amysue38
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posted March 21, 2011 01:44 PM
  
I am a Libra--if anyone has advice or perspective about my recent relationship with a Virgo man (DOB Aug. 24) I would really appreciate it. I am absolutely heart broken and having trouble processing this whole thing. Here's the story: I met "Mike" online in December. He has a high pressure job, 36, divorced (she cheated), no children. We instantly hit it off and began texting and calling each other constantly. He even e-mailed me on a vacation he took shortly after we started communicating. I maintained my distance at first, due to concerns over his divorce (only less than a year ago). Still, we began going on dates and were out late every time just talking, laughing, etc...I had not met anyone in a long time who I got along with so well, like we had known each other for years. There were no issues, arguments, drama, etc...just good times. We had some scheduling problems because he has a complicated work schedule and we live two hours from each other, but both of us were dealing with it. He was as into the relationship as I was and I gradually let my guard down. In fact, he would joke about me kicking him to the curb. We went out about seven times through February and the last time we went out we had a great dinner. He told me how much he liked me and things were going in the right direction. We joked about one of us moving in the future, who could change jobs, etc....So, he dropped me off at my house and drove home two hours. Something changed then....
The next day he described himself as having trouble letting go of some of the things we talked about, ex. distance, etc....We continued to talk the next day and he admitted he might have gotten "spooked". By the weekend we had a talk and he said he needed time to get things straight. Time by himself to figure things out. He said he had feelings for me and that he wasn't done for good, but wanted to put things on hold and come back to them when his head was right. So, I pushed through and kind of made him still talk to me through the next two weeks. Repeatedly he told me that he had feelings for me but couldn't give me what I want or deserve right now--a relationship. He said we have a future, just not right now. He texted me on Valentine's Day that he was thinking about me, we started talking again and made plans to see each other. He ended up legitimately having to work, but I was freaked out and texted him quite a bit about what his problem was, etc....I had been pushed to that because of all of the back and forth. My Virgo man then proceeded to basically stop texting me the following week and clearly pulled back from me. We finally talked a week later because I discovered new pictures on his online profile. He immediately responded to me and said that he put them up in case he wanted to reactivate his account in the "distant future". So he again reiterated the need for space and that he has not dealt with the issues stemming from his divorce. Didn't know he had them, now has to deal with them. Doesn't want to be in a relationship with anyone right now and did not want to take it to the next level with me (sex) when he wasn't 100% in it. Said he would text or call me at some point and did not tell me that it was over for good, though I tried to get him to say if it was. Said the old it's not you it's me line about how great I am and he would be lucky to be in a long term relationship with me if he were going to be in one. He said he would not say goodbye, but did say he would call me or text me. He told me not to wait for him because it was too much pressure. I vowed not to text, call or e-mail until I heard from him, to give him space.It has been three weeks with no contact and I have held to my promise, but I am eating myself up inside. I have some questions maybe you Virgo smart people can answer:
1. Is this common behavior for a Virgo? I have heard about them disappearing at times.
2. Do these men come back in situations like this or has the damage been done with the "drama" of texts, conversations, etc...?
3. What is with the pictures? I thought Virgo men were more one woman only. He has though maintained that this is not about finding someone else.
4. How do I handle this going forward? Do I have to wait for him to contact me? How can I get back to communicating without him running?
5. Is he just being kind and not letting me down hard, or when he says it really is him and not me, should he be believed? I am having such trouble understanding how things were so good and have come to this. The lack of ending to things is killing me as well as not having any contact with him at all. I am not a weak woman and have strong feelings for him. I don't know how long I can go without the answers I need to either move on with him or without. Sorry for the lengthy post, but it's complicated. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks
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