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Topic: Looking for some relationship advice... please help
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marinas
Newflake Posts: 6
From: Toronto
Registered: Mar 2011
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posted March 03, 2011 10:09 AM
  
It may seem silly and I I am not sure if it matters, but Do Taurus man like being chased or not? After how many days of not hearing back from him is is ok to send a message? Should I just wait and give him time to contact me first?IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
Knowflake Posts: 525
From: Betty Boop Land
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted March 03, 2011 07:11 PM
I think it would be both nice and perfectly normal (maybe even expected) for you to send a txt saying - "good luck on your business trip" - or something along those lines.He has been romantic and friendly towards you. Judging by your story on the other thread you haven't reciprocated much... and I'm not sure that's the best idea. There is a difference between chasing him/showing too much interest ---- and simply being friendly/caring.
You have to say "I give a damn about you"- at least a little bit. Otherwise he'll form the impression you are completely disinterested.
Being a little hard to get can be a turn on..
But being cold and entirely disinterested -- is a put off imo, especially for a Taurus man (a Venusian sign). IP: Logged |
marinas
Newflake Posts: 6
From: Toronto
Registered: Mar 2011
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posted March 03, 2011 07:20 PM
Hi Betty, yes, you are absolutely right. I was going to send him txt tomorrow wishim him goodluck and things like that. I am debating if I should txt him tonight as well. Should I? Once again, thank you for your insight and reply.IP: Logged |
Lucia23
Knowflake Posts: 2274
From:
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 03, 2011 07:21 PM
His sign notwithstanding, I think it's a bad sign about him as a love prospect if he's waiting long enough to get in touch with you that it's making you feel this insecure. Men of the 12 signs know that after a date, if we like them we're waiting to hear from him. He might be very interested in you, but busy and distracted...which for some women would be a bad sign (for me, because I'm a Leo and I need lots of attention, the right guy for me will be dying to see me all the time! Whereas my Capricorn/Aqua friend likes lots of space.) He might have a different time-scale than you, wanting to just "date" every couple of weeks rather than getting into a relationship. I would just leave it. You haven't rejected him or put him off. He knows the next step would be to contact you and tell you he wants to see you again. Betty Boop's advice would be fine too...if it's driving you crazy, I think it's fine to send a little innocuous text. But ultimately, with a guy who's a good match you won't be needing to post on internet sites for advice. IP: Logged |
Lucia23
Knowflake Posts: 2274
From:
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 03, 2011 07:26 PM
Another (more important) thought: Do what feels natural to you!! That sounds like a platitude, but a guy who's a good match for you will respond positively to the behavior that makes YOU feel comfortable. IP: Logged |
EverEvolvingSpirit
Knowflake Posts: 428
From: A Place of Pure Love <3
Registered: Feb 2011
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posted March 03, 2011 07:28 PM
I'd also text "good luck on business trip" just so he knew you were thinking about him, but that's it. Give him a little while, it sounds like he likes you too. I understand it can feel scary after three years kinda feels like you have to learn the ropes again  IP: Logged |
marinas
Newflake Posts: 6
From: Toronto
Registered: Mar 2011
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posted March 03, 2011 07:29 PM
Hi Lucia, he didn't exactly ignore me. On friday he txt me first and on sat. he called me and we agreed to meet on sunday. Our date lasted about 7 hours, it was fantastic. He even offered me a ride home since I don't drive. The same evening he txt me saying he had fun, and he hopes I had fun too. He did txt me on monday and tuesday and of course I replied. I didn't hear from him yesterday and I didn't hear from him today. Tomorrow he is leaving on business trip for 2 weeks and I was going to txt him and wish him goodluck. Should I txt or call him today?IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
Knowflake Posts: 525
From: Betty Boop Land
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted March 03, 2011 07:41 PM
It depends on what you want.I am not a Leo and have no Leo in my chart so I may be a fish out of water trying to give you advice. Personally, I think it is a high and impossible expectation to want a man to put his life, his work, his friends and family and everything else on -hold- for you. I guess the Capricorn in me couldn't have such an expectation. I think it's normal to date every couple of weeks. I don't find it strange - That can progress into something deeper as time goes on, if it's meant to be. In similarity to Capricorn, Taurus is a patient sign. My Venus is in Taurus so I can relate to this. I'd prefer to take things slowly. If you would prefer to be with someone more passionate and have things move at a faster pace -- then maybe he is not the right guy for you.. maybe he is too earthy. About the message - I would only message him - "good luck etc.." tomorrow. I think he will contact you and ask you out again - when he gets back from this trip.
For the record, I would personally find this behaviour normal.. I wouldn't expect anything else from any guy, nor would I have the time myself to see someone daily or weekly - necessarily. It depends on how much work and uni I have that particular week.
Perhaps he just has a busy life ^ But again, if you feel as though this is not *good enough* for you - as Lucia said... you can always forget him and move right along. You shouldn't settle for a situation that makes you feel unhappy. IP: Logged |
Lucia23
Knowflake Posts: 2274
From:
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 03, 2011 08:02 PM
Wait, where did I say that?? I meant, you have to make sure he's a good MATCH...that you two "fit" in terms of the amount of time you want to spend together, the things that make each of you feel comfortable and happy, etc... So do something that makes you feel comfortable and happy! I was thinking, there must be something about him or this relationship to make you feel insecure enough about not getting a text back for a day or so that you'd need to ask others for advice. But maybe it's just that it's new? IP: Logged |
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