posted February 13, 2011 11:47 PM            

However, he has a Capricorn stellium, so he's pretty elusive and I'm not REALLY sure how he feels about me. We don't really talk about it, nor do I mind, but I am beginning to get a little curious. I'm not really sure if I want to eventually be serious with him or not, which is why I'd love to know what you guys' input on our synastry is.

By no means am I making the decision on synastry alone, but I'd like to see where my mind goes after everything is said and done, so yeah. I haven't been in a relationship in a while and I'm not really in a rush.

posted February 14, 2011 01:12 AM            

Do you have the birth times right for both people?

Your Jupiter-Chiron conjunct his Moon-Chiron could make him feel a sense of optimism/healing/expansion in exactly the place he is emotionally tenderest. Also, your Sun near his IC, if his birth time is right, could make him feel like you are "family," one of his or an intimate part of his world. Moon-NN also increases the sense of importance in the connection.

Is his Mars trine your Venus, or is the orb too wide? Either way, those planets in fire should add sexual interest/spark.

Sun-Saturn (sorry if I'm using too-wide orbs, I have a lot of trouble reading charts without degrees) can be very challenging. Lots of people say Saturn aspects are binding, which is true, but it can also make the Sun person feel restricted, constrained, or judged by the Saturn person, and the Saturn person feel frustrated with, or disappointed by, the Sun person.

Can you post the degrees? I can't tell whether your Saturn is conjunct his Sun, opposite his Moon, or in too wide an orb. If you do have Sun-Saturn or Moon opp Saturn at less than a 6 degree orb, a pattern could develop where he feels hurt by your judgment.

Saturn-Neptune is also potentially really tough--Saturn frustrated by Neptune's dreaminess, Neptune feeling wounded or entrapped by Saturn, like a pinned butterfly.

Many long-term couples can work with those Saturn challenges...the Saturn person learns to let go, practice non-attachment, and be more loose-y goose-y. The Sun, Moon, or Neptune person contacted by the Saturn can learn to appreciate the discipline, direction, and sense of responsibility Saturn offers.

In the case of this relationship, it may be easier for him to deal with that because Saturn is the ruler of his Sun and Uranus, his chart ruler, is in Saturn-ruled Capricorn...he may appreciate the discipline of your Saturn energy. But you might still feel frustrated, finding yourself feeling disapproving of him or frustrated by him.

YOUR Sun and chart ruler (Mercury) are in Venus-ruled Taurus (unless it's a Gem Sun? lol, sorry I'm crap at reading charts, I always have to use the aspect lists with all the degrees spelled out, I'm not so visual.) You're less into that Saturn energy,and might not enjoy taking the Saturn role in some of your interactions, so when you start to feel Saturn-y and judgy with him, it could make you unhappy and uncomfortable.

posted February 14, 2011 02:09 AM            

Here's his natal:

Here's mine:

posted February 14, 2011 11:30 PM            

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Your Jupiter-Chiron conjunct his Moon-Chiron could make him feel a sense of optimism/healing/expansion in exactly the place he is emotionally tenderest. Also, your Sun near his IC, if his birth time is right, could make him feel like you are "family," one of his or an intimate part of his world. Moon-NN also increases the sense of importance in the connection.

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That makes a lot of sense.. when we were talking a couple of day ago, he did make mention of the fact that despite the fact we're both notoriously private people, it's almost bizarre how easy it is for us to open up to each other. Thank you Lucia! That's definitely given me a lot of perspective

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Where's Mars at?

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