aquarian Moons 'hide' their true feelings, until they feel completely comfortable, and you can pry 'nothing' from them...Had I pressured him, we never would have reunited, so I let him be...we reunited last June, and have had 2 small arguments since.... My youngest son is a Cancer, and he has rarely expressed his emotional feelings...his dad passed on last June, and I had to encourage him to let those feelings out...he holds EVERYTHING in, always has...but the older he gets, the more he opens up...some anyway..lol My oldest son has Cancer rising, and very similar...I have my Mars in Cancer, and I am pretty bad as well...but I definitely believe maturity, and growth, have alot to do with it... My bf and I are both Libra Suns, within 2 degrees...my youngest is Libra Moon, and my oldest son has his South Node in Libra, and I feel it helps to balance us all out a bit... I hope this makes sense, it is so hard for me to respond at times without the posts right in front of me...I am old and blonde, so it poses a problem from time to time...hehe  Kat ------------------
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blonderiverkat
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posted February 11, 2011 05:19 PM
I also think the fact that my Venus, Merc and Neptune, conjunct his ASC, Venus and Neptune helps us out alot...we have the Moon square going on, as well as my Saturn EXACTLY squaring his Sun...they pose no problems for us whatsoever...Kat ------------------
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Lonake
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posted February 11, 2011 06:08 PM
Fixed sun & moon, omg,
I have Libra too and it doesn't get along with fixed just like you said, cos they will not budge.IP: Logged |
specialistangel
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posted February 13, 2011 09:44 AM
Aquarius moons are detached from their emotions, they don't feel all that much, it's not an emotional moon, like the water moons are. These moons need companionship, playtime and fun, like most other moons do, I suppose. How to get along with an Aquarius moon? I would say to appeal with their sense of weirdness, that should settle the issue of their needing to have companionship in their life. IP: Logged | |
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