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posted March 11, 2011 04:29 AM            

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I'm attracted to this guy for two years now. Although many-a-times he gave me an impression that he liked me, he has never been clear about it. I don't think that he is into me anymore. However, I've not been able to have another relationship, as I still have tender feelings for him.

Dear fellow astrology enthusiasts, I'm posting my birth chart below. Please try to take a look at it and tell me whether it is affinity or delusion.

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posted March 11, 2011 06:30 AM            

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Can anybody please try to interpret our synastry chart, as it is agonizing my heart a lot. I'm beginning to feel that my love life would go nowhere. Please help me.

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posted March 11, 2011 06:30 AM            

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Hi!

Speaking from experience, the best thing you can do at this point is to avoid any contact with him and just go on with your life. You need to get him out of your mind completely, so you can focus on yourself and your needs. If he cares about you, he will contact you, and if he not, then you both got your answer and the chance to move on.
Its not easy at the beggining, but it worths!

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posted March 11, 2011 06:52 AM            

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Hi DreamyGirl,

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posted March 11, 2011 06:53 AM            

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Hi DreamyGirl,

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posted March 11, 2011 06:56 AM            

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I'm attracted to this guy for two years now. Although many-a-times he gave me an impression that he liked me, he has never been clear about it. I don't think that he is into me anymore. However, I've not been able to have another relationship, as I still have tender feelings for him.

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The answer is always in the question (and this applies to almost ALL threads in this forum).

We can't attract a new (or proper) relationship as long as we are pining for someone who doesn't reciprocate our feelings. It's like telling the universe that there is no "vacancy". The solution is to announce that there is a vacant position. And the right candidate will appear. It could be the same exact person or a completely new one. But this won't happen unless you eject/evict (for incompetence) the person currently holding the position.

You have to be firm about what you want in a relationship before you can have that relationship. If you are confused or ambivalent about what you want, then all you will get is confusion and ambivalence... like what you are getting now.

So you have to decide if he is fulfilling your needs. If not, then give him the boot. And start from scratch. Decide what you want and stick to it.

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posted March 11, 2011 07:16 AM            

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Hi Deux*Antares,

Thanks a lot for your answer!

Read it many times, will read it again and again until my heart fully understands it. It totally made sense. I'll try to vacate him from my heart no matter what. All I was getting from this attachment was anguish and pain. But not anymore!

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posted March 11, 2011 07:37 AM            

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Enya, you can't make your heart change its mind right away. The best way to move on is to acknowledge that you love him and at the same time tell yourself that you need nothing in return from him. You just love him and you want him to find his happiness... as you do things that make you happy. True love is when you can send the other person vibes of blessings and happiness whether they are in your life or not. So, decide that you will be happy whether he is with you or not. Everytime you think of him say silently "Peace be with you. God bless you wherever you are." or something similar and then go distract yourself. Trust me, this works.

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posted March 11, 2011 08:12 AM            

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Thanks once again

Don't want to sound know-it-all but I already feel that way about him. May god always be with him! And after a personal struggle for more than a year, I want nothing in return from him. However, occasionally, like it happened yesterday, a few things remind me strongly of him - at the same time making me aware that I have never felt this way about anyone before and there is a possibility that the trend would continue. I feel restless only once in a blue moon but those instances take me in a deep emotional pit. But I'm trying to deal with it.

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posted March 11, 2011 08:32 AM            

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Saturn conjunction Saturn: you are the same age or what?

Why don't you post your Natal Chart or better: Synastry Chart between you and him? Aspects are half important, the other half are planets in the houses.

Bobbie

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posted March 11, 2011 08:57 AM            

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Hi bonadea33,

Yes we are same age. Here is my chart

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posted March 11, 2011 09:20 AM            

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Please tell me.

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posted March 11, 2011 09:21 AM            

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Please.

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posted March 11, 2011 12:49 PM            

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HI,

Have you posted a synastry chart, I can't see anything?

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posted March 12, 2011 04:36 AM            

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yes annaf, There are also venus/pluto and moon/neptune connections.

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